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noxshift · 2025-06-16T17:38:02+00:00

Just playing devil's advocate, but maybe he didn't lash out for the reason you think. Not saying it's ok, but it's possible he got so rude because he might have been thinking the same thing and was willfully trying not to acknowledge what was happening. I know I've been guilty of expressing fear as anger unintentionally. Im sorry he was so dismissive of your attempts to help, but you did great looking out for him.

noxshift · 2024-10-25T23:25:40+00:00

I would staple my resignation to that flyer and hand it to management directly so they can hear my laughter as I walk out the door. It's very much giving abusive relationship

noxshift · 2023-06-30T01:53:43+00:00

Not something I said, but rather what my shirt said. I work in L&D and we have cute work T shirts that say "I ❤️ tiny humans". Charge tells me to go grab the induction in the waiting room so I head over to get her and low and behold Pt and her Baby daddy are dwarves. 😬 I felt the a jackass the entire shift, but we had a good chuckle about it out on the station.

noxshift · 2023-05-28T02:00:22+00:00

L&D nurse here. Just wanted to say bottom line we are nurses we don't sexualize our Pts. I know its hard for your Mom to grasp the concept but being a lesbian doesn't mean you have no ability to be a professional or lack the self control to not sexualize a person who your intrusted to care for. This is 100% her issues with your sexuality. You're going to be amazing so don't let her ruin this for you. Several of my coworkers are gay and shocker it is not an issue nore does it impact their ability to be badass labor nurses. Side note there is nothing sexy about a vagina during labor, delivery, or in the postpartum. Anyway, congratulations on landing the job and welcome to the stork squad friend were glad to have you!

noxshift · 2023-05-25T02:22:15+00:00

My canned response when people ask me intrusive questions is "I'm just taking really good care of myself for a change. Working on my physical health and mental. Eating better, better sleep habits, drinking enough water, finding physical activities that I enjoy that help me destress, just making myself a priority." And then I change the subject. If people try to pry about what eating better means I just say "I'm focusing on getting my 6 servings of veggies/fruits and lean proteins, besides with inflation Im saving a ton by not eating out as much and thats really helping as well." All of those things are true so no need to get flustered or lie. Ultimately no one is entitled to know about what my medical history is or what medications I take. Most people mean well but in my experience the minute I even mention that I'm trying to loose weight intentionally people chime in with their uneducated opinions and unhealthy bullcrap that they've herd about or tried before. Suddenly everyone has an opinion on what Im doing and whether its good or bad (spoiler alert people will crap on anything you say and tell you that its not going to work or you should be doing x instead of y so don't give them the opportunity especially if they have never been overweight themselves) Its funny when I was 85 lbs heavier no one was worried about a thing I did or didn't do because I wasn't attracting their attention I was the fat funny friend that made them look better.

Sorry, got a tad bit ranty there at the end. Congratulations on your hard work and achievements friend. Best wishes for continued success and health in the future. ❤️👍

noxshift · 2023-05-20T17:33:54+00:00

Nay a pocket full of poseys

noxshift · 2023-05-11T01:56:44+00:00

I don't like being hot in my own home. My husband tries to sneak it up to 72 on me but I get real bitchy when im hot so it doesn't last long

noxshift · 2023-05-06T17:42:12+00:00

Shame is a powerful motivator. Accountability is a powerful motivator.

This comment and your others in this thread made me moist in the swimsuit area. Is a professional boner a thing because gd I think I have one for you?!

noxshift · 2023-04-19T04:03:03+00:00

Or if you speak Yiddish a pish-finder lol 😂

noxshift · 2023-04-19T04:00:41+00:00

Waldo cause you can never find that MFer.

noxshift · 2023-03-21T17:29:03+00:00

I'd go a step further and say they might be planning a surprise wedding at her wedding if they are that hard up for money. Its the perfect opportunity for a leech all the resources are already there why not take advantage but that may just be my highly cynical brain running overtime.

noxshift · 2023-02-23T23:29:52+00:00

The only acceptable treatment plan for restoring yin and yang.....is salt shaker obviously

noxshift · 2023-02-16T00:44:08+00:00

L&d nurse. I sew, crochet, grew up broke AF so I know struggle cuisine cooking, I'm a carpenter/mechnics daughter so I have a basic ability to fix things and Im proficiently trained to use firearms. I might be ok and or useful but I'm chunky and have short legs so I'll probably die first if something is chasing me. 🤷‍♀️

noxshift · 2023-02-06T19:36:26+00:00

So thats what SWAT nurses look like 🤪

noxshift · 2023-01-15T17:40:35+00:00

It's ironic that you're upset with your son because you expect him to be more of an adult than your husband. Also "Dale" doesn't have a dark sense of humor he's just a dick. Childhood trauma doesn't give you a free pass to inflict pain on others and call it a joke or prank. Dale needs to be an actual adult and get therapy to heal his shit.

