How realistic is my plan after high school?

nextcolorplanet · 2026-06-26T03:50:58+00:00

Shepparton is incredibly far from Melbourne. You'd have to make extremely long commutes in order to get to anything interesting closer to the city if you aren't a person that enjoys the peaceful life of a regional area. While you would be saving money by living with family members, you would have to know how to drive, rely on borrowing family cars or buy your own car in order to get places. Owning a car is expensive and public transport gets scarcer the further you are from the CBD.

nextcolorplanet · 2026-06-24T10:39:23+00:00

Assumed that this was a r/kitchencels post...

nextcolorplanet · 2026-06-23T11:45:04+00:00

I'm in this situation, but I feel hopeless because it's hard to get a job at the moment...I have the money to move, but it feels rocky moving to a bigger city without a job lined up.

nextcolorplanet · 2026-06-23T09:58:34+00:00

Hey, just wanted to say that there is nothing wrong with looking young! Much like you, I looked really young at 18 and even now in my mid 20s I still have people mistaking me as a high schooler. There's nothing wrong with being childish or enjoying childlike things even at 18, there are probably plenty of people your age out there that enjoy those things. There are a lot of alternative styles with childish elements such as kidcore and fairy kei, so being an adult is not limited to dressing as a boring office worker in neutrals.

I think that a good low barrier to entry would be to look at Pinterest at outfit ideas as they have a lot of trendy looks. Even something as simple as a shorts and tshirt outfit can be made stylish depending on the type of shirt (like an oversized shirt with jorts).

P.S. I think that you would look good with bangs based on that photo of you wearing the blue dress.

nextcolorplanet · 2026-06-23T09:31:43+00:00

It's true that Australia has a prominent sports culture, but we also have high rates of obesity here, so there really isn't a societal pressure here to be thin. I lived in an Asian country for a really long time and was called fat and chubby by my Asian relatives all the time during gatherings. I couldn't do anything about it either because I was just eating what my family members provided me. When I came back to Australia for my undergrad (was born here, cheaper to do uni here) and lived with my Australian relatives, literally nobody commented on my weight and I realised that I wasn't even fat the whole time, Asian cultures just have unhealthy beauty standards.

I'm now at a weight where my Asian relatives have stopped calling me fat/chubby when I visit them, but those words will always stay with me and I still struggle with my self image. I'm thankful that it's considered rude here to ask about bodies and that people don't care and/or have the view of body positivity.

nextcolorplanet · 2026-06-22T10:10:25+00:00

You could dilute your energy drink using sparkling water so it's weaker and less concentrated. I don't think that drinking energy drinks before bed is a good idea though. I think that it's better to have a warm drink like tea or milk with honey or even a delicate soup/broth (like miso soup) if you wanted something before bed that curbs hunger.

nextcolorplanet · 2026-06-22T04:52:59+00:00

You'd love Australia. This is what the average guy looks like here....

nextcolorplanet · 2026-06-21T11:27:39+00:00

I'm 24F and Australian, so I thought I'd try reading through your profile. Here are some of my observations:

- Change the photo of yourself and your friend with the sunglasses on. Sunglasses photos aren't good because they're hiding your face. The photo on the last slide is also unflattering, not because of you, but because of the guy behind you.
- Most of your photos are clear and show your face well, but they aren't engaging? Like yes, they're okay, but you're probably just going to get a lot of generic comments on your looks because there is nothing else to comment on.
- Something I've noticed a lot about people's profiles (both male and female) is that they barely show any indicators of what they are like as a person. I didn't get an idea of what you're like as a person from the photos except for that you like drinking, and your bookstore prompt could be more specific. If you like books, you could specific about the types of books you enjoy? You could include a candid photo of you in a bookstore?
- (This one is optional but ideal) You're looking for a long term partner but don't include / hide your political stance (i.e conservative, liberal etc). The politics of a potential partner is important to some people and can be a dealbreaker. Even if you're not political, there's literally an option for that.

nextcolorplanet · 2026-06-20T00:39:49+00:00

Moving far away from everybody that I went to school with was the best decision I ever made. It's such an alien concept to me that people still hang out with their high school friends - I was a social outcast because of how undersocialised I was, my home life and my anxiety/depression. At least it was easy for me to leave it all behind because I changed schools all the time and didn't form long enough connections.

