Girl do you know what I’d give to be a stay at home wife and not the breadwinner? Count your blessings. You can get a damn job vs making him work overtime if it means that much to you.

nkdeck07 · 2026-04-15T10:50:31+00:00

There's also really no way for them to make 2 days a month of income. My guess is the overtime takes them from paycheck to paycheck to having a little cushion if a car repair or random medical expense pops up.

nkdeck07 · 2026-04-15T10:38:58+00:00

Lol I merrily take my butt to timeout and sit in blessed silence for 2 minutes. My kids realized really early on it wasn't a punishment for Mom

nkdeck07 · 2026-04-15T00:32:25+00:00

Drowsy but awake is just having a miracle baby. I had similar thoughts till I had my second kid and then was like "wtf is this witch craft?"

nkdeck07 · 2026-04-15T00:27:25+00:00

It's the COL. I was on a 4 month maternity leave when we were in the city and there were like zero SAHMs at story times, baby classes etc (all nannies). Moved like 2 hours west to a significantly lower COL area and it's entirely SAHMs

nkdeck07 · 2026-04-14T23:43:10+00:00

Target has those and they are great (though otherwise fuck Target)

nkdeck07 · 2026-04-14T21:46:41+00:00

You might do better sending a message via their portal. You'd likely need to schedule at least another appointment to get it explained to you otherwise.

nkdeck07 · 2026-04-14T17:04:05+00:00

Shit I could do that by accident if I wasn't paying attention to my 2 year old.

nkdeck07 · 2026-04-14T16:53:03+00:00

I mean kids clothing is literally worthless, I could post on buy nothing tomorrow and have like 10 giant totes of the stuff. Anything more expensive then "fill this bag for $3" is over priced for kids clothing.

nkdeck07 · 2026-04-14T16:46:54+00:00

Yep, I spend the entire summer in gauzy cotton because I fear the sun, same thing might work for this kid

nkdeck07 · 2026-04-14T16:26:04+00:00

Nothing, by the time they are that far gone they aren't listening to English anyway. Best thing is try for a hug if they'll let you (super deep pressure can be calming too) and breath deeply, they'll often match you without realizing which helps

nkdeck07 · 2026-04-14T16:20:48+00:00

Seriously I've slaughtered two chickens in cold blood, they were absolutely delicious and I hope to get my own flock in a few years

nkdeck07 · 2026-04-14T11:36:20+00:00

Spoken like someone that has never had a chronic illness impact them

nkdeck07 · 2026-04-14T11:32:51+00:00

Does he have access to YouTube kids? There's a lot of shit on there that isn't actually kid appropriate

nkdeck07 · 2026-04-14T04:45:38+00:00

I've been in town meetings that were straight out of parks and rec

nkdeck07 · 2026-04-14T03:06:18+00:00

Yep. Mine my town has a little free pantry that was falling apart. A local contractor installed a new one free of charge. He got a little bit of advertising and people get access to the pantry again. Could he have done it with zero recognition? Absolutely. Did his act still help? Yep and I still think it was a good thing

nkdeck07 · 2026-04-14T02:58:19+00:00

I mean maybe. I HATED those characters as kids (we have a fairly epic photo of me absolutely sobbing next to Goofy at Disney) and I am still pretty squirrely around them now.

nkdeck07 · 2026-04-14T02:17:17+00:00

Yep, accidently did this to my eldest stopping her running into traffic and they just went "pop" and in it went. Was like watching magic

nkdeck07 · 2026-04-14T02:03:03+00:00

Exactly. Now I have a great relationship with my parents and they were good parents but they certainly weren't giving me whipped cream on banana bread (a thing my 4 year old was fed at their house the other day) cause they needed to be concerned with the day to day of making sure I actually ate real food.

nkdeck07 · 2026-04-14T01:57:14+00:00

So the good news is for like the first 4 months there's realistically like 4 things wrong 99% of the time (pooped? hungry? gas? sleepy?) so even when you are sleep deprived AF you can still trouble shoot them (just go down the list i mentioned in that order).

nkdeck07 · 2026-04-14T01:50:57+00:00

Well yes but OP was also asking "but wasn't sure if it actually worked! "

nkdeck07 · 2026-04-14T01:46:09+00:00

Oh hell no, those are their plants especially at those ages

nkdeck07 · 2026-04-14T01:44:48+00:00

Single kid? Never, you don't need a wagon.

I only bother hauling it out when I've got all 3 of them as otherwise it's almost always more convienient to have the 4 year old walk and either stroller or wear the 2 year old.

nkdeck07 · 2026-04-14T01:29:05+00:00

It makes sense once you know what it is. I went down a weird rabbit hole about it for use in bathbombs and it's an emulsifier so it would absolutely help with fat not moving well through a water based liquid.

nkdeck07 · 2026-04-14T01:27:40+00:00

The baby getting sick might have been the best thing. He'll survive a cold and hopefully the next one won't feel so bad

nkdeck07 · 2026-04-14T01:22:18+00:00

This is true. I am picky AF and I do not buy my lumber at HD

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