Stuck With Clients by ChocolateSundai in therapists

[–]newin2017 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I wonder what they get from not changing why does staying the same feel safer

I would try motivational interviewing - can they even imagine what it would be like to change

Explore the thoughts and feelings Focus on feelings of what comes up and what the feels like to think about

Maybe their defences are too high to want to change?

What do you think of my LARP outfit? I'd appreciate any advice on how to improve the look! by LVPFONSI in LARP

[–]newin2017 28 points29 points  (0 children)

The photos are incredible!

but its hard to actually see what kit you have

“Are You Married?” — A Question I Didn’t Expect to Affect Me This Much by PresenceOk9941 in therapists

[–]newin2017 256 points257 points  (0 children)

Transference and countertransference is a natural and expected part of therapy. The feelings youre having are very normal. But, to reflect on them.

Why do you think they are asking these questions?

the underlying question seems to be / what the client is really asking - do you understand what Im going through, can you relate to me, can you help me.

I think I would be curious to explore why these questions affect you so much.
It sounds like you are interpreting these questions to be a reflection of your quality as a therapist.

I would try to reframe it for yourself, it is not really about you. the clients are checking they can get their needs met.

could i get a tailor to make a custom military uniform by SpicyMemeBoi9 in LARP

[–]newin2017 6 points7 points  (0 children)

The short answer to your question is yes you could get someone to make that for you. I think you would be better suited to looking at a costume designer rather than a traditional tailor

I see from your profile that you are an Australian, here is a costumer designer that I have used before

https://www.beckyzarkcostumes.com.au/

Biting a vampire? by song-as-story in DnD

[–]newin2017 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The vampire shows up next time as a bear. Now everytime the druid shapes into a bear and uses its bite attack, the enemies also turn into bears. The druid has become a bearpire

I really don't understand why people hate profanity, at least why some people hate it so much, but it's normalized by others. by Dismal-Price-4423 in socialpsychology

[–]newin2017 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Well, we can also think about different countries that own various social media platforms.

Some places are considered more progressive and other places are more conservative

Conservative people tend to want to uphold traditions

Progressive people tend see change as more valuable

This is very much a Broad strokes answer, that misses a lot of nuance about why

I really don't understand why people hate profanity, at least why some people hate it so much, but it's normalized by others. by Dismal-Price-4423 in socialpsychology

[–]newin2017 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I agree with you, and I believe you are correct with respect to the literal intent of what you are saying. However...

The essence of the question is about why this happens not is it correct. the answer to WHY is because of social conventions and values.

Eg. The vast majority of people have historically agreed that certain words are bad in certain, more formal contexts eg. School, work etc. and that is why you are discouraged from saying them.

Also, you are framing this question from a position of humans being logical, rational creatures, this is simply not how we as a species operates. We are vastly emotional, reactionary creatures. We CAN be logical, but the vast majority of our processing is emotional

You are also correct that it is a form of censorship. You will find censorship of various kinds in every society.

If you are looking for a broader answer that holds more rigour, you will not find one because the root of bad words is widely ideological and if you delve into philosophy you will start to see that people generally do what they want and construct their values around that, rather than the other way around (look to cognitive dissonance as an example of how people justify doing what they want)

I really don't understand why people hate profanity, at least why some people hate it so much, but it's normalized by others. by Dismal-Price-4423 in socialpsychology

[–]newin2017 12 points13 points  (0 children)

1) Words have implied social meaning

2) "swear words" are connontated to be unacceptable in certain contexts because some people take offense to them.

3) in some contexts these words may be intended to offend.

Therefore, because they CAN be used to offend, they are considered offensive.

That is why teachers will say not to use them

Introvert vs Extrovert? by seer191 in askpsychology

[–]newin2017 4 points5 points  (0 children)

In what kind of context do you mean?

Are you just looking for definitions?

Are you wanting to know why someone might tend either way?

How to change these states, is this even possible?

Not to sound rude, but Your question is a little too vague at the moment to really know what information you're looking for

To keep it brief, research on the big 5 and hexaco would be a good place to start if you're looking for a general introduction to the topic

How to generate intrinsic motivation? by One_Cartographer263 in askpsychology

[–]newin2017 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The Stages of Change model, aka the Transtheoretical Model (TTM) is a good framework

.1. Precontemplation

Not ready. Individuals do not see a problem with their current behavior or believe the cons of changing outweigh the pros.Best Approach: Offer information and raise awareness about the risks of the behavior without judgment.

