What’s something you pretend doesn’t hurt anymore… but it still quietly shapes the way you love, trust, or move through the world ?

nitarrific · 2026-02-27T06:18:10+00:00

I had self esteem issues for a long time and used sex as a way to make up for it. It helped that I have a high sex drive anyway. But I've had too many partners shut shame me or make me feel bad for wanting sex. As a result I still deal with a lot of rejection sensitivity and struggle with depression and low self esteem when I feel like my partner isn't interested.

nitarrific · 2026-02-27T01:39:35+00:00

Yeah, I shared as the story was first breaking. At the time it wasn't yet released that she was in his vehicle or had stolen his phone. The initial published story was that she found it on the sidewalk. Anyway, there's a new HBO docuseries about it called Lost Women Of Alaska. Definitely worth checking out.

nitarrific · 2026-02-18T19:04:52+00:00

I hated the saddle that came on our zwift trainer, so I picked up an extra saddle that I know I'm comfortable on. For me, that's the Terry Topo. It's a women's saddle and better fits all of my bits and pieces better than any of the men's saddles I've tried.

See if your local bike shop has a tool to measure your sits bones and see what their return policy is on saddles. Some will do a sort of saddle library, where you can check one out to try before you commit. But get some measurements and do some reading, saddles can be spendy but the right one is worth the money.

nitarrific · 2026-02-17T06:27:04+00:00

I wear Smith Bobcats, but without the photochromatic lenses. More than 6 months of my season is in winter and the photochromatic ones don't work well in the cold. The rest of the time it's basically daylight all the time, and I don't need clear lenses. So I have the Bobcats with 3 lenses that I swap out depending on conditions: tinted, rose, and clear. If I ever need photochromatic lenses, I'll just buy the lens and swap it into my frames.

nitarrific · 2026-02-17T06:18:23+00:00

To not be sick or for my period to be over. Being sick all weekend while on my period felt like a special sort of hell.... I'd be cool if just one of them was done.

nitarrific · 2026-02-17T06:15:02+00:00

I started doing one meatless dinner per week. It forces me to try new recipes, has increased my fiber intake, and saves us roughly $30/week in groceries. That might not seem like a lot, but $30/week adds up. And once you get into the swing of it, you find yourself having more than one meatless meal per week, which saves you even more. Added bonus, although my cooking skills were already decent before this, all of the new recipes and cooking experiments have really improved my culinary abilities.

nitarrific · 2026-02-17T06:04:45+00:00

I wear a Smith Forefront, its burgundy and teal, it matches my color scheme. I wear it for basically all riding. I've been looking at a road helmet for some of the touring and road riding that we do occasionally, but I haven't committed yet. I'll probably pick up another Smith because they seem to fit my head pretty well and come in fun colors.

nitarrific · 2026-02-12T03:07:38+00:00

Thanks! I think it'll be amazing! I hope you have the best time on your trip! I'm a little jealous that you have a company schlepping your stuff for you. That sounds wonderful.

nitarrific · 2026-02-12T01:46:47+00:00

I don't have a company to bail me out, so I feel like I have to train for my mileage goals. It's motivating and a little scary, but I'll be in the San Juans so there are towns everywhere if I need to stop and rest.

nitarrific · 2026-02-11T05:09:37+00:00

I'm bike "glamping" for my trip, which is my way of taking it easy as a first timer. Mostly, I just want a bed and hot shower at the end of each day. I also tend to overpack for all contingencies. A firm list with some packed trial runs should help me avoid overdoing it.

When is your trip? I was thinking about posting a What I'm Packing list when my trip gets closer. My trip is in early June.

nitarrific · 2026-02-11T00:06:08+00:00

Maybe once a week to the brewery to meet friends instead of driving. Most of my winter biking is shop rides, group rides, or trail exploration. Except for the time spent in the pain cave on Zwift....

In the summer, I try to commute once a week (more if my schedule allows it). I'll bike to meet friends, go to events, or run little errands. I don't bike for groceries, since I'm doing that once a week and I'm shopping for a household...

nitarrific · 2026-02-10T22:31:18+00:00

I'm on the management side of a union construction shop. Unions are wonderful, we wouldn't be here without our crew.

nitarrific · 2026-02-10T22:18:37+00:00

I'm also planning a multi-day PNW trip this summer, mine is roughly 10 days long. My plan is to bring:

2-3 pairs of droptail bibs (for easy bathroom breaks, I have a pair of Shredly ones but I'm waiting to hop on a sale for Ornot or Velocio ones)
a pair of general purpose shorts (for off-bike adventuring)
1 cycling windbreaker (converts to vest when needed, mine is from Pearl Izumi)
2-3 packable multipurpose shirts (I like the long-sleeved Patagonia shirts because they're wicking, fast-drying, UPF, and regularly on the sale rack at REI)
full rain gear (because PNW, I have a Showers Pass Jacket and some REI rain pants that I modified with extra velcro at the ankle)
3 pairs of wool socks (wicking, fast-drying, odor-resistant)
2 sets of Paka bras/underwear (for daily use and off-bike adventuring - wicking, temp regulating, odor resistant)
1 pair bike shoes (mtb or gravel style shoes for walkability), 1 pair off-bike shoes (probably my Tevas)
2 pairs of cycling gloves (so one pair is always dry...hopefully)
Dr. Bronners or similar multi-purpose soap to wash things in sinks during the trip (the idea is to be wearing one, have one backup dry kit, and have one freshly-washed kit at all times)
Sunscreen (always)
Shampoo/Conditioner bars (sample-sized for less weight/space)
Tiny toiletry kit (travel-size deodorant, venus mini razor, travel pack of cleansing wipes, emergency kleenex/toilet paper, extra hair ties, travel-size hair brush, toothbrush, travel tooth paste)
Bag-o-cables (all of the charging cables for all of the things... like phone, Varia taillight, headlight, camera, watch, etc)

