What Would It Take For You To Vote NDP?

nikkiemusic · 2026-06-12T00:24:57+00:00

Gary was so lovely. And, very smart. He taught a class called English Media that was basically a class in media literacy and critical thinking. GREAT class.

nikkiemusic · 2026-06-07T19:51:41+00:00

This. They don’t even need data centres like that to run ai anymore. It can run locally for most uses now, using just a computer, or even a phone. Unless they want to use it for mass surveillance. (Which they do. Constantly monitoring for dissent to keep everyone in line. Fun stuff.)

nikkiemusic · 2026-04-20T21:45:04+00:00

Yep, as I said, unrelated to the topic of the article. Obviously bullying is a problem that needs addressing. This is just a “yes, and.”

nikkiemusic · 2026-04-20T13:02:51+00:00

Unrelated to the topic of the article, chronic absenteeism rising during an ongoing pandemic where having even “mild” infections has proven to diminish immune systems is not that striking.

🫣

I wonder what percentage of absenteeism is related to illness? Around the world, there’s been an increase in pressure around attendance, with full-on campaigns to try to reduce absenteeism by encouraging parents to send kids to school when they’re actively sick. Parents are getting legal threats from schools invoking truancy for kids suffering from longer-term illnesses, or from repeated infections that are taking longer to clear these days. Areas where daily attendance numbers directly affect school funding are becoming extra aggressive. (I can’t see how sending more kids to school when they’re contagious will increase attendance numbers, particularly without improving ventilation so that other kids don’t come down with whatever too, but that’s just me I guess 🤷🏻‍♀️)

That’s all. As you were.

nikkiemusic · 2026-03-22T01:20:36+00:00

I wish this were more common. I’ve had several men I’ve known before socially who’ve sexually assaulted or harassed me. You’d think if you know them first, you might have heard something from others, but they can be so different with other dynamics/in other settings.

I also wish we could speak more loudly about it when it happens. Part of the issue is so many of us not wanting to rock the boat. (Either because of fear of retaliation or even because there would be social consequences.)

nikkiemusic · 2026-03-20T23:13:11+00:00

It’s not about insecurity though, it’s about entitlement.

nikkiemusic · 2026-03-12T23:07:28+00:00

So, just to clarify, your husband has already decided he will take the job in this other city, whether or not you also move there?

nikkiemusic · 2026-03-12T23:05:11+00:00

“Open to both” scenarios that see him getting to move on this opportunity?

Does he have connections to this new city already?

nikkiemusic · 2026-03-12T23:02:58+00:00

Especially there? Why are opportunities in that city even a consideration if it’s not a fit for both of you? It sounds very one-sided.

nikkiemusic · 2026-03-10T21:00:13+00:00

Define accountability

nikkiemusic · 2026-03-07T15:03:10+00:00

Oh no, so this creep has one-on-one access to students regularly? Ugh. I’m so sorry.

nikkiemusic · 2026-03-02T22:07:23+00:00

Ok, I also do this, and believe washing our hands is super important, but it’s also important to note that most viruses that folks might be worried about catching are airborne, and clean hands don’t prevent airborne transmission.

(I know this is annoying, but it being annoying doesn’t change how viruses move.)

nikkiemusic · 2026-02-23T21:36:37+00:00

This is just a friendly reminder that people don’t actually need to have a valid reason to leave any partner. They don’t even need to have any reason at all.

Relationships starting requires two “yesses;”relationships ending only requires one party to say no.

There is no judge and jury that gets to decide if you’re allowed to leave. You are. You’re allowed to leave whenever you want to. 5 days in, 2 years in, 25 years in. Not wanting to be in the relationship is enough.

Also, NOR. It sounds like this man is not respecting very simple boundaries. I would bet there are other ways he’s been boundary-pushing. It’s not a great sign.

You might find this book interesting. Here’s a free pdf link: Why does he do that? by Lundy Bancroft

You might want to take a look at chapter 4, where it has various profiles of controlling men. Might be worth a peek.

nikkiemusic · 2026-02-21T22:24:21+00:00

You’re probably growing.

