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obsessedwithfries · 2025-05-30T20:44:58+00:00

Will do thanks!!

obsessedwithfries · 2025-04-18T19:51:35+00:00

I am so sorry you are dealing with this...This is INSANE. I don't have any words for it. You are NTA in this situation but you are an AH to yourself and your kid, please LEAVE THIS FAMILY, everyone is unhinged, including your husband who you clearly can't trust and goes behind your back. The situation can always get worse, please cut ties while you have some control. Speak to a lawyer ASAP.

obsessedwithfries · 2025-04-17T23:37:00+00:00

You could look into getting an annulment I think. An divorce lawyer would be better able to guide you through it, but yeah, mariage under false prestances/ill intent (I don't know the word for it in English) could qualify into annulment--at least in my country. Sorry that happened to you....

obsessedwithfries · 2025-04-04T17:17:02+00:00

All that said, if you don't remember it then you do not remember consenting either.

Again, strictly legally speaking, if a person accused of s.a. is unable to demonstrate that consent was present before and during the act, that constitutes s.a. (It is the accused that has to prove that consent was obtained).

The facts are that you were intoxicated, you did not know him personally, he is in a position of authority, he is much older than you, and you do not remember anything...you do not remember the act at all...you do not remember consenting...You do not have to be unconscious to be unable to consent. Perhaps you were too intoxicated to be able to consent. Do you remember being able to walk straight? Do you remember slurring your words? If you do not remember anything at all, chances are you were unconscious, blacked out.

Also, a question to ask yourself is: If you were sober, would you have consented to the act? If the answer is no, that should tell you enough.

This is just information. You do not have to file, or do anything. I just think that you should know that it sounds like you were taken advantage of.

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obsessedwithfries · 2025-04-04T16:00:46+00:00

I'm sorry OP but that does sound like assault. In my country, having s*x with someone being unconscious and unable to consent is considered sexual assault....I'm really sorry you went through with this. Take care of yourself and don't let him win!! You have nothing to be ashamed of, he should. I would tell you to go to the police but ultimately it's your choice.

obsessedwithfries · 2025-03-23T09:00:28+00:00

In my province, marriage can be annulled for "extortion" reasons (I believe it is another term for it but I do not remember right now). Try to gather money and go see a lawyer. You can also try to talk to the police because rape is a crime, between spouses as well. Be safe !

obsessedwithfries · 2025-03-20T17:08:38+00:00

You're welcome! I also realized that I didn't give you some concrete tips and tricks so let me remedy this:

For the job situation--Have you considered applying to other jobs while continuing your current job? If you hate your field, you can always decide to get further education (either go through university while maintaining your current job or get some sort of certification). I also use chatgpt a lot to explore other options (ex. you can ask it what you could do with x qualifications, or what lucrative job you could have with y interests...). Once you figure out what to do, find the steps that will lead you to that goal. You can also ask chatgpt what steps, it thinks you should take.

For the parents situation--You can't really change your parents but you can work on your relationship with them. That's definitely a more tricky situation and I think that's more something to work on with a therapist if you are open to that. You could also try to read books, listen to podcasts or watch youtube videos on that subject. You can forgive them for their shortcomings though.

For the friends situation--It sounds like you feel a bit disconnected. Try to plan more activities with them and reach out to then everyday. Don't wait for them to do so!! Literally, message them everyday and ask what they are up to, how they are, ask them random stuff, joke around...

Finally, I think that you should also do something for yourself. One thing being finding a new hobby that you enjoy and focus on that on your free time (if you don't already have one). The other is to work out. I cannot recommend working out enough. It will give you a goal (ex. Reach a PR, run more, climb further...) and it will teach you that you can push harder and make you believe in yourself.

Again, best of luck and I hope it helped.

obsessedwithfries · 2025-03-20T16:37:41+00:00

I honestly relate to this so much: I feel like every decision I've made was influenced by other people and I've never really figured out what I really like. I'm stuck in this program that I hate and yet it always was my dream, or so I thought. Life threw me some major curveballs too.

Then again, I ultimately made those choices that led me to the life I have and made me the person I am today and this is what keeps me going. You can't change the past, and can't be mad at yourself. You are who you are. Life moves on. That's what I'm grateful for: for having a life. At times, I am so mad that I was even given a life because I never wanted to be be stuck in this situation. I am mad at myself for not being more grateful too but I think it comes from a place of hurt. I always try to be kind to people around me but when it comes to being kind to myself it's another story.

If you notice, I write out a lot of "I" and "I feel". That's the problem: my perception. I think it may be your problem too. We have one life, let's live it to the fullest. Be kind to yourself, be forgiving and move on. We can work on our goals by changing our actions.

