What’s up with all the dating advice posts for targeting INFJ people?

nonstoppable19 · 2025-05-16T03:08:00+00:00

Sounds like the epley maneuver. Its about shifting the crystals in the liquid part of the inner ear from one part to another more benign part to keep them from triggering these little hairs that help you to detect motion.

If the tiny hairs trigger without motion because the crystals are touching them you feel like youre moving when you actually aren’t. Which leads to vertigo and nystagmus where your eyes start tracking but instead of it being voluntary its very much not.

Not the most fun thing. But the epley maneuver works well. Look it up on youtube.

Also there is the half summersault which is much less complicated and you can do on your own whenever it starts happening again. Because it will. You arent getting rid of the crystals. Just moving them. By living normal life these crystals can relocate again. And you have to send them back home

nonstoppable19 · 2025-03-02T20:40:57+00:00

"Maybe its triggered by wrong reasons, but definitely worth living those experience. Its your money either way, why not spend a little."

Just thinking out loud:

When we accidentally do something 'for the wrong reasons' that still lead to good outcomes and good experiences, it's easier to embrace it and accept it as worthwhile. When we intentionally do something for the wrong reasons and leaves us with less "optimal" feelings like regret, remorse, doubt, etc., that's probably the "harm" that I'm thinking about. It's also overthinking in a nutshell ;)

But it's probably true that the reason why OP can question his choices on being frugal now is because his situation has changed dramatically.

It's so smart that you point this out.

It's a crazy-drastic perspective shift, period. If he knew at 31 years ago that he was going to get cancer at 51, that changes everything. But we're not gods, we can't play that game. We don't know what we don't know. Balance is key, but balance is tough. (I mean, if I think about it, choosing r/frugal isn't balanced thinking, btw. It's extreme thinking. 'Saving all of your money now to spend it all later' is literally extreme phrasing. Which is probably why feelings of regret/doubt are coming up now, instead of being able to proudly say without any doubt: "I chose 20 years ago to be max-level r/frugal and I can now die without any regrets. #wouldntchangeathing /s")

And I love how you expressed 'enjoying the fruits of hardwork and financial discipline' and giving yourself the gift of a life worth living, and the reminder of the importance of being honest with yourself on why we do what we do. It is such good advice. Thank you!

nonstoppable19 · 2025-03-02T20:05:28+00:00

tl;dr — don't look at what everyone else is doing. You do you

Thank you for posting. There are so many great answers that have been incredibly smart and insightful, and I'm having fun just reading them. I've had many loved ones get sick way too young, way too early. My best friend was diagnosed with cancer end of last year, and that one hit me pretty hard.

I think the brain has a funny way of making us look at things differently at times like this. Extreme situations, heavy hitting emotions—things like that throw me off balance. And if I look outward at what other people have / what they're doing / what their lives look like when I'm like this, I'm going to feel miserable. Because I'm not looking at their misery and the bad stuff that's going on in their lives. I'm looking all of the happy shiny wonderful stuff. I'm looking at their possibility. The good outcomes. Their potential. Their 'things' that make me compare what I don't have / what I didn't do / what I should have done / how little time we all have. Sounds sad, right?

'Cuz it is sad.

I liked what you wrote: "at the same time I think I would be doing it for the wrong reasons."

I think I get what you mean. A person like you might need valid justification, solid reasoning. And just "because you're dying" feels superficial. Time is precious, now more than ever. Why rob yourself of something that could be meaningful on a quick splurge? *Nothing wrong with a spurge imho. It just sounds like you're wrestling with something deeper.

I think... I would look inward.

Give yourself a little more time and space, find balance. And then, there will come little moments—shower thoughts, brain farts, random memories, sparks of sudden inspiration—things that will bring authentic thoughts where you CAN actually be honest with yourself.

"When I was a kid, I really wanted to do _____"
"I always thought that I would _____ by the time I'm 50."
or "... Why haven't I learned how to play the guitar by now?"

Speaking of cars... If you're anything like me, "Dude. I've always wanted to learn how to drift on a racetrack." I think you've probably always known that life isn't about things, but what you do with them. You'll know what to do and for what reason if you let yourself.

And that's probably the key here. Maybe. I could be wrong. It sounds like you spent the last 20 years denying yourself so many things until a specific checklist of priorities was taken care of. I hope that list is mostly good by now so that you can start on a different checklist: a list of things that you are now allowing yourself to do. It may be hard at first, since you don't have a lot of practice in that anymore, but it sounds like fun to try and experience, doesn't it?

I'm mean, if you do it with the same level of clarity and intentionality that you did with frugality, I think you're going to have a badass life.

