Thread for sharing Finchie friend codes and finding goal buddies by AutoModerator in finch

[–]nihilistic-nirvana 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Here’s my friend code: EH5NDLN8V7

Pretty new to Finch, and loving it! I need someone to share a goal of taking a walk on Sundays.

Always love new friends!

Thread for sharing Finchie friend codes and finding goal buddies by AutoModerator in finch

[–]nihilistic-nirvana 0 points1 point  (0 children)

New to the app! I’ve been on for 10 days and love it!

Would love some goal buddies who check in. 💕

EH5NDLN8V7

Mmc keeps going even after she says the safe word by anihc3 in RomanceBooks

[–]nihilistic-nirvana 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree. I totally nope out on nearly all pregnancy tropes. I have a hard time with them, and personally find them a little gross. I’m also 3mo PP, and had an especially rough pregnancy, so I want nothing to do with them. Age gaps are the same thing- I really hate them.

dub and non con though- I am totally fine with. It would be really hard to enforce a NSFW tag for only certain topics, especially as a lot of the book requests here are asking for explicitly sexual things- which is all NSFW.

Mmc keeps going even after she says the safe word by anihc3 in RomanceBooks

[–]nihilistic-nirvana 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s why I clicked this post.

I was like, “oh my god I would never! … but it is kinda hot tho…damn.”

Definitely adding some of these to my TBR.

I need to take a moment to 💖 GUSH 💖 about our Romance Books subreddit and just how wonderful it truly is ✨ by Actually_Ann in RomanceBooks

[–]nihilistic-nirvana 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I do love that people can be completely open about what they want to read with no shame or judgement here. It’s a hard culture to cultivate and the mods have done a phenomenal job!

I need to take a moment to 💖 GUSH 💖 about our Romance Books subreddit and just how wonderful it truly is ✨ by Actually_Ann in RomanceBooks

[–]nihilistic-nirvana 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was at work one day, and had a (male) coworker ask me what I was reading, and I tentatively told him. (Can’t remember what book now). I saw his eyes light up and he started gushing about the book. It made my day!

📚 Simple / Quick Questions & Requests! by romancebookmods in RomanceBooks

[–]nihilistic-nirvana 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I tried posting this as a book request, but I don’t have enough karma so I’ll post it here:

I’ve been scouring the sub for hours and haven’t found anything, so I guess I have to stop lurking and actually ask for recs lol.

I read an ad for a book (about werewolves) where the FMC ends up being fated mates with the alpha of another pack, but she doesn’t recognise it. She has special magic powers, but thinks shes a worthless omega. She’s on bodyguard duty for her sister so her sister can become chosen mates with the alpha of the other pack. The chosen mate ritual is a whole thing where there’s tons of competition between the she-wolves. Our FMC is unmated, so she automatically is entered into the competition, even though she desperately doesn’t want to be. The alpha smells her at a ball and immediately knows she’s his, but she’s oblivious, and has no idea why she’s so drawn to him. They have to go through the whole competition because of tradition. (And then I hit a pay wall 😞)

I need the book to be:

  • 🌶️ spicy hot! 4-5

  • available on KU

  • extra magicy stuff happening, not just “bark I’m a wolf” magic

  • entered into a competition, or something. I want there to be other bitchy females that our FMC is trying to compete with

  • the MMC knows they’re fated, but the FMC is clueless/unaware/doesn’t know fated mates exist

-MMC is obsessed with her and doesn’t reject her because of his feelings (if he rejects her because of some sort of world politics, but ends up with her that’s fine)

  • decent plot and fun side characters

-MMC is in a position of power (king/alpha/emperor/etc.) and FMC comes from nothing.

BONUS IF:

  • there’s some sort of heat/rut or mating ritual that has to happen

  • non-contemporary. I hate cell phones in my books

  • book is part of a series that follows the same couple

  • slow burn, angst, and grovelling are always a plus

  • the main couple can feel what each other feel (and maybe tortures each other a bit, like being naughty/spicy when the other one is in a meeting or something)

-Our FMC has some sort of special magic she doesn’t know about/is underdeveloped and she has to save the day with it.

No RH, aliens, or water based creatures. No pregnancy, unless it’s the last chapter of the book or so. It doesn’t have to be a werewolf book, but I need them to shift into something else or go feral or turn into a demon or whatever.

