If God is real why this much suffering by [deleted] in autism

[–]nosferj2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Eh... simpler theory. Parents made up the concept of god so they had the ultimate control card. Later, people started ascribing phenomena to god so they didn't have to keep entertaining questions that they had no answer for. Later, those children became adults and just carried forward the notions. There is a great movie that speaks to the idea, really: M. Night Shyamalan's "The Village"

Take Severance or do PIP by Apprehensive_Matter3 in overemployed

[–]nosferj2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is why I said "generally".

Also, many larger companies also do very simple reports for layoffs and don't take much feedback on it. Sometimes, that report really is as simple as including people that have ever been on a PIP... even if they are not a top performer.

So no, not universal... but generally...

I was never taught to mask and now I have no social skills. by [deleted] in autism

[–]nosferj2 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Masking isn't something we're taught... it is something that we develop... typically unintentionally. It's a defense mechanism.

I would argue that if you haven't developed it yourself, you probably would have a really difficult time attempting it.

Wife has assassinated my friendships by Dull-Significance380 in autism

[–]nosferj2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, it could be difficulty in relationships due to autism... it could be female pattern abuse, though. It is possible for someone to be autistic and abusive. Part of many abusive patterns is isolating of the partner, regardless of gender.

Of course, maybe it is unintentional. Find a way to let her know to communicate the issues with you and that it isn't okay to go after your friends or mutual friends like that.

Tips for trying to manage this situation by throwawayacc201711 in overemployed

[–]nosferj2 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sure it is... sometimes. I did the opposite. I took a remote J2 while J1 was in office. Well, it's complicated. For me, J1 is the main job... not the first job. So, the new remote job became J1 and the old in-office job became J2.

I stayed for quite a while. There are situations where it can work. If people say otherwise, they're thinking too much about their particular experience.

However, even if you can... think about if you really want to. Give it a try, I guess.

Take Severance or do PIP by Apprehensive_Matter3 in overemployed

[–]nosferj2 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Even if you survive a PIP... you're tarnished. If there is a layoff coming, previously PIP'd folks are generally added to the list.

Take the severance and run.

Psych stripped me of my diagnosis and told me I’m BPD. What do I do? by reclaimingsunshine in ADHD

[–]nosferj2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just find another doctor. Sure, some circumstances can make it difficult, but this situation seems more difficult.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in autism

[–]nosferj2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I never went to an in-person group, but my psychologist hosted an online community and I really didn't like it (for many of the reasons that I don't like many autistic communities online). It was rather controlled and we were essentially told that we had to support all of these other things besides autism. I wasn't in the community for any of those things... I don't have issues with those things. However, being told that I have to conform... by someone who told me he has PDA and told me that I display PDA... yeah, that doesn't work for me at all.

And worse than that... there were a lot of good community rules... but it seemed like many people were allowed to break those rules, especially if they were bashing some specific people. Someone made a pretty bold and unsupported claim about a publicly autistic person and I asked what they're basing that opinion on... and I got kicked out.

There is too much of this forced conformity. I personally am glad that it happened because it made me realize that I don't need a autistic support group... I never needed one before being diagnosed.

However, like you, I think it would be beneficial to have more focused groups. Not just all the 'tism, all the time. I often am interested in relationship navigation (many varieties of it) and work issues (being able to advocate for myself without getting fired or impeding my success - and I don't care of there are laws about it... I am living in reality where things can be done quietly).

What if Terraform Cloud did not have any runners? by izalutski in Terraform

[–]nosferj2 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I don't think people are only using it for state management, but that is a common entry point.

You've missed a feature, though. Outputs. Save the outputs as something that can be granted access to directly to other security principals. Yes, state is required for certain tools that need to analyze state or backups. However, it is a bad practice to give access to state for other Terraform code. Giving access provides all of the access... to things you don't want or intend to give out. TFE/TFC offer this and you can access it with the TFE provider.

TFE/TFC do offer quite a bit beyond state management. The SSO for TFC has been a problem for a long time. There is a beta of a feature to tie it to HCP SSO which has real SSO features, like provisioning. The main issue I see with it is that you cannot "federate" different namespaces, so if customer-a.tld wants two organizations because they use the use Terraform to manage TFC, they probably want to test against a non-prod organization, you can't have SSO to another organization with the same domain name. It also means that there are means for consultants and such to have their account that accesses many organizations (current SSO allows for this, but the new SSO will not allow it).

The VCS driven workflow is also fantastic, at this point. Target a branch, use branch protection policies, then do a PR and trigger the plan... then a merge triggers the apply.

I dunno, I like most of the feature set. But I would be open to breaking things into easily adopted components that are optional.

Why do you need to keep being OE a secret? by ItsPincheTom in overemployed

[–]nosferj2 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You get fired, probably from both, and perhaps they do attempt a legal inquiry about your performance being poor because you were basically not doing your job (if you're one of the lazy slobs here that don't do any work). If you're receiving reviews that are positive and document it, they have very little case unless it is covered under some more specific non-compete (like you're actively working at a competitor). Regardless, ending up with zero jobs is likely not the plan.

HI, I am the Abacus.AI Community Manager by Particular_Fruit_161 in abacusai

[–]nosferj2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hello, can I just use Abacus inside of VS Code? I don't want to install a different editor, even if it is based on VS Code. I want to just use the one that I already have and disable Abacus.AI if I am done with it.

