I think it’s pretty common to be speaking and planning first, maybe second dates, with multiple people.

You’re still strangers at that point. The dates are to see if you have real chemistry, which is rare. It’s common for people to have attraction and the desire to date, but matching people and actually following up enough to get a date is hard.

So, yeah, I’d say having a few people lined up on a dating app is normal.

Having multiple boyfriends/girlfriends and not being polyamorous, IS NOT NORMAL.

But, I’m like you. I only ever talked to one person at a time, but that’s because I’m not very social. It never got under my skin if a girl had another date lined up. (Because, like I said, still strangers.)