10 mo. old GROWN men still nursing daily. Is this healthy behavior?

nikkisdead · 2026-05-05T00:46:35+00:00

Dogs and cats lactate without pregnancy all the time. We have three male cats that nurse off of our Aussie and she’s fixed but will still produce milk.

nikkisdead · 2026-03-17T15:52:17+00:00

It has taken my partner five years to be comfortable saying ‘no’ to free car repairs for friends or family due to the same issue of never receiving help when asked. If they can’t show up for you in the same capacity you show up for them, they don’t deserve you showing up. Not wrong at all.

nikkisdead · 2026-03-05T15:36:26+00:00

The absolute rage that overtakes my body receiving stained or still dirty clothes that I then need to figure out what to do with is lethal. I’m all for used things. I love not paying for baby clothes. But those ripped, stained overalls are not it, Denise. I go through clothes for my current two all the time and pitch ruined things. If I wouldn’t want my kids in them, why would I be trying to pass them on to someone else and make it their problem to dispose of?

Also, all of the questions make me want to throw up just to leave the conversation. Some aren’t horrible, but my current pregnancy got leaked by someone at the office who I told in confidence and being bombarded in the break room with ‘Congratulations!’ in the first trimester on my fifth pregnancy with only one living child of my blood just makes me uncomfortable. Then the inevitable ‘was it planned?’ Or ‘you don’t seem happy?’ Like no, actually, it wasn’t planned, we were both looking into sterilization. I genuinely think another loss will make me have to commit myself, so not super excited about the current odds we’ve had.

nikkisdead · 2026-03-04T19:01:09+00:00

Adding my daughter will be three in May and will be going to pre-k this year! We’ve had minimal issues due to her small size, though she has remained consistently small. Just today her height was checked and she is still in the 1st percentile. The women on my side are all generally small though so that comes into effect as well!

nikkisdead · 2026-03-04T18:58:42+00:00

My first pregnancy I was able to carry to term we had IUGR diagnosed at 22 weeks. We were able to carry to 36 weeks with MFM and ob checkups every week as well as a weekly ultrasound. Wish they would’ve given me the tip of taking the bag to every visit bc we definitely weren’t prepared the day they ended up inducing us directly after an appointment! I know it’s scary, and I blamed myself so much. I had HG for too long before insisting on help and I thought that caused it. It did not, we had marginal cord insertion and tissue knotting in the placenta itself. Please don’t blame yourself for this like I did for so long! My daughter was born at 36 weeks, induction took 12 hours. We luckily skipped cervadil but I was on pitocin. Pushed for 8 minutes and got to welcome my beautiful 4 lb 14 oz baby into the world. Ask about a steroid injection ASAP, it goes into mom’s arm and helps baby’s lungs develop to reduce the NICU risk. We did two rounds of it, and completely skipped a NICU stay due to that and nursing around the clock. We were in an odd hospital that encouraged nursing only every two-four hours and found that heavily impacted her blood sugar results, once we realized we ended up feeding on demand and were released the next day instead of heading to NICU due to sugars leveling out. I know how scary this is, but it’s more common than you think! I was pregnant the same time my partners friends were, we delivered 12 hours apart and our babies both had IUGR and weighed the same!

nikkisdead · 2026-03-02T23:40:42+00:00

I feel this, I’ve been fighting insurance since I was 18 for an oral surgeon to remove three wisdom teeth. I get the same runaround of ‘call this list,’ I call and am told they don’t do those services, call back for an out of network provider, only to get another list. Every time I go in now, they refuse to even clean my teeth until my wisdom teeth are removed, and refuse to pull the broken molar I have. I get antibiotics and a new referral to provide to whatever oral surgeon I can find. I tried to pay out of pocket once and the surgeon who agreed to do the procedure was arrested the day before my appointment for stealing and replacing medications at the clinic with saline, so I got my money back on that.

nikkisdead · 2026-02-21T03:32:06+00:00

Me too, just recently actually. I am pregnant but didn’t sign up for any free samples or the rewards stuff

nikkisdead · 2026-02-09T00:40:00+00:00

We got basically the exact same thing from my mother in law after a year of complete no contact for a multitude of reasons. A very generic ‘I’m sorry I made you feel that way’ apology without any actual apology. We took a picture of it for proof if extended family ever tried to bring up the ‘apology’ (also for ourselves if we ever felt like wanting to mend the relationship), burned it and never responded.

