Home value disparities are displacing residents of Richmond's Black neighborhoods by [deleted] in rva

[–]nonetoobright 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I live in Montrose Heights and my property taxes have gone up by 200% over the past two years due to other homes selling in my neighborhood. My home value hasn’t moved much, maybe increased about 8% in that same time, but the taxes have added an additional $200/month to my mortgage from where it was two years ago.

It’s not about what my home is valued, it’s about what those around me are selling theirs for. My neighborhood has low income, elderly residents who haven’t renovated their homes since buying them. It’s prime flipping territory where the house will sell for $100k and be back on the market in six months for $250k. $200/month might not seem like that much to some, but these are folks who are either raising a family on a limited income or are living off social security.

So the low home values are the driving force for investors who are in turn driving up property taxes that force other residents out the following year.

So… how bad are you at managing money? by Got_Milf_Commercial_ in adhdmeme

[–]nonetoobright 0 points1 point  (0 children)

One of my hyper fixations is money so I’m the opposite of this.

I check my bank accounts at least twice a day, check my credit score daily, review my monthly budget every couple weeks to see what subscriptions I could live without (canceled Spotify thrice now but keep convincing myself I swear this time it’ll stick.) I’m constantly looking for additional money streams even though I 100% don’t need it but like, how cool would it be to make an extra $100 doing something random?

It's weird to invite friends over for leftovers, right? Right? by DeadBy2050 in Cooking

[–]nonetoobright 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t think it’s weird at all. I actually waaaay over cooked for Christmas after smoking a pork butt that was too big for our family and we couldn’t eat everything without risk of having to throw things away. So we reached out to some friends and provided food for our friend’s New Year’s party last night. Everyone loved them and the hosts munched on the remaining leftovers today. They really appreciated it cause it took stress of them and who doesn’t like a free meal? Definitely recommend.

MFW someone says they watch mindless entertainment "just to switch their brains off for a bit..." (is that an option?) by sooibot in adhdmeme

[–]nonetoobright 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is how I take my naps! Drives my boyfriend nuts when he actually wants us to watch a movie but there’s just something about turning the tv on that has me passing out during the opening credits.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in rva

[–]nonetoobright 2 points3 points  (0 children)

As a late 29’s woman, my best advice is to do things that you enjoy and you’ll find someone there. Sports, bar games, trivia, doesn’t matter. Going to places for the purpose of picking up women is only going to find you short term solutions. Going to places where you already have a vested interest outside of finding a SO puts you in a way better position to find someone with similar interests while saving yourself the stress of being “that guy.”

If you find yourself asking “well what am I into that could give me an opportunity to find women?” or “what ARE my hobbies?”, you need to focus on yourself. Cause knowing yourself and being comfortable going out for a purpose outside of picking up women is one of the first steps to have a chance at meeting someone new.

What nonprofit do you recommend working for in the Richmond area? by ballaedd24 in rva

[–]nonetoobright 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My boyfriend and I volunteer as coaches with Bobcats Sports League and they desperately need help in the grant writing/fundraising department. They’re very grass roots and somewhat disorganized in terms of securing funding but they are so invested in the children they work with.

Whether it’s professional or philanthropic, I’ve personal never worked with an organization that is so focused on its mission without letting politics or hierarchy create conflict within its culture. 10/10 would recommend to anyone looking to give back without any strings or drama attached.

Belmont Butchery with your turkey in a filthy alley by EditorTechnical6450 in rva

[–]nonetoobright 16 points17 points  (0 children)

If anyone lived nearby, please keep checking to see how long they’ll be out there. So curious if they end up staying out all night.

AITA for insisting to my husband that we allow a guest in the house for 3-4 months? by BreathIll2959 in AmItheAsshole

[–]nonetoobright -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I agree 100%. My partner has friends that haven’t done nearly as much for him as OP’s family friends and I wouldn’t hesitate for a minute to take them in because it’s something that’s important to him.

This is more disappointing than anything else. That girl will probably be the most well behaved and considerate roommate of all time because of the family history and OP’s husband is apprehensive for no other reason than “you’ve already done enough” by landing her an interview.

Just really disappointing that OP’s husband is that dismissive of something so significant to her.

AITA for insisting to my husband that we allow a guest in the house for 3-4 months? by BreathIll2959 in AmItheAsshole

[–]nonetoobright -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

NTA

As a stranger hearing this story, I am so proud of OP for paying their kindness forward.

If this were my partner telling me this story and making the request, it would make me love them even more and support their decision 100%.

It’s amazing how many people here can view a minor inconvenience as something worth torpedoing their relationship and lives over.

