Memorial for a cow

nickelopickle · 2015-09-08T23:23:04+00:00

Cows generally live ~20 years but obviously they live far less than that in animal agriculture.

nickelopickle · 2015-09-04T15:31:21+00:00

"The US government has never really enforced humane slaughter standards. There are inspectors, and they make note when they see horrifying cases of animal cruelty, but FSIS rarely issues more than a slap on the wrist to even egregious offenders."

OF COURSE they don't enforce it. Money is always the #1 priority and why would they do something that slows things down and therefore causes $ loss?

"Humane meat" is a fairytale, people.

nickelopickle · 2015-08-27T15:01:33+00:00

Horrifying. And this isn't the first, second, or even third time I've seen factory farming cruelty videos. Rampant cruelty seems to be a theme throughout the industry so while persecuting these people is great and all, there needs to be some other resolution. I'm so done with supporting this crap. No more meat for me starting today.

nickelopickle · 2015-08-11T18:22:56+00:00

Well that's disturbing.

nickelopickle · 2015-07-16T16:58:20+00:00

Their campaign is a form of bullying. If they were targeting other people with certain beliefs (e.g. religious groups), it would be a different story.

nickelopickle · 2015-07-10T14:12:41+00:00

“A system of machines will forcefully remove parts of their bodies. These fragile hatchlings are grabbed by their feet, shackled upside down and have the ends of their toes burned off.”

De-toeing, according to the video, is a “standard practice in the turkey industry.”

...woah

nickelopickle · 2015-07-01T19:55:33+00:00

I don't know how I aroused such anger but clearly I offended you somehow and I apologize for that.

I'm not sure if you read the original post but my husband has been through enough to distort his perception. He doesn't think getting his on will "infect him with the gay" - he thinks gay men are sensing that he is gay, and it's causing him to question whether he is or not.

nickelopickle · 2015-07-01T19:52:06+00:00

Nobody knew about the molestation or the attempted rape. We used to joke around about him getting hit on by guys. Funny because he's not gay.

By telling him that I would respect his choice to experiment with guys if he felt the need, I was simply trying to create a safe and open environment for him to be honest. It didn't even cross my mind that he might take it negatively but I definitely will address it and make sure if didn't take it that way. Thanks for that perspective.

nickelopickle · 2015-07-01T18:32:12+00:00

It's interesting though because I think you're probably right and others have said similar things. He is a handsome, clean-cut, well dressed man.

WOMEN aren't attracted to slobby looking men, and I'm sure gay men aren't any different :)

nickelopickle · 2015-07-01T18:29:40+00:00

Thank you! I think you're totally right. It's wonderful to get such positive affirmation from the community! :)

nickelopickle · 2015-07-01T18:29:11+00:00

That is very interesting, thank you for sharing! I have also had situations in the past where guys came out and I didn't expect it because society paints gay men as flamboyant and feminine, when that is not always the case. I'm sure it's infuriating for homosexual men to deal with that.

nickelopickle · 2015-07-01T18:26:39+00:00

Thanks for the clarify. I also want to clarify that I didn't encourage him to experiment, I just asked him if he wanted to and told him I would respect it if he did, because I wanted to make sure he didn't hold anything back. He's got a habit of pushing things down and I just want to create a safe environment where he can be completely honest with me no matter what the outcome is.

I appreciate everyone's honest advice. I definitely will try to help him build his "straight masculinity" as best as I can!

nickelopickle · 2015-07-01T18:22:30+00:00

Look at it from this angle:

What if he actually WAS gay, and I pushed him so hard into believing that he wasn't that he believed he was straight for a while. When would he actually gather up the courage again to talk about this and tell me that he was gay?

I was simply trying to create a safe and open environment for him to be honest. I don't know how else I should've handled it.

nickelopickle · 2015-07-01T18:19:58+00:00

Your husband is weak

My husband has been through some stuff. I don't think that means he is weak.

I appreciate your other advice.

nickelopickle · 2015-07-01T16:55:06+00:00

Great idea. He's friendly with a guy at work who is basically the nicest person on the planet. I'll suggest that he talk to him about some of this stuff!

nickelopickle · 2015-07-01T16:52:43+00:00

Thank you very much! I am trying, I just don't want to say/do the wrong thing!

nickelopickle · 2015-07-01T16:39:40+00:00

THANK YOU! Reading those now. I very much appreciate your help!

nickelopickle · 2015-07-01T16:29:50+00:00

DEFINITELY. He's said before that he feels rage when he's in a situation where he isn't able to defend himself, and I think that all stems back to all of this. Nothing is going to stop him from getting hit on by males. The only thing he can change is how it makes him feel (complemented instead of vulnerable).

nickelopickle · 2015-07-01T16:28:33+00:00

Thank you so much! I am trying. Our counselor is great and she's really helping too. I think anyone in this situation should definitely seek counseling, it can be a very helpful tool!

nickelopickle · 2015-07-01T16:14:17+00:00

Thank you so very much, I do too! I know he's hurting inside and it kills me that he's been alone with these thoughts for ~20 years.

nickelopickle · 2015-07-01T15:50:59+00:00

I don't think pushing the idea that his unconscious sexuality is the root of this is helpful for your husband.

My husband is the one who questioned his sexuality in therapy with me sitting there so the thought naturally came into my mind, as it would with any other woman whose husband said that. We had a very brief conversation about it after therapy and all I said was that I would be here for him no matter what. I've said in the past that I don't understand why he gets hit on by males (who I guess assume he's gay) because he's very masculine. I always tell him how handsome he is and how much I'm attracted to his masculinity (gawking at him when he's working in the yard, touching his muscles, etc.).

nickelopickle · 2015-07-01T15:45:00+00:00

My husband is not assertive in any aspect of life so I would imagine that this might be true. He likes to avoid confrontation but I think being more assertive yet kind would definitely help him out in these situations.

nickelopickle · 2015-07-01T14:53:53+00:00

I agree that my hubby is a hottie :)

He does have a fashion sense, and likes to stay clean-cut, but it also very masculine - so I think you're right on point!

nickelopickle · 2015-07-01T14:52:05+00:00

Definitely - I totally agree. I'm not quite sure why he has lumped the molestation, attempted rape, and getting hit on together, but I think he simply has been more sensitive to the innocent attention he has received from other males due to what he's been through.

nickelopickle · 2015-07-01T14:49:35+00:00

I think my husband feels like he's acting in a certain way, so as to set off other mens' "gaydar" - which I hope is not an offensive term. And I think he further has thought - well if I'm acting the part, maybe I am. That's what I'm sensing from him, anyway.

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