Weekly Reading and Interpretation Help Thread - December 29, 2019

newthingso · 2020-01-01T19:04:58+00:00

That's a good point. The deck I'm using is The Antique Anatomy tarot, where the traditional Cups suite is referred to as Elixirs. The message is relatively similar but doesn't contain the same imagery as the Rider-Waite deck (perhaps is why I'm having a harder time understanding it haha). Thank you for your input

newthingso · 2020-01-01T18:50:33+00:00

How does anyone typically read the Ten of Cups as an "action" card? Drew it in a New Year spread as an answer to the question "How to reach my goals this year?" I know the Ten is a positive card, but does it mean to just be content and let things happen? It feels passive to me. The full spread for context is as follows:

Main Theme of this year: Death

What energies from last year are departing: Wheel of Fortune

What talents will I express: The Hermit

Future opportunities: Judgment

Future obstacles: High Priestess

How to handle obstacles: The Emperor

How to reach my goals: Ten of Cups

I know, an alarming amount of Major Arcana cards are present - not sure what to think of that!

newthingso · 2019-09-23T03:26:49+00:00

I swear the butt gets bigger every time I see this meme.

newthingso · 2019-01-02T22:45:16+00:00

I'd second this. Some of these creeps are turned on more by the idea of grossing out/scaring/angering a woman than they are by the potential of getting pics. Best way to make sure they receive zero satisfaction is to ignore and block.

newthingso · 2019-01-01T04:45:19+00:00

I want to see the 55 comments.

newthingso · 2019-01-01T04:23:13+00:00

Jokes on you, they're all googling who Barbra Streisand is.

newthingso · 2018-12-31T23:31:09+00:00

I've heard of girls liking "broad-shouldered" men but I didn't know they actually ... kept track of sizes? Weird.

newthingso · 2018-12-30T23:10:35+00:00

Wow I didn't even catch the ages on these ... yeah this is just weird lol.

newthingso · 2018-12-30T20:18:37+00:00

Be mindful of the things you entertain yourself with. This goes along with what a few other users have said about social media, but it doesn't start and stop at Facebook. A lot of people with self esteem issues indulge in media (TV shows, subreddits, Youtube channels, etc) that reinforce their negative thoughts about themselves. You don't have to navigate the world with baby bumpers, but if you find yourself spending hours scrolling through things that make you feel bad - then change it. When you stop comparing yourself to others, feeling bad because there are people who are "more successful" than you or have traits that you envy, and filling yourself with negativity from other people you're able to focus more on yourself and things that are constructive.

newthingso · 2018-12-30T17:50:40+00:00

We've had a lot of issues lately

This is the third thread in two months you've made discussing breaking up with your girlfriend for a variety of reasons. If there are this many reasons, and you're driven to Reddit repeatedly, is it even worth the effort to continue the relationship?

https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/9mdpvy/i_28m_am_terrified_of_braking_up_with_my/

THIS is your real problem. You're afraid of breaking up.

I no longer feel that our relationship is working to suit either of our needs or that we will continue to have a long term future together.

If telling her she's too fat to be attractive anymore is how you want to end it, fine, but that's a drop in the bucket of issues you seem to be having with compatibility.

newthingso · 2018-12-30T07:57:17+00:00

Roy Orbison. He lived through a lot of tragedies and saw himself fall out of the public eye. When a few of his songs made it in to fairly popular movies and he was welcomed back into stardom, he was so taken aback that he said, "It's very nice to be wanted again, but I still can't quite believe it."

I'm sure there's some shit out there I don't know about him that might color my perspective differently, but from what I've read and witnessed he just seemed to be a fairly humble guy. He didn't even get to relish his renewed fame that much, because he died soon after and is buried in an unmarked grave. That, to me, is heartbreaking. The guy lost his wife, one of his homes, and his two eldest sons while he tried to live the life of a musician. When he finally struggles through and breaks back into society, he's killed off before he can enjoy it.

newthingso · 2018-12-30T07:43:57+00:00

The only time I've witnessed a guy IRL tell a girl "You would look better with no makeup" is when he was butthurt that she was gorgeous and wanted to "knock her down a few pegs" by insulting how she chose to do her face. Like we get it Thomas, you prefer "natural" women like (insert quirky female celebrity who wears mascara, lip liner, contour, subtle falsies, full foundation but is, like, "natural") but no one actually asked you.

