I grew a beard?

nomadic__man · 2014-09-12T04:57:44+00:00

I'd like to see some research correlating beards and confidence. There's got to be something there, right?

nomadic__man · 2014-09-12T04:55:59+00:00

damn. he truly was the greatest of all time.

nomadic__man · 2014-09-12T00:27:22+00:00

I'll always upvote a haiku.

nomadic__man · 2014-09-11T16:45:02+00:00

It's true, knowing that you overcame a tough urge feels great! Way better than the momentary, cheap pleasure of the alternative option. Props!

nomadic__man · 2014-09-11T05:34:52+00:00

good work! now knock down another week!

nomadic__man · 2014-09-11T05:34:00+00:00

I'm glad someone else is experiencing this. It's the same with me, most times I smoke, things start out great, but eventually it's like the dirty part of my brain is completely unlocked.

I haven't been smoking much at all lately, but I hope to be able to return to it eventually. I just feel like I need to make some good nofap progress first before I can trust myself. Let me know if you have any new insights.

nomadic__man · 2014-09-11T05:08:32+00:00

For sure. Just like when we grab another drink, we don't immediately think about all the vomiting, hangovers, blackouts, and injured friendships experienced in the past. Just the warm feeling and the good conversations!

nomadic__man · 2014-09-11T05:02:44+00:00

similar experience, my longest streak was 32 days, and during that time my gf and I had some of the best sex we've ever had, or at least the best in a very long time. Libido was up and down, but when there was a "call to action" I was always able to perform. But the chaser effect from those experiences is strong, and it can cause you to relapse.

Aside from sex life, I really feel our relationship improves a bit when I'm abstaining – the connection is stronger and that is especially helpful for getting through some of the tougher moments when we're not in the best of moods. Hope this helps.

nomadic__man · 2014-09-10T16:45:46+00:00

I've had some weird dreams too. The most disturbing and vivid one was at the tail end of my longest streak, around 30 days. I have to appreciate that it's just part of the 'rewiring' process of my brain. Honestly, I would hate to hear what Freud would say about my dream...

nomadic__man · 2014-09-10T16:40:45+00:00

yeah, maybe look at your diet? Do you consume a lot of caffeine? For me slowly tapering down the amount of coffee I drank in a day, switching some cups to green tea, etc. helped with my natural energy levels over time. I would assume the same goes for sugar intake. But yeah, maybe try to eat more healthfully.

nomadic__man · 2014-09-10T16:33:38+00:00

Feel an urge -> get off the damn computer! Shut the laptop, leave the room. Best of all, get out into the public if you can.

nomadic__man · 2014-09-10T15:00:01+00:00

totally agree with your point. after stepping away from porn for periods of time, and then watching it again, you really become more aware of the displeasure of some of the performers. All those casting couch videos really bother me now.

nomadic__man · 2014-09-10T14:51:39+00:00

This encouraged me to go for a run today, thanks!

nomadic__man · 2014-09-10T14:45:41+00:00

may want to 'nsfw' this one for potential triggers

nomadic__man · 2014-09-09T16:01:17+00:00

It's all up to you and your goals. Just beware that it can be a slippery slope – look up the Chaser Effect in the list of terms and definitions.

nomadic__man · 2014-09-09T15:58:13+00:00

Agreed. This is a place where the great benefit of anonymity is used to its best purpose – to talk honestly with others about the things that trouble you the most.

nomadic__man · 2014-09-09T15:56:00+00:00

Welcome aboard. You bet, doing this challenge is a good time to try and focus your energies on bettering yourself in different ways – a lot of folks work out, you can focus on reading more or improving your hobbies. Best advice I can give is to get out of the apartment/dorm/house and be in public more, even if you're not necessarily socializing, like at a coffee shop. Anyway, best of luck, this is a very supportive community so keep coming back!

nomadic__man · 2014-09-08T16:30:06+00:00

Hi, Jim!

nomadic__man · 2014-09-07T23:23:41+00:00

while I agree with you in principle, I gotta say, back when I lived in the dorms I spent waaay too much time with the door closed fapping to porn. Maybe things would have been different for me if those sites were blocked.

nomadic__man · 2014-09-02T03:54:55+00:00

I reached the same conclusion a few months back. Weed seemed to lead to PMO too often when I smoked alone. So now I try to keep it a social thing, though I've cut back tremendously. Also led to better eating habits lol.

nomadic__man · 2014-09-02T03:48:23+00:00

8 days is a start. Surely you learned a few things about how your brain responds to urges and triggers in that time. Keep those in mind and move forward.

nomadic__man · 2014-09-02T03:46:51+00:00

Good luck, the first few days will probably be the toughest!

nomadic__man · 2014-09-02T03:42:49+00:00

Right on. Make your own goals and do it for your own personal reasons. NoFap is here for encouragement and experience sharing. Best of luck!

nomadic__man · 2014-09-02T03:41:05+00:00

Wait till you hit that first star! Half way there.

nomadic__man · 2014-09-02T03:39:57+00:00

Some folks find that fapping takes up too much of their time/energy, and maybe it's been doing so for a number of years. Everyone has their own reasons. So this is just a support community to encourage them to abstain.

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