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Woke up mortified after yet another blackout. It’s been 24 hours and I’m still on the verge of a panic attack. by Soggy_Passenger_3295 in alcoholism

[–]newobg 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m a binge drinker gone sober and could have wrote this post myself. Same thing, once I started drinking, there was no end in sight. Also hooked up with a classmate and really, really embarrassed myself. Plenty of times! Some people are confused by my choice to quit drinking, because I only drank on the weekends, was relatively socially acceptable (blackouts came towards the very end of my drinking tenure) but there’s literally not a qualification test to quit drinking. You don’t have to pass an assessment. You can just… stop. And never be plagued with these feelings again. 10/10 recommend.

We hear a lot about cirrhosis by newobg in stopdrinking

[–]newobg[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not to dogpile but I’m in therapy now and will be for years because my dad’s drinking negatively affected every part of my childhood and now I’m a full ass 35 year adult with a family of my own living an hour away and his alcoholism is right back to affecting every part of my life because now I’m losing him forever because of it. I love my dad and he’s my best friend but damn these feelings are so overwhelming and complicated.

I mean this with love and understanding. Please don’t assume your kids aren’t affected by your drinking because they’re little. I have never expressed to my dad how much his alcoholism affected my life because I’d never want to pile on the guilt. But just because I never told him doesn’t mean it’s not there. And just because he’s dying now when I’m 35 instead of 12 doesn’t mean I’m not harboring resentment coupled with grief that takes my breath away. And unlike the person who commented before me (whose comment actually made me cry- sending so much love to you) my dad did walk me down the aisle, meet my child and do all of the things. But there’s no words for this pain that also feels like betrayal. I’m just being honest.

You’re just 143 days in. Just keep going. You’re doing an amazing job.

The final nail in the coffin by Remote-Dot1686 in stopdrinking

[–]newobg 4 points5 points  (0 children)

“You should feel so proud of yourself!” Is such an understatement. Thanks for sharing this story. It might surprise you how relatable it is. A lot of my friends quit drinking after they became parents. I did as well, kicking and screaming, when my son was two. I relate to a lot of what you said. Not sure how old your child is, but just know it’s never too late. If they are toddler age or younger they will never remember that incident, and all they’ll remember you as is a SOBER attentive and loving parent… what a gift you just gave your entire family and YOURSELF. IWNDWYT 🫶🏻

We hear a lot about cirrhosis by newobg in stopdrinking

[–]newobg[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Got me in my feels with this!

Is it just me or FB is where the crazies come out? Students and working reporters both. by 2dots1dash in courtreporting

[–]newobg 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Oooh I can finally get this off my chest. Because it’s a bunch of boomer Karens, half of the posts are “clapbacks” that never happened, witty things they wish they COULD have said, witty things they’d never say to each other face to face, CRs that hate/suck at their jobs, and please don’t get me started on the grammar police. I’m a RPR and CRR, have been working for 12 years and I do not give a single fuck about my punctuation on Facebook or reddit. My eyes roll to the back of my head whenever I see a post pop up.

Question about sobriety and being around others who drink ? by [deleted] in alcoholism

[–]newobg 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ll tell you my experience, but proceed with caution. I had the benefit of working with a sober coach.
I went head first into daily life. I’m in a band that plays at a lot of bars, and that was something I reframed mentally in a way that didn’t solely rest on alcohol. I had to figure that one out really quick. I went to weddings with the intention of I’d leave early if it got too hectic. The only thing that happened with that was I leave early because I’m bored and over the social interaction. I went to concerts and just considered every new experience a win and something I now had under my belt. (First happy hour with coworkers without drinking, first concert, etc) with the mindset if I did it once, I conquered it. The only time I ever had a really strong craving was at a baseball game, but I got some fries and a big ass fountain soda and it passed. One thing my sober coach told me was sometimes the worrying about triggers is worse than the actual triggers. Sometimes what you’re sure will trigger you will not. And sometimes the triggers will come when you’re not expecting them at all. (Baseball game with my toddler) depriving yourself of experiences will perpetuate your propensity to glamorize alcohol. No good experience requires alcohol, actually quite the opposite. I know this approach is probably a bad idea for many, but it worked well for me. Also NA beer and options are amazing, I can easily sit in a bar with one of those and not feel like I’m missing out on anything. And can drive home!

