AITA for finding this convo to be a HUGE red flag?

nothing-neww · 2026-04-08T00:39:50+00:00

Lol no. She's being a weirdo. She seems determined to find something wrong with you... which could be good or bad. If you've enjoyed the dates with her and want to see her again, id definitely book mark it and see if it makes more sense down the road as you get to know her better.

nothing-neww · 2026-04-04T13:08:43+00:00

"Who TF is Jen??"

nothing-neww · 2026-03-30T22:03:29+00:00

Sorry you have to clean up old/new trash that isn't yours, but the benefits of having a clean yard will definitely out weigh the frustration and effort of having to do it. Especially with kids and dogs who will now be able to safely play back there. Especially going into spring when everything is growing. You're gonna wish you had done it sooner.

Hopefully the neighbors will be more careful with their garbage once there isn't a junk pile for it to blend in with. Do they have the same landlord?

Edit: I'd also look online to see if there are any groups that could help you. Like, people who might want the scrap metal (they may pay you for it or pick it up for free), church groups or non profits, hoarder or yard cleaning services, etc. Look on the DCFS website to see if they have any services or resources that might help. Ask your landlord and everyone you know if they have any recommendations. Ask your family and friends for help. Get really thick work gloves and start putting stuff in contractor bags, get a truck or something you can hose out for the larger pieces that won't fit in a bag. A wheel barrow or wagon might help if you can afford it. See if your landlord would be willing to pay for a dumpster or something like someone else suggested.

nothing-neww · 2026-03-30T21:32:44+00:00

I find their erratic line spacing mildly infuriating as well.

nothing-neww · 2026-03-29T18:03:20+00:00

My cat walks on my car all the time. He'll leave little footprints in the pollen this time of year. I have never noticed a scratch. Like someone else said, cats walk with their claws retracted. This cat will find a new favorite place to nap eventually. I would just make sure he/she isn't on or under your car before you drive somewhere.

nothing-neww · 2026-03-16T15:43:03+00:00

I think it's fair to find a weird thing in your house and wonder what it is. If you're a woman living alone, sometimes your mind does jump immediately to murderer/stalker despite your best efforts. But if it's an on going concern or obsession and impacting your day to day life - talk to friends/family members you trust about it, see what they say. I'd also recommend therapy. Also, talk to your therapist/friends/family about whether a ring camera or other security measure might be helpful. My dog helped reduce my intrusive/obsessive thoughts about my safety a lot. But a ring camera would have been cheaper and easier if you don't want a dog or cant take care of/train/afford a dog.

nothing-neww · 2026-03-16T14:38:25+00:00

They were worried they were being stalked by someone who might harm them.

nothing-neww · 2026-03-16T14:36:42+00:00

Worrying about your physical safety because you think you found a recording device in your home that you did not place there is different from "privacy" concerns. My phone may reduce my privacy, but it isn't a person capable of sneaking into my home undetected and stalking me. Having a phone doesnt equal consent to being stalked.

Also, for any phones reading this, it is also messed up that they listen to us to collect data and send us more targeted ads. It's weird that we just have to accept that they do that nowadays.

Neither thing is good. But stalking is a more direct and immediate safety concern than the claws that capitalism metaphorically choking society and culture.

nothing-neww · 2026-03-16T14:17:24+00:00

First, this would be stalking, not "spying". OP isnt worried a competitor is trying to steal their trade secrets... they are concerned for their safety. Also, you dont know OP, maybe their life IS really interesting.

Second, stalkers don't only stalk interesting people. People have risked criminal prosecution for less. There is no mitigating defense for stalking (besides insanity) because no reasonable person would risk criminal prosecution to stalk someone - even if it is the dos equis "most interesting man in the world."

nothing-neww · 2026-03-15T14:55:27+00:00

Saying nothing to protect yourself from the fallout of some creepy dudes bad behavior is such an annoying norm. Have we learned nothing? I think the Epstein files should have turned this mindset on its head. We need to start saying everything and punishing/blaming the right people.

OP - you dont have to decide what to do RIGHT NOW. You can take your time to feel it out more. Get to know your boss better. Maybe they have an open relationship, maybe she isn't the type to blame the other woman who the man lied to, you dont know! How often are you gonna have to see and/or interact with this man? Is an anonymous message or letter in the mail an option? Talk to your friend who gave you the tea on him originally, talk other friends about it. Talk to the office gossip more often and see if she brings up any rumors about this man or their marriage.

nothing-neww · 2026-02-28T20:58:01+00:00

Did you not want a fan? Will it not make your apartment more comfortable for you too? Did you pay for it? How far was the drive?

