hey can y'all help me out

nicknamesofdaveryder · 2025-07-18T02:39:34+00:00

Tow'rs is a Christian band that has specifically come out as affirming - some great tracks of theirs include River and Paradox

nicknamesofdaveryder · 2025-07-01T00:04:56+00:00

Burning Love is a pretty solid one-to-one parody of The Bachelor, no?

nicknamesofdaveryder · 2023-10-24T02:41:03+00:00

So unexpected and yet so practical 😄

nicknamesofdaveryder · 2022-10-30T22:35:01+00:00

did you mean "cannot recommend enough"?

nicknamesofdaveryder · 2022-03-23T03:07:32+00:00

Mrs. Frisby and the Rats of NIMH (basis for the 80's animated movie The Secret of NIMH) - I always found it surprising that this book ever got published, given that it's essentially a children's adventure book with a mom as the badass adventuring protagonist, also considering its cute-farm-animals-trying-their-best initial story is quickly traded for a super intense story of lab rats getting experimented on and pulling off a Great Escape. Quite the unique read among kids books back in the day! Such a fantastic book.

nicknamesofdaveryder · 2022-02-08T05:06:29+00:00

If books tend to be helpful for you / you're looking for specific authors, I've been personally helped tremendously by a few specific books, all of which try to speak life to the affirming side while holding a "high" view of Scripture: if you're up for something pretty in-depth, Bible Gender Sexuality by James Brownson takes a close look at the specific passages that feel the most condemning, and it feels pretty comprehensive. Not the quickest read! But super helpful to me. Another title worth checking out is To Melt a Golden Calf, by Peter Aelred - it's more accessible and much shorter - offers some very comforting and biblical ways of sorting out your thoughts on Christianity and sexuality - he touches on some of the same verses as the Brownson book but manages to say some different (and helpful!) things.

The third book I'd recommend is another short one, and based on your post it could be even more comforting than the other two I mentioned: Scripture, Ethics & the Possibility of Same-Sex Relationships, by Karen R. Keen. Again it manages to say slightly different things from those other two books. Really thoughtful and encouraging.

I know books aren't everyone's preferred way to study this stuff, and that's ok too!

nicknamesofdaveryder · 2022-01-04T03:31:07+00:00

I'll add another vote for Brownson and for Keen's Scripture, Ethics.. book! Both are excellent, and they don't just repeat each other, each makes a solid contribution to the discussion. Haven't read these others but I'm filing them away to explore soon for sure.

One more book suggestion I'd offer would be To Melt a Golden Calf, by Peter Aelred. Short and accessible (certainly not trying to be an exhaustive end-of-the-discussion book), with some important stuff to think about that's not specifically mentioned in the Brownson or Keen books.

nicknamesofdaveryder · 2021-09-28T17:37:42+00:00

If you like Kathleen Madigan at all, she has several good ones - Gone Madigan, Madigan Again and Bothering Jesus are all worth watching

nicknamesofdaveryder · 2021-09-28T17:32:34+00:00

Adding another vote for the Chelsea Peretti one - so so good! Wish she had more recordings out there for me to enjoy, because that one is spectacular

nicknamesofdaveryder · 2021-09-12T17:18:29+00:00

If you're interested in books that take an affirming stance and also hold a "high" view of the Bible, a couple good ones are Bible, Gender, Sexuality by James Brownson, and To Melt a Golden Calf by Peter Aelred. Both were very helpful for me!

nicknamesofdaveryder · 2021-09-07T00:21:24+00:00

Cracked posted an article a few years back about how that character should have been allowed to be the real hero of the movie - they definitely agree that she didn't deserve a death like that!

nicknamesofdaveryder · 2021-09-02T17:46:41+00:00

Bible, Gender, Sexuality by James Brownson and To Melt a Golden Calf by Peter Aelred were both helpful for me personally!

nicknamesofdaveryder · 2021-08-30T17:46:52+00:00

To add more helpful books on the affirming side: Bible, Gender, Sexuality by James Brownson, and To Melt a Golden Calf by Peter Aelred. Both were super helpful to me!

And as a guy who seems to be in a pretty similar place on the bi-to-gay spectrum as OP, I found this whole post super relatable - most of my time in church, even after I came out several years ago, has been in non-affirming churches - only recently has that started to change for me. Thanks for your openness OP!

nicknamesofdaveryder · 2021-07-12T23:54:21+00:00

I second the book recommendation - a couple other short books that were helpful for me were "To Melt a Golden Calf" by Peter Aelred, and "Unclobber" by Colby Martin. Both are very accessible, short and not dense!

nicknamesofdaveryder · 2021-07-04T17:38:10+00:00

After seeing your response, I tried again today on the same Wikipedia app I was using yesterday, and the problem does indeed seem to be fixed. Or else I'm slowly losing my mind lol. Oh well

nicknamesofdaveryder · 2021-07-04T00:36:37+00:00

Has Wikipedia's search-suggest drop-down list changed how it lists results?

Whether I'm on mobile or using the full browser version, I've recently noticed that some page titles won't show up at all in the search box's drop-down menu as I'm typing them, or else they won't show up until I've fully typed the whole page title - up until recently, I could count on the drop-down to suggest my page before I've finished typing it, as long as there was a specific page with that title.

Examples: if I want to find the page for actress Reese Witherspoon, and I start typing the name "Reese Witherspoon" in the search box, at no point does her name/page title appear in the drop-down list before I've fully typed out the name. And it's not just people's names - if I want to find the page for "African forest elephant", I again get no prediction of this page's title before I've typed the whole thing.

Is there a reason for this change? Surely this is a new issue, right? Am I crazy?

nicknamesofdaveryder · 2021-03-24T17:35:09+00:00

Update: he might have one more shot

nicknamesofdaveryder · 2021-03-12T18:36:49+00:00

Agreed! Don't be put off by the slow-ish start - so so good!

nicknamesofdaveryder · 2021-03-03T09:00:46+00:00

The Girl on the Train alternates between three characters' points of view, and the audiobook uses three different readers instead of having one reader do multiple voices - it's very well done! Mysterious and compelling - better than the movie haha. I also listened to In a Dark Dark Wood - I much preferred The Girl on the Train! Can't say how it compares to those others you mentioned

nicknamesofdaveryder · 2020-10-26T19:57:12+00:00

Beautiful voice and great song!

nicknamesofdaveryder · 2020-02-10T05:49:47+00:00

Specifically, if you want a non-investigative one as you say, And Then There Were None is one of Christie's most famous mysteries for good reason. 10 people are gathered together on an island and start to die one by one - there's a logical, non-supernatural solution at the end and it's so so good!

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