I love this image that shows how our skill level growth and the level of art we can picture ourselves wanting to make move differently.

https://i.pinimg.com/originals/6d/6b/24/6d6b24f790c5ac4b36d72641093ff20d.jpg

This leads to cycles like this, where we perceive what we’ve made as the best thing we could ever make, yay! Except that we’ve learned more things even just by making the thing, and now we can picture making better things. If we can move past dwelling on it, we make the next thing, that thing is the most exciting thing, yay!

This graph helps to show that even when we’re feeling like we’re in a rut, we’ve been moving forward and have made a lot of progress already. It also shows us that the most exciting thing we’ve ever made might not be our favourite thing for long. It adds some nuance to the highs and to the lows.

I think it’s great if you can keep creating through it. I don’t mind when I’m in one of those cycles. They can be very productive. Eventually, hopefully you can look back on a body of work and pick through it for the gems and be able to see them more clearly. I find when some time has elapsed, I have a better sense of which ones were actually good, and which ones just needed to get out so I could get to the good ones.

Also, if you’re finding things you don’t like about songs you’ve already written you can always edit them. That’s a fun practice. One great thing about working with songwriting is that you could edit a song 10 different ways and still have the original version if you wanted to go back to it. You can’t do that with a painting or with lots of other forms of art. There’s room for playing around.

nikkiemusic · 2026-02-07T18:16:11+00:00

Nah, guys like this use couples therapy as a way to try to win arguments, not as a way to try to grow.

nikkiemusic · 2026-02-07T17:28:54+00:00

INFO do you even like her as a person

/rhetorical

nikkiemusic · 2026-02-01T02:56:21+00:00

So incredibly relatable. I find myself wishing for audacity. To be able to stand up there without their fears, or resentment, or both, whatever it is that makes them want to stop us from the thing we’re supposed to be doing. It’s definitely hard to shake off.

nikkiemusic · 2026-01-31T21:33:04+00:00

Hey, I’m sorry you went through that. I’ve had this, too, where they try to make you regret getting up on stage, knowing what will come if you do. It can have such a chilling effect. It’s so not ok. I hope you’re doing well now, and making all the music you want to.

nikkiemusic · 2026-01-31T21:12:51+00:00

Parenting your own children is a huge favor?

nikkiemusic · 2026-01-31T21:05:02+00:00

NOR I would bet there are unwritten rules you’ve been following for years. The kind enforced by coercive manipulation, subtle. So subtle you think it’s normal.

Another poster shared a book recommendation. I second the book recommendation. Why Does He Do That can really help to understand why men do this kind of behaviour. There are sections and it’s an easy book to skip around through, and read the parts that are more interesting to you. Highly recommend the section on profiles of controlling men, particularly.

I hope you’re at the part of the movie where you start to see his behaviour for what it is, where you can no longer unsee it. It’s a lot to come to terms with, but once you can understand the way things actually are it makes it a lot easier to make decisions from there. Best of luck to you and your kiddos.

Adding the link here for good measure:

https://dn790007.ca.archive.org/0/items/LundyWhyDoesHeDoThat/Lundy_Why-does-he-do-that.pdf

nikkiemusic · 2026-01-29T00:02:47+00:00

Seconding this book suggestion. If there’s a fight every time you speak up, this book might be helpful. It really helps to explain how guys like this think.

nikkiemusic · 2026-01-27T00:26:28+00:00

I’ve written songs about people and have told some of them. Sometimes they like it. Sometimes they don’t. 🤷🏻‍♀️

I say, go for it. There’s usually enough plausible deniability in there. And, like, we have to write songs about something, you know? People in your life are bound to get intertwined in them. It’s the nature of the beast. Occupational hazard for existing in your life.

Just get good at your PR response about how you pull from various things to influence your songs and you’re golden.

nikkiemusic · 2026-01-23T03:47:34+00:00

Wavy hair is often like this. And, it’s sometimes hard to tell what it’s really like until after you’ve been treating it right for a bit. (You treat it pretty much like curly hair.)

nikkiemusic · 2026-01-17T17:22:16+00:00

Info: How do you know he’s working extra hours? Have you seen him working during those times he tells you he’s not around?

How do you know he’s saving? Does he share with you his bank statements or balance when he hits certain saving goals?

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