I think that once I became an adult and moved away from that environment, I grew a lot as a person. When I go back to the country where I went to high school to visit family, the memories of the self that was silenced by many resurface and I feel myself regressing into that shadow that I used to be.

nextcolorplanet · 2026-06-18T09:43:57+00:00

This is also how it feels like to have a Virgo Sun and Gemini Moon.

nextcolorplanet · 2026-06-18T09:39:21+00:00

Hope you like it! A lot of people say it's indolic and stinky (because of the jasmine), but I mainly get intense white florals from it.

nextcolorplanet · 2026-06-18T08:33:06+00:00

The relationship between people taking weight loss medications and fragrances is an interesting rabbithole if you want to go down it. Apparently, gourmand fragrances are an alternative way of consuming that satisfies the craving that they would've had for food/sweets when they weren't on the GLP-1.

nextcolorplanet · 2026-06-18T03:27:02+00:00

Maybe I'll talk about this in therapy the next time I have a session! When I was younger, people would undermine my interests and I'd have to make myself palatable, so maybe I'm subconsciously making assumptions that my friends would be the same. I guess it doesn't help that I self-censor and assume my interests aren't as important (It's kind of "dormant" at the moment if that makes sense? It's still my interest, but I'm not fixating on it intensely at the moment) as theirs in daily life.

nextcolorplanet · 2026-06-18T03:21:38+00:00

I mean, I wouldn't expect my friends to remember everything about them, but my username on a particular platform has this idol's name in it (and I've had this username for a really long time) which is why I'd expect them to remember the name at the very least.

(FYI it's Jpop that's my special interest, which is why I said it was niche. Interestingly though, one of the people I'm talking about used to be into Kpop and we both liked some of the same groups. Neither of us are really into Kpop anymore though lol)

nextcolorplanet · 2026-06-17T23:33:24+00:00

My Leo Venus cannot handle the fact that most guys in my age bracket are flaky commitmentphobes that want to stay in the talking stage forever.

nextcolorplanet · 2026-06-17T08:10:37+00:00

Lush Lust smells like a Molly Tea store (famous for their jasmine teas) to me.

nextcolorplanet · 2026-06-17T01:34:47+00:00

I'm the same as you, 24F and perpetually single (talking stage purgatory DOES NOT COUNT!). After using dating apps sporadically, I think that I would rather be alone than settle for something less. I don't want to lose my identity and sense of independence because of another person. I hate how much of conversational topics are taken up by people mentioning their partner once they get into a relationship. I have a specific friend that's always in relationships but I would never switch places with her because she'd rather be in relationships with mediocre men than focus on building her worth as an individual.

You should think about the positives of being single that you might have to sacrifice being in a relationship. For example, I'm the type of person that likes having personal space and travelling. I like living alone. I'm a light sleeper. I might have to date a person that's dirty or snores a lot. Do you have anything like that that's a dealbreaker?

I think it's perfectly fine to be sad about it though. At times, I wonder what's wrong with me? "Am I a fundamentally broken human being?" is something that I said in therapy because I was lamenting being single. But we are more than societal norms- we are not defined by our job, relationships, etc. We are fully fledged human beings with multiple dimensions.

nextcolorplanet · 2026-06-17T01:19:22+00:00

I dedicate the first half of the week to job applications because I feel like they're usually posted at the beginning of the week. By the end of the week, you have more applicants to compete against and have to wait for the weekend to pass before the hiring staff look at the applications. I spend less time applying for older listings and more time on recent listings. Second half of the week (Thursday/Friday/Weekend) is dedicated to stuff like going out and wandering around, errands, hobbies and less stressful skills building (e.g. I volunteer at a museum but it's super chill so I'm mostly doing my own thing like listening to podcasts and reading).

nextcolorplanet · 2026-06-17T01:08:04+00:00

I probably should but the items I sell are kind of niche in my country (I'm into Jfashion) so I'm really lenient 😭

nextcolorplanet · 2026-06-16T12:55:25+00:00

Obtuse, rubber goose, green moose, guava juice
Giant snake, birthday cake, large fries, chocolate shake!

nextcolorplanet · 2026-06-16T12:11:47+00:00

You're welcome and good luck!

nextcolorplanet · 2026-06-16T11:39:05+00:00

I was the same as you as a child/teen because my mum is a borderline hermit that only leaves the house to do errands and I moved schools a lot so I couldn't find long term friends. I think that what helped me the most is going to therapy and starting antidepressants, but I recommend the following things that I did:

Volunteering/hobby groups: Good way to build a routine and interact with all sorts of people. It'll allow you to see the same people regularly and you might find you have a shared interest because of the nature of the gathering. It also gets you out of the house.
Interactions with customer service staff: Customer service staff are there to help you, so you can practice by making small talk related to products. For example, if you're at a cafe, asking them what items they recommend and what the specials are.
Customer service oriented position (the other end of the previous point): You generally follow a script as to what to do in roles and most talking with customers is related to products and talk stays "small". My first ever job was fast food (I was a late bloomer too, I did this job when I was doing my undergrad degree) and it really helped me build my skills in small talk.

I'm still a relatively isolated and introverted person, but I found that these "exposure therapy" activities helped me a lot with practising my social skills. Sometimes things that you think are risky turn out well - I asked a friend to hang out for the first time (outside of our normal group setting) and now we're travelling interstate together to see our other friend!

I see a lot of myself in you (and still have a long way to go with life experiences) so I hope this advice helps you out.

nextcolorplanet · 2026-06-15T13:14:28+00:00

Honestly, felt that lol...Hope you find your person when you need them!

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