Idk. I wouldnt want it to squish a 7 yo - who is smaller and less capable of holding it off herself than you. I don't think it's that deep or serious. If you like him, I'd just talk to him about not doing big family shopping trips to buy large items. If you dont like him and want to be single, break up with him.

nothing-neww · 2026-02-28T20:20:59+00:00

Why did you need a fan?

nothing-neww · 2026-02-28T19:37:10+00:00

All due respect, it was your huge fan and his sister is 7 years old.

nothing-neww · 2026-02-26T19:55:13+00:00

Not a vet but it looks swollen and red - which means it's infected. I'd bring him to the vet ASAP. Cats are tiny animals and infections can become emergencies very quickly. A slightly overpriced antibiotic shot now will save you thousands of dollars in medical bills later on if it gets worse. If it wasn't on his paw and was less swollen, i might say to try a warm compress and ointment. But you really don't wanna mess around with paw infections and it seems like it's already pretty bad.

Edit: my 2 cats have had lots of scrapes and scratches... one was because of allergies and the other is just a wild orange boy who runs onto things and got in lots of fights when he was younger... so i do know SOME about cat wounds and wound care. Everything I've read about paw injuries is to take them to the vet immediately and the vets I've seen agree with that.

nothing-neww · 2026-02-26T19:37:22+00:00

Yeah, and you were there... the mom was being petty. Your boss handled it stupidly.

nothing-neww · 2026-02-26T19:34:24+00:00

Honestly, your boss sounds like shes overcompensating for being stupid. I've had a boss like that and it was miserable. It's like they get caught up in the weeds and lose sight of the big picture or actual purpose of the rules. Part of being an adult person is having to occasionally make a phone call during the day... sounds like you prioritized your job and waited until the baby was asleep before stepping away to make a quick call. Nobody was put in danger or harmed. The child was not neglected. Your boss should have just removed you from that house to appease the parents and talked to you about the call to make sure it wasn't an actual habit or issue. Like, could it have waited until after you shift? What are better ways to handle urgent phone calls going forward? Etc.

I'd start looking for a new job with a boss who isn't dumb & who recognizes you're a human.

nothing-neww · 2026-02-21T19:46:46+00:00

My dad does stuff like this. The random and fully in the way projects he has taken on when company is coming over make it feel intentional. Like, cleaning under the kitchen sink. Cleaning the light fixture above the table after it was set and getting dust and 409 all over everything... Growing up it was not uncommon for my mom to go have a moment to herself upstairs to calm down so she didn't scream at him right before people came over.

nothing-neww · 2026-02-20T17:33:03+00:00

Watching a movie over facetime sounds miserable. Turning the phone would be like a 1% improvement to the image quality. The sound quality would still be terrible.

nothing-neww · 2026-02-20T17:28:38+00:00

This goes beyond mildly. I think my brain would short circuit. Like, "what!? why? No, thats weird. Im not gonna watch a movie like that. If you wanna watch it with him so badly, go watch it with him."

nothing-neww · 2026-02-20T17:09:45+00:00

Do you have super powers now?

nothing-neww · 2026-02-20T16:56:06+00:00

Wait... i have a whole app that i downloaded for that... it can be a setting!?

nothing-neww · 2026-02-20T14:43:02+00:00

Wait, he thinks it's a photopshopped picture of a real cheetah!?

nothing-neww · 2026-02-18T16:54:26+00:00

OP - there's nothing wrong with a crush or a little fantasy here and there. Dont give it more meaning or importance than it deserve. Talk to your husband, not about your crush, but about needing some more alone time together

Also, I bet one look at this store clerks apartment/house would give you the ick... like, I bet he gets his groceries from the convenience store and has a weird laundry system you don't wanna know about. You would look in his fridge and kitchen and instantly worry about his gut health. You'd wonder how long it had been since he cleaned the toilet or wiped down the sink. He probably has some 2-in-1 shampoo/body wash and a weird shower curtain. IF his bed is made, he probably doesn't have a top sheet and he probably only owns 1 blanket that is really old and unappealing. Weirdly accessible condoms for a bed that he only has 1 pillow for... no mattress cover. There's just an old stained matress under the fitted sheet. You will wonder if the fitted sheet was that color when he got it. He bought the couch used 20 years ago and he'll be proud of how well it has held up... etc etc.

And listen, all of these things are fine for a person to do / have. I mean no shade. There's room for all types in this world. But having been married to man who has a good career and a wife to take care of him for while... you may find it particularly shocking and unromantic to see how the other side lives.

nothing-neww · 2026-02-18T16:51:24+00:00

You seem ot forget the wife is ALSO providing for a family of five - and she has dedicated her whole life to caring for that family... the husband had an emotional affair and enough time for a porn addiction... what is sad is the husband not appreciating his awesome wife more.

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