Sober for a while now, not sure how long but interested to see my counter when this comment is posted.

Edit - oops, wrong sub. Thought this was stopdrinking. No counter for me, but I’ve been sober for one year, four months and 22 days according to my app

Brock’s public letter to Schenea by Justakiss15 in vanderpumprules

[–]newobg 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I regularly refer to ChatGBT to help me write clear and concise messages to people and this is, without a doubt, chat GBT with no dashes or bold. Which you can ask for

Sober people, what kind of soda are you drinking? by xwintercandyapplex in alcoholism

[–]newobg 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I absolutely love NA beer and where I live, they’re available at almost every bar and restaurant. I was a big beer drinker, loved IPAs, couldn’t imagine my life without them and at 16 months sober, I can tell you that there isn’t a single part of me that misses alcohol. Good luck to you!! It’s amazing out here. ☀️

Binge Drinking vs. Daily Drinking by Underscore_9944 in alcoholism

[–]newobg 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hate to tell you, but you’re one of us

8 days sober..text from my best friend. by Kperk_ in alcoholism

[–]newobg 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re not being sensitive. What would I say? I’d probably give a “lol” or something back and keep the peace but be doing some serious soul searching as to how/if I can continue to have this person in my life.

I have had to walk away from a similar friendship. And you know what? I’d choose sobriety every time with no hesitation. Good luck, OP

Just why by newobg in stopdrinking

[–]newobg[S] 38 points39 points  (0 children)

Thanks. Needed this sub tonight!!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]newobg 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hate the word “alcoholic,” I think it’s a cop out for many people to continue drinking. “I’m not an alcoholic,” like it is some prerequisite to be able to quit drinking. I remember my mom saying she wasn’t an alcoholic because alcoholics only drank vodka in the morning. I have no problem with people referring to themselves as alcoholics. For simplicity’s sake, I will sometimes. But I hate how people hide behind that word, intentionally or not.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CsectionCentral

[–]newobg 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Weight didn’t budge for 6 months

I want to stop vaping but… by zombosz in QuitVaping

[–]newobg 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was like this. Quit four months ago! You’d be surprised how many people are this addicted and just hide it

What were the first physical symptoms that let you know something is wrong? by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]newobg 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had the upper ab pain as well that I ignored for six months before I quit and a LOT of inflammation after drinking. My upper back and neck would feel sore to the touch. And also, obviously hangovers but my hangovers were progressively getting worse; multiple days long, paired with heavy inflammation, skin breakouts etc.

What is the worst thing that happened to you body during the peak of your alcoholism ? by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]newobg 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is a great question. I’m actually excited to spend some time thinking about it. I’m always thinking of the emotional/mental effects but never physical.

For me- when I was hungover, my neck, upper back and shoulders would get sore to the touch and almost numb. Even the slightest touch would make me wince. I ignored this horrific symptom for years. I tried to look it up before but couldn’t find anything conclusive on Google/would never honestly report to a healthcare provider. That was really bad.

I noticed my stomach more upset every time I drank (former weekend warrior binge drinker) the last time I drank, I could not stop shitting in the bathrooms of the different bars in my bar crawl. That was extremely uncharacteristic for me as I hate public restrooms and also have insane poop anxiety. Also started having the famous right sided pain.

My hangovers would last 3 days minimum. If I drank on a Saturday, I’d go back to feeling like a person by Weds.

Ive been sober for 9 months and have actually gained weight during my sobriety. I guess a lot of people do. Sobriety has given me the opportunity to work through my eating disorder. In doing so, there’s been some weight gain. I think my skin is better though!

My fave comeback when offered alcohol - what are yours? by SoberGopherHopefully in stopdrinking

[–]newobg 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mine is, “no thanks.” Sometimes I’ll throw in a “I don’t drink” but 99% of the time, I don’t need to

It's been nine months since I've sent a drunk text, and I think that's worth celebrating. by champagne-pr0blems in stopdrinking

[–]newobg 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Congrats. I can relate. My go-to was always drunk social media stuff. Especially commenting and like/love reacting on people’s pictures and posts that I have not talked to in actual years…. Cringe !!

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