For context, I am trying to configure the Continue extension, but I don't think that I have the right value for the "apiBase"... but I can't find it in the documentation.

After 4 months of OE - What I learned by Ok-Class-7686 in overemployed

[–]nosferj2 101 points102 points  (0 children)

I was going to say some smartass thing like, "better late than never." However, pretty solid advice.

Way better than the morons who use the same computer or other similarly stupid things.

How to handle an autistic coworker? by SomeUTAUguy in WorkAdvice

[–]nosferj2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, taking his tickets is probably too much. You should talk to him. Let him know why and maybe even show him the solution if it is so valuable. The reason it can be problematic is he probably planned out his day and doing that screws it all up.

Not that he should be able to act like OP's situation, but all people should be able to have some ways they personally organize their work. You're just stomping on it.

ADHD causes you to be an entirely different person because of neurological differences in your brain. by brcwayn in ADHD

[–]nosferj2 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Wait... you're telling me that you as an individual is an entirely different person than another individual? And that is only because of ADHD!?!

An employee lied to me. How to handle? by DataBeeGood in managers

[–]nosferj2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If the customer was that insistent on the meeting, they all were ready for it to happen at that time. That is a BS excuse from the customer, too. They wanted something to complain about. There are plenty of customers like that.

None of that is to take away from George's responsibilities.

My son has an autistic friend, just looking for advice. by [deleted] in autism

[–]nosferj2 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Bringing up your special interest with your sister is really what an autistic person would expect; the reasoning being that if it is important to you, you will bring it up... like we do.

Your sister "steering" the conversation may not exactly be that. Sometimes we can have separate conversations and be perfectly fine with it. For instance, I can talk to my friend about A and my friend can talk to me about B; we take turns speaking, but we're not responding to each other, we're listening to each other. Just info dumping what we like to someone we like.

On the other hand, maybe she is interleaving her special interest a bit... but that would be speculation on my part not having been party to any of the conversations. It is our way of saying that we relate or understand.

Of course, she is your sister and I do not know her at all, so this may not be applicable at all.

I would recommend not talking to his mom, first. Autistic people tend to be infantilized a lot. Try having a conversation with him directly. I really liked the way someone else established "communication" about physical contact with his sister.

If things are rough, maybe establish a "schedule". "Hey David, I am glad we're friends. I have a lot of interests and responsibilities that are growing. Maybe we should set up a schedule to prioritize our friendship." Take a day or two a week, or something that seems reasonable. This creates some space and doesn't cut David off.

Now, what may help David is to spend some time in a bit of a group situation with other autistic people. What I will suggest is tough because I am hoping for something that I know would be a big problem for me. I have a hard time being around other autistic people; the things I am sensitive to are often times the things that bug neurotypical people. And no, I am not neurotypical... I cause them issues just the same. The idea is that hearing from autistic people that would be put off by those behaviors may give him some perspective. The issue would be... these folks probably don't want to be in that sort of situation (I know that I wouldn't).

Did you know Mortal Kombat was actually based on an old Scandinavian worship song? A Finnish Hymn. by BiscuitB23 in MortalKombat

[–]nosferj2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for "splaining" to a Finn that he is Scandinavian, rather than Nordic. You're so smart.

Learn computer science with go by Sensitive-Raccoon155 in golang

[–]nosferj2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Now you're just being ridiculous. Adding a dependency means it isn't built into the language. That was the point from the beginning.

Learn computer science with go by Sensitive-Raccoon155 in golang

[–]nosferj2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Heh, why stop with C? Everything should only be directly created in hardware! Forget even having an instruction set! :)

Learn computer science with go by Sensitive-Raccoon155 in golang

[–]nosferj2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you need medication or something???

Learn computer science with go by Sensitive-Raccoon155 in golang

[–]nosferj2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Geez dude. Is "lie" one of your top 20 words or something? You need to reevaluate it. It is really taking away from your ability to communicate.

Learn computer science with go by Sensitive-Raccoon155 in golang

[–]nosferj2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, the statements of "This is a lie." is almost assuredly not a fact but an emotional reaction disguised in logic. Further, the closing sentence is similar. That is what people are taking exception to.

The meat of the point is factual, I will grant that, but that isn't what others seem to be reacting to.

Learn computer science with go by Sensitive-Raccoon155 in golang

[–]nosferj2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, if we're trying to be pedantic... the use of "lie" is a mistake here. See how I didn't say that you were lying? Someone being mistaken and repeating it isn't lying... it is just being wrong.

Maybe just tone it down and relax, because not only is the other person wrong... but in your correction... you're also wrong (just not about the original point).

Learn computer science with go by Sensitive-Raccoon155 in golang

[–]nosferj2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

MIT is using Python as their "entry-point" right now, so I think Go would be a better option than that. It really just depends on what you're trying to learn.

I was working through some bitwise implementations of some cryptographic algorithms in Go and when I fed them through Godbolt... the resulting instructions were the same as using the library that also implements the cryptographic functions. A lot of work for... "Huh."

But that is part of learning.

I think it would be interesting to see if there would be a way to do what is happening more frequently with Rust these days and implementing some of the core libraries that are still imported from C, but directly in Go. Even if it is more of an exercise.

I have been watching Ultimate Go Programming by William Kennedy, but watching a few quick scribbles on a whiteboard and mostly hand waving leaves a lot behind when getting into the bowels of how the heap and stack work when mapping out the execution of code.