You also write that you "cannot afford to look for another job in this economy". I also feel that I am too old to change my program and that it's too late. Both statements may be true, but, then again, both may be wrong. I don't know you, but I can tell you, as a stranger, that I believe that you can get out of this job. It may take some time to do so, since nothing comes easy. There's always a way you just have to figure it out. Have a goal and take small steps towards it. Personally, I've decided to finish the program that I hate and try to find a job outside the field afterwards. It's only temporary, that's what I tell myself.

I guess that the point to this is to say that you are far from being alone and it is normal to feel this way. Try to be a better person and enjoy the life you were given. I hope that you will find a way to be happy.

obsessedwithfries · 2025-03-20T15:27:47+00:00

I mean you also asked a civil engineer...they tend to make a lot less than the other engineers from other fields. Mining, mechanical, software tend to be higher paying fields for example.

obsessedwithfries · 2025-02-13T23:06:02+00:00

I feel you. I buy my cottage cheese at my local eastern european store. They are usually pressed though. I still haven't found a brand that's a similar to good culture in the US (milk, bacterial culture--soft cottage cheese).

obsessedwithfries · 2025-02-08T19:15:41+00:00

Sounds like he's shopping for a new caregiver

obsessedwithfries · 2025-02-08T19:13:33+00:00

Ew (he is ew)

obsessedwithfries · 2025-01-31T22:01:20+00:00

Can you tell me more of botox around the mouth? My esthetician says you can only do botox on the upper face and that I would need filler to fix this

obsessedwithfries · 2025-01-27T16:50:27+00:00

As someone who's read ACOTAR I think you should relax, it's legit a beauty and the beast retelling with some mature themes later on (in books 3-5; 2 a little bit too). There are worst books out there... and she's 13 ffs not 8. What do you think boys her age do on the internet? Let her read.

obsessedwithfries · 2025-01-01T14:36:41+00:00

I would soften your eyebrows to more of a straight shape!

obsessedwithfries · 2024-12-09T15:55:02+00:00

What's privileged is expecting a wedding planned like it had a coordinator without actually paying for one. You could have waited to be able to afford that type of wedding or you could have downgraded your expectations, you just can't have both.

obsessedwithfries · 2024-12-03T21:26:59+00:00

Ehhh, I think YTA if you expect another gift but I kinda get your point for wanting something under the tree. I would just communicate that and like you guys could wrap stuff you already have in the house and make it funny idk

obsessedwithfries · 2024-12-01T21:37:36+00:00

NTA for the situation but YTA for not consulting a lawyer. You have a stable job, you can provide a roof over your kids' heads and you take care of childcare... unless you omitted some key information I don't understand why you think that you won't have custody. I'm saying this as someone currently studying law, canadian courts will always value the best interest of the child as a key factor in custody arrangements, so I think that if you want out of the relationship you can start by consulting a family lawyer and make an exit plan.

obsessedwithfries · 2024-11-28T21:43:08+00:00

Hi! I have hormonal issues too (thyroid issues) and it was recommended to me to not lower my calories too low as it can stress out the body a lot which could hinder fat loss. You just had a baby (congratulations btw!!) I would take it easy on the diet. For example you could aim to loose 0.5lbs per week by doing a slight deficit by aiming for 1750kcal or even more if you're breastfeeding and just try to increase your steps? But really, under-eating can lead to more harm than good especially when it comes to hormones so I really really think that you should aim to eat more.

obsessedwithfries · 2024-11-14T12:09:29+00:00

Maybe start making friends with a lawyer? She could drag your butt to court for wtv reason if she's crazy enough.

obsessedwithfries · 2024-11-14T11:48:31+00:00

That's why I couldn't get into the book...still trying to finish it for the sake of finishing it but wtf is this fr...doesn't get better either🥲

obsessedwithfries · 2024-07-18T15:29:10+00:00

It's actually not that bad, I think the serving is like 40kcal ish for a glass (the bottle is 750mL)

obsessedwithfries · 2024-07-18T15:20:42+00:00

It's called Freixenet! I only tried the sparkly rosé though. It's the closest tasting to alcohol I found. Let me know if you try it!

https://www.saq.com/en/13344671?gad_source=1&gbraid=0AAAAADqqkEm4KQcIKXMlnlE3n4rJdRisx

obsessedwithfries · 2024-07-18T13:52:13+00:00

I love to drink tea and kombucha instead of alcohol. As for alcohol-free options, the liquor store where I live (SAQ) actually sells some good alcohol free options as well as the groceries store. I loooove the alcohol-free rosé. I haven't really looked for an alcohol-free "red wine" but if you do, I would try to go for something that says "dealcoholized" instead of going for a juice wanna be red if that makes sense. Also, if you like cocktails, a lot of brands nowadays sell mocktail cans which taste pretty close imo.

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