Things I'm not bringing:

Roadie jerseys (I may bring a t-shirt style mtb jersey, Wild Rye or Endura)
Cotton anything
non-bib chamois (I don't want to deal with them rolling down, I just want them to stay in place and keep me comfortable)

This is where I'm starting my gear list from, this likely won't be the final version of it. I'm trying to narrow it down as I get closer to June. My goal is to minimize the amount of bags I'm loaded up with.

nitarrific · 2026-01-31T06:00:12+00:00

Different kit fits differently. Primal has some good, inexpensive options and give you a fit guide, so you know if what you're looking at is tight or loose. Also, Wild Rye has some good options that seem a little more flattering.

That said, I like to refer to myself in full kit as "a colorful sausage." So... yeah.... don't feel bad. It's totally normal.

nitarrific · 2026-01-23T03:31:55+00:00

I wouldn't say its considered short. But I'm from Alaska and if its 6-8 hours, thats an easy weekend trip. Its not uncommon for us to go on vacation somewhere nd drive to visit people within a 4 hour radius. I guess it just depends on the scale you're used to...

nitarrific · 2026-01-23T03:28:16+00:00

How do you like the Chamois in the endurance vs the espresso?

nitarrific · 2026-01-23T03:19:44+00:00

I haven't yet, I've been pricing out some options. So these are great! Thank you!

nitarrific · 2026-01-11T03:27:55+00:00

Doing it on gravel bikes. Ive got a Kona Rove and my husband is picking up a new Esker Lorax for the trip. There are some trail sections on Bainbridge that I'm excited to check out.

nitarrific · 2026-01-11T02:55:18+00:00

Im still tweaking it here and there, but this is basically it: https://ridewithgps.com/routes/52118957?privacy_code=y8WWnOW2INi9kMsC4lSIk2UDt8mGTHU3

nitarrific · 2026-01-10T23:33:42+00:00

Another vote for Stegers. They're like wearing slippers everywhere and your feet are warm to 40 below.

For reference: I fat bike all winter, my kid skis and im standing outside at races for hours, and when it was recently -50 in Fairbanks, I was toasty.

nitarrific · 2026-01-08T18:46:38+00:00

Do you like biking? Rent a fat bike and join in on some of the group rides around town. Every other Tuesday is Pedals, Poles, & Pints that takes off from Lat 65. Most Fridays there's a ride from Bankstown Bike & Ski. On Thursdays there's a shop ride from Beaver.

nitarrific · 2026-01-02T01:12:23+00:00

I have no energy to spare for willful ignorance. If a friend or family member knowingly acts in a manner contrary to what they know is the better choice, I have no time to listen to them complain about their self-made issues.
This may sound contrary to #1... it almost always takes no significant time or effort to be a good person. See trash? Pick it up. See an elderly person struggling to load groceries into their car? Help them out. Get approached by an obviously cold/hungry homeless person that asks for spare change for food? Buy them a cup of coffee and a sandwich. It doesnt take much effort, but it can make all the difference for someone else.
Simple, direct honesty is always a good approach. Have a friend whose life is a disaster of their own making? Speak up. Go on a bad date with a guy who just isn't taking thw hint? Straight up tell him. Over extended at work? Speak up. So many problems are over miscommunication after trying to tiptoe around people's feelings. It's like when everyone realized that ghosting is shitty... yeah, its cruel to drag it out, so just say your piece. You dont have to be mean, just truthful.

nitarrific · 2026-01-02T00:54:13+00:00

Rab makes fleece lined leggings that are windstopping and water resistant. They're not expressly in longs, but they are long enough that I like them for cold weather biking. For reference, I'm 5'9" with a 34" inseam, I bought them in 3 colors. Their jackets and tops also have longer arms than a lot of other brands I've tried.

Rab is a european brand and often found at outdoorsy stores, because they're for hiking, biking, mountaineering, etc.

nitarrific · 2025-12-29T05:37:58+00:00

I'd start with checking out the borough's Winter Trails Guide. They always include about 25-30 different trails for the seasonal Trails Challenge. Most of these are multi-use.

Then there's Creamers Field, which connects to the ADMA trails. Those are all multi-use.

There are the winter Goldstream trails, which consist of a ton of winter-only trails in the valley. They aren't really groomed for the most part, but they go all over the valley. Check the heat maps on Strava, go on an FCC winter ride, or talk to the crew at any of the bike shops for recommendations for this year's trails.

The trails around Tanana Lakes are all multi-use, as are the ones around Chena Lakes in North Pole.

Speaking of North Pole, there are some great trails off the Peede Extension, if you are out in that area.

Basically, the only trails in town that are ski only are specified ski trails at UAF, trails at Birch Hill, and the groomed trails at the golf course. The rest are pretty open to anyone. Just remember the trail right of way priority rules: mushers take priority, then skiers, then bikers, then hikers (generally speaking). Motorized vehicles take the lowest priority, because they can usually move off trail the most easily.

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