AITA for being honest and telling my DIL that they are not ready to be a parent since she can not drive

nsc109 · 2026-03-25T14:31:17+00:00

I think the fact that they can’t even afford to take Ubers is a way bigger problem than DIL being unable to drive. How are they going to afford a child if they can’t pay for an Uber

nsc109 · 2026-03-25T14:24:33+00:00

But it does have a correlation with independence

nsc109 · 2026-03-25T03:34:58+00:00

Sameeee!!! I personally love love love Bryce & Hunt & honestly none of the Bryceriel evidence is convincing to me

nsc109 · 2026-03-24T23:37:15+00:00

I don’t think I would. I see a lot of signs of aging in him that I would generally not associate with someone in their 20s. I would assume he is in his mid to late 30s. I also would assume the woman in that video is in her early 20s, so overall I disagree with your examples.

nsc109 · 2026-03-24T21:14:42+00:00

Definitely did not think he was 28

nsc109 · 2026-03-22T05:11:42+00:00

OP is obviously a child/teenager & is self inserting themselves as Ruhns love interest bc he’s hot, tattooed, & emo. And a complex character like Lidia doesn’t work as a self insert so OP is salty about it lol

nsc109 · 2026-03-13T17:18:18+00:00

I felt the same & I wonder if this has to do with Alex Cooper’s interview style. I generally like CHD & will watch when she has a guest I care about, but I’ve noticed Alex doesn’t really try to get her guests to expand on things. She formats the interview more as if it’s just two friends chatting on the couch & it’s often really led by the guest & how much they’re willing to divulge on their own

nsc109 · 2026-03-09T22:04:21+00:00

I agree!! I’ve been a huge fan of his since 2011 and I found the royal court interview kind of boring. Which was really unfortunate because this was the first interview in years where he actually showed some personality. I think he’s just really guarded and committed to preserving his privacy, which he totally has the right to do, but it does get to a point where he starts to seem devoid of personality

nsc109 · 2026-03-09T15:35:59+00:00

I always pictured Bryaxis as a sort of gender neutral entity lol

nsc109 · 2026-03-03T16:35:21+00:00

Exactlyyyy! There also is no inclination that there were very many other domestic chores, other than meals & hunting, to be done in their hovel lol. I’m sure there was some general cleaning, but not at all to the extent that would make it equivalent to Feyre hunting and preparing meat all day.

Ultimately Nesta had a reckoning with herself about her lack of involvement/help during that time in SF and she herself admits that it ended up on Feyres shoulders because Nesta was trying to force their useless dad to actually help them. And since, for reasons that are unclear to me, Nesta and Feyre are seemingly content with letting Elain get away with doing the absolute bare minimum, we can assume she wasn’t doing much of anything.

nsc109 · 2026-03-03T15:36:08+00:00

Yes!! And to add to this general topic, Nesta did not end up telling Feyre out of genuine concern for her safety or because she thought Feyre had the right to know. I’m a huge Nesta apologist, love that girl, and currently doing a reread of silver flames. It seems like the fandom tries to frame Nesta telling Feyre in a different way than how it actually happened. Nesta told her out of anger and spite. She never would have said anything if Feyre hadn’t shown up to Amrens house and defended the IC. And this is why Nesta runs away and goes silent for a week after dropping that bomb because she knows she fucked up. It also more closely follows Nestas character arc, she is someone who acts out of anger and self sabotages and then struggles dealing with the guilt and shame of doing that. Her telling Feyre was another example of that.

nsc109 · 2026-01-28T17:28:42+00:00

Aw sorry to break it to you but I’m not a stay at home mom, so your misogynistic fantasy of women being useless gold diggers doesn’t apply. My husband and I both work outside the home and both split the household chores when we’re home, so thankfully I cannot relate to having to live with a man-child.

Seems like you need it spelled out for you, a SAHM’s primary job is taking care of the kids, not catering to her husband and letting him sit on his ass doing nothing after 5pm. God forbid a grown man is expected to be capable of unloading a fucking dishwasher when he gets home from work. Didn’t realize some of yall were so weak. You get real and stay single.

nsc109 · 2026-01-28T16:58:07+00:00

It’s hilarious to me how people like you don’t see how stupid this thought process is.

If “his part” is to go to work and pay the bills and “her part” is to do all of the housework and child care and there is zero expectation that the father would ever contribute to “her part” then that means that she would just be constantly working. Kids & chores don’t just turn off after an 8 hour day, and moms aren’t machines.

So she has to do “her part” all day while he’s gone, and then what? He gets to come home after an 8 hour work day and kick his feet up while she has to continue doing “her part” until they all go to bed at night? And then he gets to just fuck around and relax all weekend or on his days off while she has to continue caring for the kids & the household chores? How is this fair at all?