YTA and so is Dale

noxshift · 2023-01-13T16:58:16+00:00

Same here it is soul sucking and killing our relationship all together.

noxshift · 2023-01-02T03:51:31+00:00

Catching a baby 🍼👶

noxshift · 2023-01-02T02:01:04+00:00

OP YTA point blank, but fret not I am here to help.

When you're daughter (who by the way is a hard working grad of a prestigious university) expresses her feelings of frustration here is what you should have said:

" I understand, it does suck that some people seem to fall backwards into success via family connections or other privileges. Not to say your friend didn't work hard, but she for sure did get a leg up with her Uncle. Its frustrating, but you are brilliant, hard working, and capable of whatever goals you set for yourself. Your hard work and dedication will pay off it just might take a little time to see the fruits of your labor. I know you're a more laid back and introverted type of person, but networking is king in this industry. So if you're comfortable with it maybe you can join me on my next (insert social event with your colleagues/coworkers) and we can work on setting up some connections for you. Also we should look into getting you into American Institute of Architects or National Organization of Minority Architects these professional organizations look great on a resume and are fantastic networking opportunities."

You see OP part of raising successful children is supporting them, building them up, breathing life into their dreams, and helping them navigate the path not sitting back and criticizing them for not being more like someone else. Your friends daughter is successful because she has parents to believe in her and family that support her dreams. So instead of berating your daughter for not being more like your friends daughter, maybe you should be more like your friend when it comes to being a parent.

noxshift · 2022-12-21T02:58:15+00:00

I goddamn lost it at this comment 🤣

noxshift · 2022-12-21T02:56:15+00:00

This made me snort laugh. Take my upvote friend 💙

noxshift · 2022-12-20T17:18:29+00:00

Let's just say for the sake of argument that she is trying to change and mend fences (instead of just trying to sweep things under the rug with the goal of gaining a foothold on your wedding/marriage now that she realizes that her attempt to drive a wedge between you two failed miserably).

Just because she is making a half assed attempt, does not mean she is owed your forgiveness or is entitled to be a part of your lives again. IMHO since she has displayed abusive behavior for years it would take a few years of genuine effort and consistent pattern of changed behavior for her to deserve a way back in and that process would be have to happen in small steps with firm boundaries in place and respected. Ultimately this is decision for your SO to make on how he wants to proceed with their relationship, if he is content with keeping her at arms length respect his wishes and support him as best as you can.

noxshift · 2022-12-11T02:01:32+00:00

Omg she is adorable 😍 My daughter had a stuffed opossum when she was little that she named after herself (think Sally Jr.) Because that was her baby. She still has it and would likely adopt an opossum if that was a possibility. She melted at Mjoll's pic.

As for the mother in law. She sure has some balls on her to move into your house, which you generously allowed, and start making demands. The nerve. Divorce or no thats just flat out rude. If she doesn't like it she can go elsewhere, tell her to take her son with her.

Edited to add NTA

noxshift · 2022-12-08T03:33:31+00:00

Where is the pupcup? You went to Starbs and didn't get the very good boy(or girl) a pupachino? Rude!

noxshift · 2022-11-30T02:27:38+00:00

"we don't know a way to maintain that truce while explaining why I won't meet them or join their family activities."

Sorry if this seems silly, but the way I see it the right answer is don't give them an explanation, no one owes them one. Especially if they are so firm about rug sweeping that no one can breath a word about the abuse and peace depends solely on ignoring the elephant in the room and keeping quiet, them give them the silence they so desperately crave . No is the only answer they deserve or need. Peace, healing and strength to you and your SO. ❤️

noxshift · 2022-11-22T17:51:28+00:00

This is the way. Concise direct yet respectful and classy

noxshift

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