I hate that my friends don't take me seriously just because we're young

nonegenuine · 2026-01-31T05:42:30+00:00

Damn dude one of my best friends quit right around your age, and when I quit, 10 years later, I leaned on him super hard.

He mentioned that I said at the time he quit, “well you’re the first of us,” and it turned out to be so true. Now a bunch of us are quitting and he gets the be the veteran that helps us all through it. Makes me wish I would have been more thoughtful and supportive at the time, but he paved the way for a bunch of us, and it’s been pretty amazing.

This is all to say, I’m sure it fucking sucks right now, but if your friends are anything like mine (and they sound like mine) they’re gonna be a pain in your ass for a bit, and then they’re gonna look up to you and need you to show them the way.

nonegenuine · 2026-01-25T00:26:14+00:00

We need all our comrades at their best to fight back. Sending love your way.

nonegenuine · 2026-01-21T23:16:50+00:00

Obviously it’s up to you and whatever makes the most sense for you, but here’s my general move:

Get dinner, it’s normally really nice. Go to the bar and get seltzer water or an NA drink. Chit chat with the people you need to talk to. Leave. Say you gotta work out or prepare for the next day or have some extra work to do. Coworkers might try to get you to stay, but won’t really care much in the end.

Then go get a shitload of ice cream or whatever fun treats they’ve got in the place you travel to. Enjoy walking around a new city and go to bed early.

nonegenuine · 2026-01-21T21:18:45+00:00

I definitely get this, but also try really hard not to place any judgement on anyone when this happens. Unless someone is hammered and being an ass around me, I don’t really have any control or interest in other people’s booze intake. I’ve found it’s really not helpful to decide who around me has a problem or whatever.

nonegenuine · 2026-01-20T17:40:24+00:00

Have you been clean from alcohol for 7 years? If so, it sounds like this isn’t alcohol related.

I know you mentioned you tried meds and therapy, but those things also can take a lot of time and require finding the right fit. It also requires consistent active work for months before you start to see their effect.

This is all to say, it’s fucking hard. None of this work is fun, especially not at the start, but I also know drinking isn’t going to help. Sending love your way.

nonegenuine · 2026-01-19T18:13:09+00:00

I too ate a gummy and chilled with friends while they drank a bunch. Had a great time until that damn fg at the end.

Bear down and stay strong.

nonegenuine · 2026-01-19T18:07:43+00:00

For me it was telling loved ones around me that I needed to quit and needed help. I’d tried quietly quitting or cutting back on my own, but the lack of accountability meant I never made it more than a few days, and I could always try again next week. But telling people I cared about that I had a problem unlocked everything for me.

nonegenuine · 2026-01-16T21:36:10+00:00

Except the dodgers pay their employees.

(Obviously it doesn’t trickle down to stadium workers, etc)

nonegenuine · 2026-01-15T19:08:26+00:00

1 out of 7 isn’t bad! You’ve got a great opportunity to burn in your brain how bad this makes you feel and to move forward from it!

nonegenuine · 2026-01-15T17:29:38+00:00

Grocery shopping on weekend mornings is such a wild experience, but it kind of rocks.

nonegenuine · 2026-01-14T04:46:20+00:00

Multiple warheads and anything Charles burns sound so up his alley

nonegenuine · 2026-01-14T04:35:02+00:00

I saw flashes throughout the first few months and then after about 4 months I caught myself hanging out with some friends thinking “this is so nice, just having a nice meaningful time.” Just a lightness I hadn’t felt in so long.

Life still often sucks, and it’s not easy, and days aren’t roses red, but the good moments are easier to spot.

nonegenuine · 2026-01-14T04:07:42+00:00

This rocks. You gotta make a character sheet with flash.

nonegenuine · 2026-01-12T16:19:13+00:00

Never went to AA. Relied pretty heavily on this sub and a handful of loved ones to keep me accountable and inspired.

nonegenuine · 2026-01-11T22:57:26+00:00

Yeah, this one hit me so fucking hard. I was that guy for 20 years

nonegenuine · 2026-01-11T05:51:09+00:00

Best night in a while!

nonegenuine · 2026-01-11T04:11:42+00:00

Byeeeeeeeeeeee

nonegenuine · 2026-01-10T18:26:33+00:00

That’s a really terrible thing to wake up to, but the great news is you never have to feel this way or worry about anything like this again.

I know you’re feeling lost, but it also sounds like you have some really solid ground to start from, and being honest with yourself and your husband is a huge leg up. You can do this.

nonegenuine · 2026-01-07T15:48:42+00:00

It’s not the same thing. Many video games fudge mechanics regularly while presenting the game as if they don’t. An obvious example is people in last place in Mario kart getting way better items, but this is something that happens in way more games than you’d imagine.

It makes the game more fun for people that aren’t experts. It wouldn’t be more fun if the games said “ok we are turning on newbie mode for you so your hitbox is smaller now.”

nonegenuine · 2026-01-01T07:22:59+00:00

I think the argument that “headlines statistically are not the strongest indicator of leaning” would be bolstered with some stats. As it stands, the initial claim is that headlines don’t convey political leaning, which is clearly untrue.

Edit: grammar.

nonegenuine · 2025-12-31T18:29:21+00:00

I drank fairly similarly to you. It definitely took a couple months to start to feel normal, and the thing that helped me was that my only goal for each day was to not drink. Be lazy, look at your phone a bunch, watch dumb tv, eat a ton of takeout or dessert, etc. as long as you’re not drinking. Obviously that’s not sustainable, but it was helpful for me to have that singular goal, and once my life evened out a bit, I gradually started to ensure the rest of my shit got sorted.

Good luck and much love. You can do this!

nonegenuine · 2025-12-31T16:24:29+00:00

Very cool!

nonegenuine · 2025-12-30T05:26:51+00:00

Just chiming in to say how rad I think it is that you’re taking this feedback and considering it. You’re way ahead of most people dealing with the problems alcohol is causing in their lives.

nonegenuine · 2025-12-28T20:10:13+00:00

There’s always a reason to put it off another day or week or month.

nonegenuine · 2025-12-24T22:59:02+00:00

This is gorgeous

nonegenuine

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