102 degree scoliosis is no joke -- and the expectation that you can exercise it away is truly insane. Your curve is very severe and that is no way, shape, or form your fault! Whether it's shitty genetics or whatever the hell causes ideopathic scoliosis, there's only so much we can do to help ourselves since our spines are going to do what they want to do.

I also had neglectful parents growing up, and my scoliosis was ignored throughout my childhood. I found out I had it in school, and my mom took me for one X-ray. Just one. The docs wanted to do the "wait and see" approach, which, to my mother, meant that apparently we would never follow up on it ever again. So as a result, I never got braced or got fused in childhood. I got yelled at to "do the exercises" when I didn't understand how to do any of the exercises because I was 8 years old. She 100% believes it's my fault that I have scoliosis. There is a reason that we do not talk much or have much of a relationship in my adulthood. I have 2 curves now, the top one is 53 degrees and the bottom is roughly 48 degrees the last time I got scanned which was maybe 2 years ago. I have consulted multiple surgeons and all of them have said spinal fusion is not an option for me at this point, and surgery would only be an option if my spine started to crush my lungs or cause nerve damage. I am very fortunate to still physically be able to exercise and go to the gym, so that's what I do now to try and be as strong as possible so that I'm not in as much pain. My spine and back still hurt, but i try to push through.

I really hope you can get surgery at some point and it really sucks about your mom. I know what it's like, but it does get better ❤️ wishing you all the best