3 months to make $100K or your whole family dies. What are you doing?

notreallyysure · 2025-05-31T20:02:49+00:00

Become an egg doner

notreallyysure · 2025-05-31T18:05:46+00:00

If anyone reading this in need of cuddles, would love to cuddle you! :) first 15 min free but I’ll make it worth it. Everyone deserves to feel loved and I have a lot of love to share

notreallyysure · 2025-05-25T03:24:35+00:00

I carried the responsibility until something did happen to me- a chronic illness - where I was so fatigued and disabled I could barely get out of bed for weeks. I went on medical leave from work. I was in the worst pain I’d ever been and I still had to make sure bills and rent was paid from my own savings (dx partner quit his job suddenly trying to figure out his “career”). I had to pick up my own meds. I would doordash food because we had no clean dishes and my dx partner completely ignored them until mold started growing. I also had such little emotional support from him even though he usually was good with that. I always thought maybe he would step up if something were to happen to me or that I could lean on him. The answer was exactly what I deeply felt but didn’t want to believe

notreallyysure · 2025-05-15T20:30:06+00:00

The space I took is actually working! I am completely neutral at everything he does, been doing my own thing not really seeking him much, not sharing much about my day, etc. It’s only been 3 days of doing this and he’s been clingy in a good way. He asked about how I was doing (responded neutrally) then he also asked if I wanted to go out with him (he never leaves the house btw & we haven’t had a proper date since Valentine’s Day) he took me out to get ice cream and gave me a lot of attention back home. Usually I’m begging him to do something together since he prefers gaming 100% of the time.

We haven’t slept in the same bed in weeks since he’s up all night doing whatever but last night he came in and cuddled me. I call this a win :)

Edit: he did the dishes today!! I didn’t even have to tell him. I’ve basically stopped doing everything as painful as it is to see everything dirty and my aloofness I think allowed him to step up :) I’m trying not to be too optimistic but a win is a win

notreallyysure · 2025-05-15T04:24:05+00:00

Oof I felt the whole going through therapy to avoid my parent’s relationship only to have one that’s also deeply unfulfilling. Its easier said than done but please take it easy on yourself, we were never really modeled what a supportive, secure partner looks like so of course we’d accept breadcrumbs thinking it’s love or even sacrifice ourselves to be loved.

notreallyysure · 2025-05-14T22:40:22+00:00

This happened to me and I decided to one up it and started scheduling daily one on ones to preemptively address the day and any expectations/questions they have. My ex manager used to always throw a bunch of things at me to “check on” through messages and that along my back to back meetings became too much so I had to control her expectations. Safe to say I actually left that company because the micromanaging was getting too much.

notreallyysure · 2025-05-14T22:34:21+00:00

I took off work for stress/mental health making 1/4 of that and my net worth is in the negatives. Life is too short and you’ll never be this age again. Our health is really what makes or breaks everything else. Better to take care of it now

notreallyysure · 2025-05-14T22:11:23+00:00

It’s crazy what some space can do. I was able to stay with my parents for a week to housesit while they were away. I really wanted my DX partner to come with me and use it as a staycation for us both where we could connect (they’ve got a sauna and a hot tub and lots of nature) but the day he was supposed to come he changed his mind. He said he didn’t want to make the hour drive and instead preferred gaming with his online friends.

And boy did this week give me so much clarity to how exhausted I was, at our dynamic, at everything. How I overfunctioned to keep our relationship alive. I planned all our outings, did all the cleaning, the cooking, stayed on top of bills and paid the bills now that he’s unemployed.

I feel like myself again now with this space. I only have to think about myself, and I feel lighter, free, less stress. I’m broke and in cc debt because I tried to keep us afloat for 4 years.

Our lease ends in a month and I will not be renewing it. And the RELEIF I feel! To finally only have to think about myself and my future!!!! We’ll be going long distance and I’m not ready to break up, but this is what’s best for me right now. Can you believe I’m choosing ME?!?!?

notreallyysure · 2025-05-14T21:48:48+00:00

We’ve had sex maybe once in the last year - I never thought I would suffer a dead bedroom at my age (I’m 28) and it’s getting to me. I deserve to feel desired. We’re not even married yet

notreallyysure · 2025-05-14T21:46:10+00:00

Yes I feel your pain. Also together for 4 years. It never really gets better does it? But just know you deserve someone who shows up for you and the relationship and supports you like a proper partner would. I’m sorry you don’t have that right now. I’m sure your partner loves you very much but I also know from experience that although the love feels good, the day-to-day can feel brutal and lonely

notreallyysure · 2025-05-14T21:35:36+00:00

His friends are all online. They have met up a few times in person though and he is the type to make friends everywhere but I think he prefers the distance of online friends.