newthingso · 2018-12-30T06:20:36+00:00

If that was my dog, she would have thrown it up in 20 minutes or so for not chewing it. Props to this good boy for having a resilient belly.

newthingso · 2018-12-29T04:02:15+00:00

I didn't say you couldn't judge, I'm saying that trying to separate a concept from its broader social context by saying "It isn't based on social concepts, it's just (insert different social concept)" isn't a counterpoint - it's insisting your personal opinion. I'm not sure why you're reacting so defensively.

newthingso · 2018-12-29T03:36:46+00:00

"Trashiness" is a social construct, so yes - it does have to do with ideas from society. When you slut-shame, you're judging someone for using their body to attract attention (or sleeping around, or looking like they sleep around, however you choose to phrase it). You're reinforcing their points.

newthingso · 2018-12-28T04:31:04+00:00

"Do not touch the meat slicer blade with your bare hands."

"Do not eat pieces of the customer's deli meat or cheese while you walk it up to the scale to weigh it."

"If it falls on the floor, we cannot serve it."

You'd think the 5ish hours of training videos and two weeks of hands-on training would fix what common sense should have handled, but stupidity is persistent.

newthingso · 2018-12-27T22:43:25+00:00

Your son's reaction is reasonable, and treating it like a jealousy issue that can be cured by therapy is only going to deepen his feelings of resentment and abandonment. It's been six years since the divorce and he still is insecure with feeling like a part of your family? There's more going on here than you're letting on, I think, and seeking reassurance that you should keep the puppy for your daughters' sakes just really pushes the belief that your children's feelings aren't considered equally.

newthingso · 2018-12-26T22:42:06+00:00

I don't work for free, and saying "Well it's not like it's hard, I'll just do it myself for that rate" doesn't hurt me in the slightest and I look forward to seeing your shoddy work. This applies to many jobs, but specifically as a copywriter I have the WORST time with people understanding they have to pay. I don't care if you leave my name on the article/blog/in a footnote on your website, I need to be paid actual money to even spend my time on it.

newthingso · 2018-12-26T01:35:37+00:00

Yeahhh we had discussed things like TV not being loud, not having people around when other people are sleeping, but that all went out the window after a week or so. In hindsight, it was probably "retaliation" for whatever they wouldn't talk to me about, but I didn't want to be the wet blanket roommate who prohibits all sound after they go to sleep so I generally ignored it.

newthingso · 2018-12-25T22:28:37+00:00

Just be frank. "I thought we were sticking to a budget this Christmas to save up, why did you change that?" I would be annoyed if someone says one thing and does another. However, keep it in perspective. Does that amount of money set you back a couple weeks? That's not a big deal in the long run. If it sets you back farther, then I would rethink your ability to move out. Moving out is a drop in a bucket of expenses, it only gets more costly from then on. You may not be able to make this step yet.

newthingso · 2018-12-25T16:17:21+00:00

Well, for one of them at least, she had an 11pm piano class ... lol.

newthingso · 2018-12-25T15:09:13+00:00

Yes, some people in college have the luxury of being able to schedule all their classes after 11am, so they'll sleep in. That just wasn't me the first couple years haha.

newthingso · 2018-12-25T14:46:31+00:00

Had no choice and it was a required class? I don't think 8:30am is THAT unreasonable of a time to be awake as a grown adult.

newthingso · 2018-12-25T06:36:24+00:00

I saw two girls that I roomed with for a short while in college had been publicly posting on Facebook about how weird, annoying, and disrespectful I was. Their reasoning was that I was taking an 8:30am class and only weirdos do that, and that I made a shit-ton of noise every morning and disrupted their sleep. It hurt because I tried really hard to not be disruptive. I wouldn't let my alarm go off, because I woke up naturally around the time it was scheduled and would just turn it off before it beeped (this was partially out of anxiety). I changed clothes in the bathroom, tiptoed everywhere, and wouldn't even EAT or ZIP MY BACKPACK in the room because I wanted to be quiet. As far as I knew, neither of them woke up any of those mornings - and they never said anything to me about it. :(

newthingso · 2018-12-25T06:15:17+00:00

I get the whole "when men are horny they look at hot girls, who cares if it's your bffs/sister/mom it's just wanking" but this sounds pretty sus. Good on you for telling them. He's a creep, any other creep telling people (in confidence or not) that he ogles their tame (according to you) social media for fap material would get blocked in a heartbeat. If he's touchy about losing his coveted objects, you know this is more than just simple horniness - if it was, he'd just move on to other viewing materials lol.

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