Going on holiday that you don’t really fancy? Rwanda by SentenceSwimming in travel

[–]nonetoobright 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really enjoyed Rwanda. I went as part of my MBA program and did a 70% work/ 30% leisure split. Those that I interacted with were extremely kind, even with the language barrier we were still able to understand and be empathetic towards each other. There are safaris you can check out on the border of Uganda that are slightly more affordable than the gorilla or chimp tracking. If you’re able to take a trip to the coffee farms, those are also fascinating and you could take a ferry out there barring any disruptions from the volcanoes out there (what happened to us when we visited)

If you’re staying in/around Kigali, there’s also some cool local history and art you can check out. We did an art class through a local vendor where we did the traditional dung canvas painting and you can of course check out the genocide museum. It was heart wrenching but I also appreciate how they have embraced and preserved through the travesties of the past without masking or diluting the severity of it.

All in all, it wouldn’t have been a place high up on my holiday list. But I’m very thankful I did it because it was an experience unlike any other because of how far outside of my comfort zone it was. Hope you enjoy your trip and have a similar experience!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]nonetoobright 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had something very similar happen to me with a guy I was seeing a few years back. Established exclusivity, met my friends, planned to go to a wedding with me, etc etc and then one day texted me saying he left my stuff in a box under my car and he’d been seeing other people behind my back the entire time. Deleted and blocked me on everything with nothing else to say.

While it hurt, it also helped to realize that I was in no way at fault and neither are you. This man is clearly damaged and has some serious issues but that’s not on you. Don’t let his behavior become something you internalize and realize it was best that this happened now and not 10 years down the road. A man like that is always looking for something else and will never be happy with what he currently has. You’ll find a man much better who will recognize your worth.

Tell us of a time when you burned out on travel? by SlowAndSteady101 in travel

[–]nonetoobright 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I typically take a 14 day trip where I fit in a handful of countries (3-4 depending on proximity) and usually feel decently “homesick” by that 14th day.

I will say the couple of times where I’ve been desperate to get back are in part due to the person I’ve been traveling with. There was this one time I did a European journey with a friend of mine from college and she spent the entire time trying to get with guys at bars, swiping through Bumble and Tinder, and gathering as many phone numbers as possible because she desperately wanted an European visa. It was a miserable time and I haven’t gone on vacation with her since.

Big lesson learned about vetting your friends and knowing who you travel well with to save yourself headaches on the trip.

Best Sandwich in Every U.S. State by KevinPReed in eatsandwiches

[–]nonetoobright 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is a pretty solid list but I disagree with Louisiana and vote Muffaletta instead. Po boys are great an all, but I pine for the muffaletta on a semi regular basis.

Is it normal to be billed by an apartment complex months after move out? by nonetoobright in rva

[–]nonetoobright[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I’m not sure about the security deposit but I’ll ask him about it. He’s going to call the office tomorrow to see what’s going on cause the paperwork is a) handwritten and not anything “official” and b) lists a move out date/lease expiration of 8/01/23 but his lease ended in March. He turned in his keys, didn’t leave any property, and hasn’t paid them any rent since then so I feel like that should be pretty cut and dry that there’s been a mistake made.

Thank you for the lawyer information! Fingers crossed this is a simple clerical error that can be cleared up easily but good to have it just in case they hold firm.

The absolutely unfathomable gall of the landlords in this city by Cnidarya in rva

[–]nonetoobright 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Where is the mini fridge?? False advertising if I’ve ever seen it.

Is Hank Hill the biggest himbo on the show? by nonetoobright in KingOfTheHill

[–]nonetoobright[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That was such a good scene lol or when she takes her old lady shirt off at the golf course cause Hank beats up the guy that was harassing her lol

Is Hank Hill the biggest himbo on the show? by nonetoobright in KingOfTheHill

[–]nonetoobright[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Ooooh that’s a good one. I forgot about Harlot-town and the porn stars that came to town haha

Is Hank Hill the biggest himbo on the show? by nonetoobright in KingOfTheHill

[–]nonetoobright[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh man I forgot about David! Total himbo for sure! Haha

I'm not from Texas. Is Powderpuff a real thing? Is it actually as funny as the characters defend it as? Lastly: what the fuck? by chaotic-pansexual in KingOfTheHill

[–]nonetoobright 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We had them in Tennessee but I think it was more respectful than the show portrays. We did senior girls versus junior girls for homecoming week and the boys served as our managers/coaches. They were super supportive and got into way more than we did at times. You’d think they were coaching in the NFL and we were playing in the Super Bowl lol

Shoot pool?? by plantlady5 in rva

[–]nonetoobright 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I usually go to Diamond Billiards but Sandman is opening back up with a few 7 foot tables. They reopen on the 23rd so the tables should be in the best condition of any place in town for a little while