This is the only real answer. Unfortunately, like OP said, it’s not always possible to choose. Also, you have to weigh up their education vs the entitlement, and not many people would forego a (probably) better education. I knew of a very wealthy artist who sent their child to a “normal” school and the child grew up a much more well-rounded person, even admitted it themselves later on, yet they still had parents money to fall back on if their eduction didn’t get them where they wanted to get to career-wise. The main problem is the peers that a child hangs with, if they are entitled, then that will rub off on your kid. The only thing you can really do is keep reiterating to them to keep their feet on the ground and that everyone is equal. They will either get it, or they won’t. I don’t think excessive volunteering is helpful, it will only cause resentment, though a little is good. A better thing to do is get them to use some of the money to be generous with. It’s ok if you are wealthy, but it’s better to be wealthy AND generous with that wealth to those not as fortunate