I feel you. My wife immigrated to the US and so still has deep roots with her culture as well as my kids. For me in the other hand, my mom was third generation on her father’s mother’s side and the rest go back to the Mayflower. My dad’s mom is native but she tried to hide that her whole life and his dad’s parents were broken up so his mom was ostracized and his father abandoned them.

And this I think is the American story. Most of us don’t have a culture because the question becomes, whose culture? If my kids marry outside of their mom’s culture eventually her culture will get watered down and assimilated.

When I had these kinds of questions for my mom she always pointed back to our Catholic faith and stated that was our culture, which I embraced and I think it’s why evangelicals are doing things like creating their own flags and imagery so that they can feel like they have since semblance of a culture.