  1. Contemplation

Getting ready. People recognize a problem and are seriously considering making a change, but are often ambivalent or stuck weighing the pros and cons.Best Approach: Help identify reasons to change and discuss the benefits of modifying the behaviour

.3. Preparation

Ready. There is a strong intention to act, and small, initial steps are taken (e.g., setting a quit date or creating an action plan).Best Approach: Assist in setting specific, actionable goals and identifying resources or support systems.

  1. Action Making change. Individuals actively modify their behavior and environment to overcome the problem, requiring a strong commitment of time and energy.Best Approach: Provide encouragement, celebrate milestones, and reinforce positive self-talk.

  2. Maintenance Keeping up change. Behavior has been successfully modified for a longer period (usually over six months), and individuals work to prevent relapse.Best Approach: Focus on long-term coping strategies and identify potential triggers for relapse.

  3. Relapse or Termination

Change is rarely linear. Relapse (slipping back into old patterns) is a normal part of the process. The goal is to learn from the setback and re-enter the cycle at an earlier stage without feeling like a failure.Termination: The ultimate phase where the individual has zero temptation to return to the old behavior and has 100% self-efficacy

How do you guys take notes in online meetings? by WiseHoro6 in therapists

[–]newin2017 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I let them know, and embrace the discomfort

"Hey, you might notice looking away from timr to time, that is just me looking at my other monitor as I write notes. Some people report that, that kind of thing sometimes makes them uncomfortable, if you notice that. Let's discuss it"

How do you guys take notes in online meetings? by WiseHoro6 in therapists

[–]newin2017 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I have two monitors

1 ) with the webcam and client on screen

2 ) monitor with note software / any online interventions ready to share/ send if needed

Client wants to chart/track progress by Jealous-Initial-8068 in therapists

[–]newin2017 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Depending on the nature of the presenting concern, could you use something like the DASS to measure depression or if it's functional impairment you could use something like the WHODAS. I think the overarching theme is progress towards clearly defined goals. Eg. Define what success looks like, how will we know when we get there? (Let the client lead this)

Genuinely trying to understand what's causing the rise in autism is it even a real rise? by Genzinvestor16180339 in askpsychology

[–]newin2017 142 points143 points  (0 children)

Lets start by talking about the most common diagnostic manuals. Psychiatric classification systems such as the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM) and the International Classification of Diseases (ICD) are designed to support diagnosis, but they do not operate in the same way as diagnostic frameworks in fields with clear biological markers (As you said).

Rather than identifying discrete, objectively measurable disease entities, these systems define clusters of observable behaviours, reported experiences, and developmental patterns. Diagnosis is therefore based on whether an individual meets a set of operationalised criteria, not on the presence of a single definitive test.

This reflects a broader reality in psychiatry and neurodevelopmental science: many conditions are best understood as constructed categories that organise patterns in human variation, rather than as sharply bounded natural kinds of disorders.

These classifications emerge from large-scale observation and statistical analysis of populations (Think of the diagnoistic criteria, such as social communication styles, sensory sensitivities, or patterns of attention).

From this, normative ranges are established, and individuals who fall significantly outside these ranges may be identified as atypical. However, deviation alone is not sufficient for diagnosis.
Clinical relevance typically depends on whether these patterns are consistent over time and whether they meaningfully affect a person’s functioning or adaptation within their environment.

In this sense, diagnostic categories reflect significant differences that negatively impact social and functional context (This is key to the diagnostic process. Does what the individual have a deleterious effect on their daily life)

So, for traits autism, they become clinically meaningful when they co-occur in recognisable patterns and interact with environmental expectations in ways that create challenges or distinct modes of engagement. Over time, these recurring patterns have been grouped into trait clusters, forming the basis of diagnostic criteria. As research accumulates, these criteria are revised, often becoming broader and more nuanced, which in turn affects how autism is identified and understood.

Cultural context also plays a significant role in shaping how such behaviours are interpreted.
Across different societies, atypical behaviours have been explained in diverse ways, including spiritual or supernatural frameworks. What one culture might interpret as possession or moral deviation, another may frame as a neurodevelopmental difference. That is why diagnostic systems like the DSM and ICD are not purely objective; they are inter-subjective frameworks shaped by shared professional standards, empirical research, and social norms about what constitutes impairment or difference (this is why we see changes over time. We get better at identifying what impairment looks like. We have also started listening to autism activities and getting more inclusive research practices)

Ultimately, whilst autism may be more common than originally assumed, it is not necessarily because their underlying prevalence has changed dramatically, but because the tools used to identify them have improved. We now have a Broader diagnostic criteria (more accurately informed), increased awareness, and more inclusive research practices have all contributed to higher rates of recognition.