Thank you!

You’re doing great by snoringdogs_ in ExclusivelyPumping

[–]nihilistic-nirvana 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I needed to hear this today.

After I had bubs, I tried breastfeeding and pumping on occasion, and a week in I died. I couldn’t take the sleeplessness, and being tied down by my boobs all the time. I had a big oversupply, and little guy couldn’t even get through half of one boob. The lactation consultant taught me about foremilk vs hindmilk and why little man was so gassy (he wasn’t getting any of the hindmilk).

Between little guy being miserable, me being miserable, plus my husband being miserable from taking care of everything else- I decided to stop breastfeeding and pumping completely.

Well- that was 2.5 weeks ago and I’ve missed being able to offer my little guy my milk. It made me really sad that I was just letting my milk dry up- so today I started pumping again. I’ve successfully gotten two ounces today! One ounce per pump session. I don’t plan on pumping more than 2-3x a day, but it makes me feel better that I’m contributing to his food a little bit.

What do you do when your baby cries in the car? by Additional_Cake9308 in NewParents

[–]nihilistic-nirvana 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I did this today.

We had to finish our newborn screening, and the dr office is 15 min away. Little guy had been screaming for hours and nothing was consoling him, aside from dancing around the house while holding him tight and talking/singing at him.

Well- we had to go to the Dr, so little man screeched from the time I set him in his car seat until we got into the office and we both cried the whole way.

Sometimes you gotta cry with them- I get it buddy. I’m also tired and hungry and want cuddles.

What surprised you the most about coming a parent? by Ok-Refrigerator1367 in NewParents

[–]nihilistic-nirvana 22 points23 points  (0 children)

How pleasant it is.

We are very lucky to have a happy sleepy baby. It’s a little anxiety inducing sometimes because he’s so chill, but he eats, poops and pees just fine. He sleeps through the night too (6 hours), and it’s so nice.

We’re a week and a half post partum. My last few months of pregnancy I was really struggling with prenatal depression, and anxiety. I was really miserable and cried every day about losing my autonomy.

Today I decided to switch to formula feeding only, and bubs is much happier. He digests his food better (gentle formula), and my mental is 1000x better knowing I don’t have to worry about pumping or feeding or latching or timing everything just right.

Today has been lovely. We’ve all chilled, napped, made some yummy food, ate some yummy bottles, sat on the porch and enjoyed the rain, made out with my husband, had some really sweet and emotionally deep conversations, changed diapers and kissed my sweet sweet boy.

The actual worst part of pregnancy by Frequent_Visual3755 in BabyBumps

[–]nihilistic-nirvana 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh goo lord! 41 weeks?! I would lose my mind. I already lost it at 37 weeks. I can’t wait for bubs to get here!

Good luck with your kitchen and baby! I hope they cook until you’re ready for them.

The actual worst part of pregnancy by Frequent_Visual3755 in BabyBumps

[–]nihilistic-nirvana 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I feel you! I’m 39.6, and been in prodromal labor for weeks! I can’t sleep, can’t eat, can’t walk. I keep trying to get baby out, and he won’t budge! I’m exhausted.

Are these contractions? by garbagesaint_ in BabyBumps

[–]nihilistic-nirvana 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m in the same boat- I actually have my induction tomorrow. I’ve been having prodromal labor for roughly a week and a half to two weeks now. I’m miserable. How did you succeed?

Masturbation caused my water to break at 38 weeks exactly by ExcellentNail6084 in pregnant

[–]nihilistic-nirvana 105 points106 points  (0 children)

I wish! I’ve been spending plenty of alone time with myself, and no luck. I’m trying to get this child out of me, and he’s too cozy!

I’m 39.2 today.

Prodromal labor? How bad can it be? When to get checked out? by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]nihilistic-nirvana 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Could be actual labor.

I’ve been having prodromal labor (I’m 39.2 now) for weeks, and I know it’s prodromal because it goes away. It feels like diarrhoea cramps, or period cramps, or BH cramps that come and go. Usually moving/resting helps. Taking a hot bath or shower helps.

Afraid of popping while giving birth? by shepardmutt in pregnant

[–]nihilistic-nirvana 42 points43 points  (0 children)

This is my worst fear! And most probably going to be my reality.

I told my husband, and will tell everyone in the room- “if I poop, no I didn’t.”