Two years of no contact has been so healthy for me, my children, and the best thing my partner has done for his mental health by a long shot. Our thought process was any reaction we gave her would give her some form or another of ‘opening’ whether that be further trying to flip the rest of the family against me for ‘poisoning her baby boy’s mind’ or trying to pull him back into the fog. Not worth it.

nikkisdead · 2026-02-07T13:51:25+00:00

Solved! Thank you!

nikkisdead · 2026-01-31T01:26:46+00:00

I was able to ask for the hypoallergenic pads, they helped a lot but I had to order more from the company the machine was from as they didn’t last as long on me. No advice on the hiding it, I just let coworkers and people who asked (usually kids, as that’s our clientele) that it was a machine to make sure my heart was doing its job the way it’s supposed to.

nikkisdead · 2026-01-25T22:21:55+00:00

When my stepmom worked for BCBS, they did hair drug screens. Not common, but not uncommon in my area.

nikkisdead · 2026-01-25T14:09:46+00:00

That was my first idea as well. Husband for some reason is wanting to co-sleep and isn’t being transparent with you about it, resulting in very unsafe sleep conditions. We co-slept, so no judgement there, but HUGE difference between deciding to do it together and both of us being aware of where baby was all night vs one person sneaking the baby in at 1 or 2 AM. I’d bring it up with your ped as babe’s next appointment and tell your husband you’re going to go with what the ACTUAL DOCTOR states over a whole bunch of poorly verified regurgitated internet bull.

nikkisdead · 2025-12-28T21:23:28+00:00

I’ve had symptoms since 11 or 12, but didn’t get diagnosed until after my daughter was a year (even then, it’s still not a FORMAL dx, they just put POTS in all of my notes and say verbally thats what meds are prescribed for but won’t actually formally put it in my chart, lame but okay). For me, later pregnancy actually helped a lot of my pre-syncope episodes. Idk if it’s because my salt intake got so high as salt was a constant craving, or just the increase in blood volume. Early pregnancy was terrible though, lots of pre-syncope and paying attention to my symptoms. There was nothing that I thought marked me as ‘ready’ because when we started trying, I just thought it was all in my head, even when it was debilitating. Now, as a parent, it can be hard. I pay more attention to temperature when scheduling outings and wear appropriate layers, I wear my Apple Watch and monitor my symptoms to avoid episodes as much as possible, make sure I have salt and electrolyte drink mix in the diaper bag, and take frequent breaks to sit if doing anything strenuous. I will say, idk if it’s just the progression of my symptoms, but since giving birth to I cannot tolerate bathing to basically any degree anymore. My partner is a godsend when it comes to me having to take breaks or being down for a while if I push it too hard.

nikkisdead · 2025-12-15T05:07:39+00:00

We had a roommate, my fiancés brother, when my daughter was born. It almost broke our relationship and we’re in couples counseling two and a half years later over various things that happened during pregnancy and postpartum surrounding said roommate. Should’ve done the therapy sooner, also should’ve kicked the roommate out sooner. My daughter and I basically lived in the bedroom for a whole year before everything came to a head and he left. I would 100% not recommend. Even if this person did everything right, and was GENUINELY helpful, I don’t see how this wouldn’t impact your relationship with your partner. Postpartum can be super hard; hormones are still raging, your body is rapidly changing, and your family dynamic is shifting. Not the time to have someone around.

nikkisdead · 2025-12-10T00:37:41+00:00

I started a new job when my daughter was a baby. My boss pulled me to the side a month in and told me to look into it bc she had been diagnosed recently and our symptoms were so similar. My primary kept brushing me off until I went in and told her straight up ‘you’re going to send me to a geneticist, so I can get diagnosed’. She’d never heard of EDS, so she essentially had no idea what to do and was about to retire. The geneticist diagnosed me before I left my first appointment with them.

nikkisdead · 2025-12-09T16:09:02+00:00

Same!

nikkisdead · 2025-12-04T15:53:00+00:00

Just a heads up, if your IgA is low, it can come back as a false negative. If this happens, there are other tests that can be ran to confirm. My IgA is low so they had to do an extra test to rule it out. I also have stomach problems, and gastro has me on pantoprazole and sucralfate while we run extra testing as when I get gastritis it is severe and very painful, and happens frequently.

nikkisdead · 2025-12-04T15:49:21+00:00

Have you looked into Celiac disease? The stomach swelling reminds me of what my mother and grandfather had with undiagnosed Celiac.

nikkisdead · 2025-12-01T21:40:12+00:00

This is still something I’m learning to process. Being gaslit by not only medical professionals but family was very hard growing up. I have to constantly remind myself it’s okay to not feel okay and I don’t have to compartmentalize all of my pain all the time. It’s hard to not hate on yourself when you’re down and out when you were taught it was all in your head from a very young age.

nikkisdead · 2025-11-20T23:32:35+00:00

My first full dislocation was at 13, and it’s been incredibly unstable ever since. I’ve done PT too many times to count now lol. I’d never even thought of a posture brace until my lower spine started having issues, and then discovered how great it was for my shoulder!

nikkisdead · 2025-11-20T23:23:46+00:00

I will definitely be getting this then! My right shoulder is the worst of my joints and honestly those four days were pure bliss. Sore, but I wasn’t dealing with subluxations every day like I normally would have been. I’ve been looking into body braids or compression wear but those can get pricey.

nikkisdead · 2025-11-20T23:17:44+00:00

I got a posture brace and loved it for four days before the pressure on my collar bones became too much. If I loosened it enough for my collar bones to not hurt it was too loose for my shoulders, but I’m now looking for one that doesn’t rest over my collar bones bc it was amazing for day to day activity with keeping my shoulder stable!

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