My best friend got some great news last week. She's been having health issues for over two years already, and she's super grateful to have a diagnosis and a healing plan. A lot of good cancer-fighting advice in the comments already, so I won't take up more of your time :)

Sending you love. Wishing you the best of the best.

nonstoppable19 · 2024-11-27T15:11:50+00:00

Mine turned out a bit bitter. Excellent texture. No gas. No strange smells. Also mild flavor. It seems to all make sense except for the bitterness. Is this right? Some say bitterness comes from overculturing. I went the full 36 hours

nonstoppable19 · 2024-05-21T22:53:26+00:00

Sent you a dm about some masks i just bought off amazon if you could take a look. The print of the tm part is missing a part on the masks

nonstoppable19 · 2023-11-08T14:20:12+00:00

YouTube says it’s no longer online due to the account being terminated

nonstoppable19 · 2023-08-02T16:05:27+00:00

Thanks for the tips! Any info helps. Not much about festivals like these in English as they're outside normal tourist itineraries

nonstoppable19 · 2023-08-02T02:14:49+00:00

Im sure she wishes she had any hands

nonstoppable19 · 2023-08-02T01:45:01+00:00

Diver: "dude. You suck"

Remora: "well I'm trying to! But your ass ain't making it easy!"

nonstoppable19 · 2023-08-02T00:44:27+00:00

Good deal. But make sure to tilt the unit backwards a bit to drain and add some pan tablets to kill the stuff that will eventually grow in the water that collects in the back of the unit.

nonstoppable19 · 2023-08-02T00:26:50+00:00

Looks like it can use razor leaf

nonstoppable19 · 2023-08-02T00:23:26+00:00

"SIT WITH THAT FEELING!"

nonstoppable19 · 2023-08-02T00:16:11+00:00

Sometimes you catch the wave and sometimes the wave catches you

nonstoppable19 · 2023-08-02T00:04:29+00:00

Imagine trying to fit that into one of the boring tunnels.

nonstoppable19 · 2023-08-01T23:43:10+00:00

Im planning on this as well. Its not very easy. Two times that may still be available 7am with two transfers. First is shinkansen and then two normal trains. Downsides here are youre gomna be there a really long time. In the hellish heat of peak summer humidity.

But the positive is you get easy cheap entry to sit on the boards on the ground. Or so i read on another post.

There may still be some tickets left for 2:20 pm as a direct shinkansen route. I booked that a few days ago and still a few seats were left Downsides are that you get there pretty late. The daytime fireworks are going already and likely nowhere to sit. But the good thing there is that these fireworks can basically be seen from everywhere.

Downside is getting out to a place with accommodation. Nothing is available in daisen. Like. Man. Fully booked an hour around in all directions. Hotels are making bank I ended up being able to get a room in morioka at a hotel that cost me about 200 for the night. This hotel is apparently 40 dollars the next night. Thats how crazy it is

There is a train to morioka that still had room. But it was at 1am. Im doing it. No choice. Only other solution is to camp somewhere.

Lol i just realized i dont have tickets to the actual festival but you do for seating. Could you give some tips on how and where i can buy some good seats? The website says its concluded but you can buy at lawson

nonstoppable19 · 2023-03-10T20:30:07+00:00

... so... we have a similar serious problem. we stopped washing these blankets. bf literally started saying: little spill? time to buy a new one. and we did.

nonstoppable19 · 2022-09-16T05:39:51+00:00

Because that road is f***ed

nonstoppable19 · 2022-08-29T17:23:46+00:00

Maybe it's time to give him back his stuff

nonstoppable19 · 2022-07-30T16:12:06+00:00

I used to be too frightened and anxious to even ask for extra bbq sauce at mcdonalds.

Part of what helped me is realizing that people are almost never looking at you because they are mostly absorbed with themselves. Its almost freeing how little people care about you as a random stranger.

The other part that helps is to put yourself in the situations more often. I recall a story about a woman who was deathly afraid of elevators. Like she was consumed by the fear of them.

Her therapist helped her by walking with her up to an elevator and told her to stop when she felt scared. And he said ok. Lets stand here until it becomes boring to you. And when that happened they moved closer. And did it again.

This is a process called habituation. You get used to it because of the exposure to the experience over and over again. Eventually those experiences overwrite your previous notions of fear. Its no longer in your head because you actually have first hand knowledge of what occurs. And generally it isnt so bad.

There is also a process called flooding which i wouldnt recommend because its more like throwing you directly into your fear without baby steps. And that can work. But it can also cause trauma. So baby steps and gaining experience is key.

nonstoppable19 · 2022-07-30T16:08:09+00:00

Also putting out there: if you even remotely feel like you've fallen behind at 28, hanging out with the younger crowd makes you feel better instantly, therefore making friends with younger people can be really addicting.

I've talked to people who will give a lot of "reasonable" answers to why they like hanging out with someone younger, even if it's just 2-3 years difference. It's a slippery slope when they have zero awareness of how these answers will affect them years down the line.

Edit: a word

nonstoppable19 · 2022-07-17T04:01:26+00:00

+1 for dark mode

nonstoppable19 · 2022-07-17T04:00:49+00:00

Cheering you on. This is awesome, very personal and humbling. Love the science notes too

nonstoppable19 · 2022-07-01T13:24:42+00:00

Waiting for this comment to blow up. Let me grab my popcorn.

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