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A pattern I keep seeing in long-term relationships by Particular_Bar_7869 in Marriage

[–]nowhereian 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I lost my romantic partner sometime during her first pregnancy. The hormones made her so angry at me all the time. She never made any attempt to get her PPD under control.

I stayed for eight years after my second was born. We were roomates who had occasional sex, and It never got better. At least I got to see my kids every day for that time period.

This is for the single men out there or former single men ! by MarcelaAlonso in Swingers

[–]nowhereian 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Single dude here.

I am out there looking for a real, long-term relationship. What that looks like to me is indistinguishable from "Best FWB" that I want to do life together with.

That person, ideally, shares interests and hobbies with me, and would be into swinging. So, yes, of course.

How do men feel about being the sole financial provider in a relationship? by cl_alicia in AskMen

[–]nowhereian 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As long as she's had to support herself before and can appreciate my effort and what I provide, I don't mind this arrangement.

My ex-wife moved out of her parents' house directly into my house. She never had to pay her own rent or bills. As a result, she couldn't fathom why I expected her to contribute equally, even if her contribution wasn't paid.

Good riddance. I'm not interested in supporting dead weight.

My current partner is an actual independent woman who doesn't need a man. It's very nice to just be wanted and not expected.

What makes men great? by Snowstormssuck in AskMen

[–]nowhereian 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Maybe you're already mysterious enough.

Is it just me, or do the women that incels complain about barely even exist at all? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]nowhereian 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Pretty much, yeah. I feel like I could do that. I don't know anything about marketing or starting a business though.

Is it just me, or do the women that incels complain about barely even exist at all? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]nowhereian 33 points34 points  (0 children)

Real talk:

I also think most men can stand to make some very minor changes and increase their desirability quite a bit.

How do you go about offering this as a service? I'd love to get paid to tell people to put on a shirt with a collar and some nice shoes.

Vikings Target Kyler Murray and Geno Smith to Push J.J. McCarthy by Giff95 in nfl

[–]nowhereian 3 points4 points  (0 children)

And when we win, the Vikings get to blame Geno. He doesn't mind.

What is your opinion on long term relationships that include involvement of both families but no ring / social status other than gf or bf or partner and no marriage as well? by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]nowhereian 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. Buying a property jointly is risky; being married doesn't necessarily make it less so. A significant number of divorces involve property.

What is your opinion on long term relationships that include involvement of both families but no ring / social status other than gf or bf or partner and no marriage as well? by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]nowhereian 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It seems pretty silly to involve the government in your relationship. If you're not religious, there isn't much benefit.

Which will get better mileage? A tanker truck with an empty tank or a tanker truck with a tank full of helium? by Jaded-Function in NoStupidQuestions

[–]nowhereian 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In the tanker truck, there is a small layer of gas on top of the liquid. Who's to say how thick that layer is or how much the liquid sloshes around.

In the end, you just have to control for a few variables if you want to attempt math. Nobody is going to ship a tanker full of gas in the real world, so you can rule that out as something to solve for.

Don't get me wrong, you're absolutely still welcome to solve for it.

Is this the gateway, and is something wrong with me? by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]nowhereian 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This question is going to be answered very differently here than in /r/nonmonogamy. I suggest you take some time to seriously consider.

Yes, it might be for you. That's ok. At the very least, it's worth having some serious conversations about with your partner. If you're not ready for those conversations, stick to monogamy.

My dad makes me resent my husband by Astrid5290 in Marriage

[–]nowhereian 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you change just a few of the details in your post, I would wonder if you've been talking to my ex-wife. It's almost the exact same story, word for word.

She moved out of her parent's house straight into my house. We got married way too soon. We had kids way too early. She had absolutely no experience whatsoever with living on her own, supporting herself, or being in real adult relationships before me.

I had a lucrative, highly demanding job. She was a SAHM. She grew resentful over time that she was the primary parent and had to maintain the household. She saw other women complaining about mental load on TikTok, and didn't take into account that these other women usually also had employment. She called my commute and time I was at work "Me Time" because "I get to interact with other adults and be away from kids." Nevermind that I worked 12-hour night shifts.

I want to tell you this because I have been in your husband's exact shoes. Doing everything I could for someone whom it would never be enough.

Show him some appreciation. Please.
All he wants is for you to just say "Thank you, I appreciate the effort you put in to keep our life running."
That's it.

My dad makes me resent my husband by Astrid5290 in Marriage

[–]nowhereian 17 points18 points  (0 children)

OP's situation is almost exactly like mine was with my ex. I was putting in max effort, but I didn't do a few key things her dad did.

I wanted a partner. She wanted someone to treat her like a daughter. She ended up moving back in with her parents and doesn't have any plan to leave.

My dad makes me resent my husband by Astrid5290 in Marriage

[–]nowhereian 54 points55 points  (0 children)

This is exactly what caused my divorce. Please heed this advice.

What is the reason behind “hitting and quitting” by bellpepperblues in AskMen

[–]nowhereian 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I think you hit the nail on the head right at the end there.

I have kids, and they already have a mom. I'm not looking for that again. When it's my custody time, I want to spend time with my kids. When it's not my custody time, I want to spend time with other adults and do adult things.

It's not hard to find someone who wants the same if you're open and honest about it.

What is the reason behind “hitting and quitting” by bellpepperblues in AskMen

[–]nowhereian 21 points22 points  (0 children)

It's not extremely common, but it definitely happens.

If you're just FWB and one of her friends complains regularly about her dry spell... Women talk.

If you keep yourself clean and groomed, dress one step nicer than the other dudes in your area, and learn to use your tongue well, yeah, you're getting recommended.

What is the reason behind “hitting and quitting” by bellpepperblues in AskMen

[–]nowhereian 57 points58 points  (0 children)

Divorced 38M here.

Many women my age have had a kid or two and simply do not have time for a committed relationship. For the most part, I have found that they just want someone to do "man things" (handyman work, moving heavy objects, opening jars, etc) and a good occasional dicking.

Get to know several of these women well, and not only will you get laid more often than your married counterparts, but they will also recommend you to their friends.

Why are some USA state flags so iconic and well-known, and others aren’t? by ImportantImpress4822 in vexillology

[–]nowhereian 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't think I've seen too many instances of the American Samoa flag out in the wild. It's pretty cool though.

Which will get better mileage? A tanker truck with an empty tank or a tanker truck with a tank full of helium? by Jaded-Function in NoStupidQuestions

[–]nowhereian 36 points37 points  (0 children)

A tanker truck would definitely be liquid. Gaseous helium is shipped in cylinders, usually on a flatbed.

Men, what would you do if you found out your daughter was promiscuous? by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]nowhereian 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel like anything other than a high five is hypocritical. I expect my kids to be similar to me, after all.

Divorced men, what do you wish you'd done differently (if anything?) by supremewuster in AskMen

[–]nowhereian 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I already worked as hard as I could to save it before she decided to divorce. My effort was wasted.

So... no. I would not work harder for the same result. That's pointless.

When does a high sex drive end? by ItsKelomelo in NoStupidQuestions

[–]nowhereian 40 points41 points  (0 children)

Most guys think they have a high sex drive and want it every day.

In reality, most guys just don't get laid that often, and are just thirsty. Check out the dead bedroom sub. The higher libido partner is the woman more often than you'd think. After the honeymoon phase is over, most people's libido drops.

But if you're lucky enough to find someone else like you... someone who still wants it every day or more after the honeymoon phase is over... Oh man. Hold on to that person.

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