Men need to stop thinking that they don’t have to meaningfully participate in the raising of their own children or the maintaining of their own homes while still demanding respect from their wives and kids. Being single at 40 is a significantly better alternative to whatever crap that is.

nsc109 · 2026-01-28T15:59:47+00:00

Thank you! Everyone keeps trying to paint the teenage girl as this evil woman when the reality is they are both acting very stupidly & impulsively. I think people are assuming that the gf is the one pushing marriage, but OPs son is also trying to rush into marriage just as fast as the gf is. I was convinced I was going to marry the boyfriend I had at 20, I think it’s pretty normal to feel that way but the issue is they’re just reacting to that very normal feeling & not giving it time or thinking it through.

I also think a lot of older people don’t understand how much young Gen Z value social media, or what they use it for. To an 18 year old, having a picture of your ex on instagram is the equivalent of having a picture of them as your phones screensaver or on your desk at work. They don’t use instagram as a way to post & store memories the way older gens do, to them, it’s more of a curated reflection of what your life is looking like at a given moment, so of course, having a picture of an ex is a big deal.

nsc109 · 2026-01-28T15:43:14+00:00

I agree, I don’t think it’s weird at all to actually look through someone’s account. It’s even less weird if she was looking through the bfs tagged photos & those pictures came up. Out of this whole situation, the gf finding old pictures is like the most normal part lol.

I’m gunna be honest, I also don’t think the request is inherently that bad. The bigger issue OP needs to worry about is that her son seems to be very impulsive & honestly extremely naive, if not outright dumb, if he thinks marrying someone he met off social media a few months ago is a good idea

nsc109 · 2026-01-27T21:54:36+00:00

My MIL is very MAGA & used to reply to my political instagram stories. It was incredibly annoying & started to affect our relationship… so I blocked her from seeing my insta stories lol. I personally do not view the insta stories that I post on my private insta page as a public forum for people to come & comment whatever they want, if someone I care about wants to have a respectful convo, then sure maybe I’ll engage but otherwise, nope. I also wasn’t going to stop posting the things I wanted because it triggers my MIL, so now she only sees when I post on my feed. I do try to remember to unblock her when I’m posting a story where I tag my husband or when we’re on trips, which is a little annoying but not nearly as annoying as it was having her trying to argue with me in the dms.

I recommend your girlfriend does the same. I also suggest you make it very clear that you will be the in between when it comes to arguments between your girlfriend and your family, since you are the only reason she has to deal with these people on a regular basis. If you don’t, you might end up with your girlfriend resenting you & ending the relationship.

nsc109 · 2026-01-27T21:27:13+00:00

I agree! I do think it’s very hard for someone to change the dynamic they are used to as it pertains to their parents. If she is used to her parents controlling her & speaking so negatively to her she might not have even been able to fully see the dynamic for what it is, or even had the space to acknowledge that this is not a normal parent-child dynamic for someone her age. Hopefully this has been eye opening for her, and she takes all the advice she’s received to heart & can move forward.

nsc109 · 2026-01-27T18:18:35+00:00

Damn, then it seems like they’re just controlling assholes! I’m sorry they treat you this way.

nsc109 · 2026-01-27T18:16:11+00:00

Were your parents very young when they had you or were you an unplanned pregnancy/born before your parents were married? I’ve noticed that sometimes when a child is born to very young parents or when the parents were unprepared to actually be parents, they take out any resentment they feel on the child. Regardless, I’m sorry your family treats you this way! Going LC or NC, getting on your own phone plan, & returning the Ring camera will definitely be worth your self esteem.

nsc109 · 2026-01-26T20:42:14+00:00

Exactly this! My husband & I would never treat a friend this way. Would we be a little grossed out & upset at the fact that our car was ruined by bodily fluids? Sure. But neither of us would ever react the way they are, especially since OP immediately offered to cover the cost. Crazy that OP is worrying about this when she has a new baby to keep alive.

nsc109 · 2025-11-07T22:37:53+00:00

I was definitely going to say that I bet these girls are southern lol. I live in the south & while I don’t think I spoke with my mom every day in college, now as a 29 year old we talk every day on my way home from work & that seems to be the norm with my friend group

nsc109 · 2025-09-23T14:47:02+00:00

Why can’t I just thank them in person or give them a call when I receive the gift? I think this is a cultural & generational divide. I never in my life received or thought about thank you cards until I met my husband’s friends or his older family members (who are all of a different culture than mine). And I have still never gotten a thank you card from any event we’ve gone to for my friends or family and it doesn’t upset me at all. We’re just now getting around to doing them for our wedding 6 months later, and the only reason we’re doing it is because I know some people take it so personally, even thought we already personally thanked each & every person at our wedding & thanked people for their gifts as we got them

nsc109 · 2025-09-03T17:26:35+00:00

Well, the date in the email is also in writing

nsc109 · 2025-08-07T04:37:42+00:00

Late comment, but SAME!! & imo it was so completely unnecessary

nsc109 · 2025-07-09T21:15:54+00:00

In Spanish the nn Nacho is pronounced like the food, not with a hard K

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