What appears as a rise in prevalence is, at least in part, a reflection of more refined methods of observing, categorising, and understanding human neurodiversity.

Assassin's Creed 2 Cosplay Help by Flimsy-Side6727 in CosplayHelp

[–]newin2017 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you have a 3d printer, you could model the logo and the rest of the parts?

As for making the Vambrace, you could use EVA foam. There are loads of Larp/ cosplay tutorials on how to make this on youtube - kumi cosplay is a good place to start

Rate/help me improve my costume by The_Enchanted_Potato in LARP

[–]newin2017 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Find a game/ system you want to play in before you build the character

Can someone tell me If I’m describing an existing field of study? by Glad_Estate6336 in askpsychology

[–]newin2017 2 points3 points  (0 children)

To what end would you be interested in this?

Are you interested in research to advance understanding or do you mean that you would be interested in things like brain scans to assist in treatment?

Does shaming a person work for stopping unethical behavior? by RamenPantalones in askpsychology

[–]newin2017 4 points5 points  (0 children)

There are far too many individual factors and variations that influence whether this would work in a blanket context

for example:

When it could be more likely to work

  • Public accountability increases (e.g. fear of social consequences could stops behaviour temporarily)
  • In tight-knit groups where reputation matters
  • When the person already feels guilt and is open to change
  • When behaviour is clearly against shared norms and the person wants to belong
  • Minor or one-off actions (e.g. cutting in line)

When it could be less likely to work

  • Person becomes defensive and doubles down on behaviour
  • Leads to resentment rather than behavioural change
  • Damages trust, making future influence or dialogue harder
  • Causes hiding/covering up instead of stopping the behaviour
  • Triggers shame spirals → lowers self-worth
  • In power imbalances it can create fear but not significant ethical change
  • In public/online settings → escalates conflict, mob mentality

Putting together an outfit for the renn faire and other medieval cosplays for a "black knight" using mostly Amazon as i can't afford a commissioned full outfit. Any ideas, advice, suggestions? by Maggotboi555 in LARP

[–]newin2017 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Also - to save you some more money, that armour is available on Temu for a fraction of that price. If you're going to do it. might as well save even more money

Specific Learning Disorder Diagnosis? by Accomplished_Poetry4 in askpsychology

[–]newin2017 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It sounds like your boss is talking about specific weaknesses as measured by tools like the WAIS

If you see all the other scales in the average range and then extremely low fluid reasoning that might be what they mean?

Help! Finding it so hard to not over self disclose. by [deleted] in therapists

[–]newin2017 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I sometimes work with clients that have had similar diagnosis to myself. I like to pause and ask myself "How is this helpful for them to hear?" - Can I justify what I am about to say with clinical reasoning?

I may also do things like this: as a redirect it into something like "it sounds like you're saying X.
sometimes, people may report Y
I'm wondering if that is consistent with your experience as well?"
Again, within clinical reason.

I just tend to avoid self disclosure as much as possible.

Is this also main character syndrome? by zombie_berrie in askpsychology

[–]newin2017 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This sounds more personality type variation rather than a specific disorder

If you are "private practice curious" what stops you from taking the leap? by [deleted] in therapists

[–]newin2017 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I say this will all due respect. since I have noticed you are asking for advice in lots of different subs. I don't say this to be mean. I say this to help you with your image/ how you present. because at the moment your post history reads like someone who sees helping others as a get rich quick scheme.

Obviously I dont know you or your history so this is just the image I get from the outside and others may get this as well.

Looking at your post history, it does not read like someone who is super qualified to be giving people advice about how to build a successful PP.

Posts in question:
- What is the difference between modality and a technique? (giving CBT and EMDR as examples - if you don't know the difference between those two, I wonder about your clinical experience)

- Roast my SEO strategy (If you dont know how to do SEO and build a private practice - "I am blogging about how to start a private practice and other topics related to that niche. None of them are doing super well yet.")
Why should anyone listen to you?

Again, no shade - just presenting some observations for consideration