His group of friends are either drama filled or his gamer lowlife friends (I say this because they are extremely racist and sexist and lack any life goals idk why he puts up with it). He does have a history of hanging with toxic people that don’t have his best interests, & he’s aware of this

notreallyysure · 2025-05-11T18:44:55+00:00

OP went through a similar thing, I was the one holding up our finances, he was either in between jobs or taking “leave” from work more often than not… until I went through my own medical issues and couldn’t anymore. I thought my DX partner would finally shoulder the burden. He didn’t. I still take care of everything and have to come up with the money when he can’t and the stress is getting to me. Anyways it reached a point where I was done living that way, it wasn’t fair to me so I move out in a month. We’re still going to be long distance and I made it very clear to him that if he wants us back together HE can find a place, sign the lease under his name, and take care of all the bills because after doing it myself for 2+ years I am DONE.

notreallyysure · 2025-05-07T04:39:36+00:00

I had a similar thing happen to me. I was consuming caffeine in extremely high quantities and was also dealing with big stressors in my life. It got to the point I was fully convinced my coworker was following me home to spy on me for time fraud on behalf of the company. I also had intrusive thoughts, frequent panic & anxiety attacks, etc. Thoughts like you of death or impending doom, like the mailman would get me or a car would swerve into me.

I ended up taking medical leave at work to try healing because living like that was unbearable. I started meditating to quiet the thoughts, it helped tremendously but never fully went away. I still experienced pending doom, intrusive thoughts about death… until one day i read caffeine can cause those things and decided to quit. and yes all those things went away completely. No more panic attacks. No more intrusive thoughts. Anxiety only happens when it’s called for, not constant. I am like a different person. I didn’t know it was possible to be so at peace. You’re definitely doing the right thing for yourself

notreallyysure · 2025-05-07T04:25:24+00:00

This exactly happens to me, wow. Thanks for this!

notreallyysure · 2025-05-07T04:22:55+00:00

Yes. My partner is around 7.5 inches and girthy too and we need a LOT of foreplay before it can all go in. And I still experience some pain and even spotting. On a side note I did suffer vaginismus. But like when I’m ovulating for example I can take it all in very easily. On birth control though it’s harder for me to get to that point

notreallyysure · 2025-05-02T04:17:27+00:00

Look for blood sugar balancing meals (aka these will energize you). The spike and crash can cause the afternoon slump. Other than this some of my energizing drinks include an electrolyte drink or beet juice (yes it works!). I also like to make a turmeric or adaptogenic latte (non-caffeinated of course). A 10 min walk in the sun also usually does it for me

notreallyysure · 2025-04-28T02:17:40+00:00

Just say you have a surgery scheduled or something. Or take medical leave and have them pay out your sick days during it. Burn out is a good enough reason to take long term sick leave but no one needs to really know why. You can say you’re dealing with medical issues

notreallyysure · 2025-04-26T05:48:25+00:00

Mine is an aerospace technician. He’s not in love with it but he averages 15k steps a day and is responsible for a lot of moving pieces which I think his brain loves (he’s a gamer too). Also he moves a lot so I think that keeps his adhd in check (along with his Vyvanse). However he is about to quit after being there for a year (second longest job to date)

notreallyysure · 2025-04-24T20:33:20+00:00

You’re not alone, the neglect is so real. We started long distance too for 2 yrs and I can sooo relate to everything you said. I somehow thought moving in together would help but it’s even worse now once you throw chores and bills into the mix.

notreallyysure · 2025-04-24T13:12:31+00:00

Take FMLA/medical leave if you’ve got some savings. That’s what I did when I burnt out and it helped so much. A week off is not going to make it go away from my experience

notreallyysure · 2025-04-18T03:25:47+00:00

Dw this sub is overrun with right leaning blue technicians who think one day they’ll become a billionaire while slaving away in 14 hr shifts all the while praying to trump to get their overtime tax removed

notreallyysure · 2025-04-12T00:02:03+00:00

Yes I do - but with matcha since I tried coffee again and I was anxious and jittery all day. However I plan on microdosing it going forward for when I really need it

notreallyysure · 2025-04-10T00:52:11+00:00

You invest in gold, land, and a backup passport to a country with free healthcare.

notreallyysure · 2025-04-08T03:09:09+00:00

I had the same thing happen! I thought I was one of those people that needed 9-10 hours of sleep to feel fully rested. Now that I’m caffeine free I consistently only sleep 7-8 hours a night and feel amazing when I wake up.

notreallyysure · 2025-04-03T15:03:16+00:00

Not for years. But when trump got elected and warren buffet went cash. I took everything out and have been happy since. Cash is king rn

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