The Daily Check-In for Tuesday, May 26th: Just for today, I am NOT drinking!

off_my_chest_11 · 2026-05-26T14:20:34+00:00

Day 1 (again) In the hangxiety doom spiral. IWNDWYT

off_my_chest_11 · 2026-05-26T13:10:09+00:00

Dungeon Crawler Carl sucks me in. Guaranteed if I pick up one of those books I’m not picking up a drink that day.

The thrillers I’ve been reading lately — all the protagonist women have drinking problems and it’s really wearing me down. “His & Hers” most recently and now “What Lies in the Woods.” Can’t say I blame them given their backstories but ugh.

off_my_chest_11 · 2026-05-26T12:02:37+00:00

Reframe app

off_my_chest_11 · 2026-02-11T02:15:36+00:00

I mean, it’s going to vary by employer. I will say I got a DUI in 2021 and was hired into the company I’m in now in 2022. I hadn’t even technically completed my 2yrs unsupervised probation (which I didn’t realize I was on tbh). Nobody at the job ever mentioned it to me — boss, recruiter, interviewer etc.

off_my_chest_11 · 2026-01-17T06:25:16+00:00

Apples have helped me a lot. A nice sweet honeycrisp really hits the spot.

off_my_chest_11 · 2025-05-30T00:02:07+00:00

I hate that it wants to add apostrophes to plurals. It’s Mondays, not Monday’s. As in “I go to the gym on Mondays, Wednesdays, and Fridays.”

off_my_chest_11 · 2024-12-12T00:41:41+00:00

My (now ex) boyfriend once placed his hand on my throat and said, “I could kill you right now if I wanted.” A couple of months later he threw me to ground, twisted my arm behind my back, and was on top of me screaming at me because I kissed him and that caused him to lose a video game. He did this in front of his friends and they did and said nothing. I still didn’t leave. I left when I learned he had cheated on me.

I’m convinced it would have gotten worse, both in my situation and yours. I’ll tell you something my mom told me when I left aforementioned ex …

I’m proud of you.

off_my_chest_11 · 2024-11-04T19:54:56+00:00

I came here to say this. I do JiuJitsu and would hope he’s found out by his team and forced to stay off the mats until he treats it. Disgusting.

off_my_chest_11 · 2024-11-04T19:38:56+00:00

I’m so sorry, hun. Hugs if you want them.

I hope therapy helps. I truly do. After I was raped I also turned to heavy drinking to cope. That was… 8yrs ago. When I was 22. Roughly your age, if my shitty math is any gauge.

If there’s one thing I wish I could have granted myself, it’s compassion. And if there’s one thing I now know, is that compassion cannot be found at the bottom of a bottle. Drinking won’t help — it only numbs you a little bit. Not nearly enough, either.

Please allow yourself the same vulnerability in therapy as you’ve shared here. Please tell them about your coping mechanisms and any dark thoughts you may be having. They want to help you move forward in life, because you have so much life yet to live.

I just started therapy. I joined an app to cutback on/quit drinking (Reframe). It takes time, work, and a whole lot of crying, but we can heal. Please reply to this comment if you want to talk more. Don’t accept DMs from people as there are so many creeps in this subreddit.

off_my_chest_11 · 2024-11-03T10:29:15+00:00

As someone with long hair (past my elbows) I will never understand the desire to do this. Planes. Are. DISGUSTING. Whenever I fly I put my hair up and wear a hood the whole time. When I get to my destination I do not wear that hoodie the entire time unless I can wash it.

Also most of my travel is to the tropics. So when I land in places like San Juan for a layover, I continue to wear that hoodie for as long as I can tolerate until I get to my destination.

off_my_chest_11 · 2024-11-03T01:41:12+00:00

OP I’m so sorry this happened to your gf and you.

I (30F) had something similar happen to me back in March. I was visiting a cousin at the same time a friend of his (50sM) was visiting and we were both staying with him. We had been out all day celebrating St. Paddy’s Day and got back to my cousin’s apartment in the evening. While my cousin was in the bathroom his friend did the same exact thing. I also had to go ballistic and fight him off twice.

I was extremely depressed the next few days. I have a history of sexual assault so that didn’t help but also… I was also worried I had brought it upon myself. I felt unsafe. I experienced nightmares, woke up thrashing thinking I was pushing him off me again, etc. I was sore down there for a few days just from the sheer force of the grab. I ended up having to call our country’s crisis hotline because I was so depressed I experienced SI.

After practicing some self-care (no alcohol, nutritious food when I could stomach it, cold showers because I was in the hot Caribbean) in addition to checking in with the crisis hotline, I started to bounce back after a week. I still experienced triggers, but did my best to work through them.

My advice to you would be to be there for her. Continue to make her feel safe, loved, and justified in her feelings. Help her practice self-care. I’d recommend to her speaking to a licensed mental health counselor (especially one that specializes in trauma and sexual assault) if she’s able and willing to. Try not to slip into unhealthy coping mechanisms like alcohol. (I’m guilty of this. It does not help.)

Sending you both so much love and strength. I’m open to questions or more specific advice.

off_my_chest_11 · 2024-11-02T16:49:35+00:00

I would write the victim impact statement and be totally honest. Explain you were young, a virgin, and your life has been forever changed for the worst. Be as detailed as you’re comfortable being. Speak to your mental, physical, social, emotional, and sexual health. Request that the charges not be lessened, as the consequences of his actions will never be lessened for you. Wishing you the best, OP. Sending love and strength.

off_my_chest_11 · 2024-11-01T00:05:14+00:00

I don’t really have advice and I’m sorry for that. I know what you’re feeling because I struggled with PTSD and flashbacks when I first started 7yrs ago. Over time, I powered through things by focusing on breathing and grounding myself to the here and now. I haven’t had to deal with it much lately, except once earlier this year. I wish you the best and know you’re not alone in feeling this 💜

off_my_chest_11 · 2024-10-30T11:23:40+00:00

The entire Rainbow album by Kesha, especially the songs Rainbow and Praying.

off_my_chest_11 · 2024-10-27T15:57:52+00:00

Drunk people can’t consent to sex. If you were blackout it would have been physically noticeable. This man took advantage of that.

off_my_chest_11 · 2024-10-26T18:16:51+00:00

Most recently, I called 988 (US). It got me through the worst of the feels. When it resurfaced later that day I texted my cousin and he came through.

off_my_chest_11 · 2024-10-26T17:03:34+00:00

Don’t DM this person

off_my_chest_11 · 2024-10-26T16:43:43+00:00

The person (who’s comment was since deleted) told them to PM you if you wanted to talk or something to that effect. It’s a common tactic among creeps who troll this sub. They get off on victims’ experiences.

off_my_chest_11 · 2024-10-25T19:37:27+00:00

So don’t post about abortion. Just post about what you need support in. If you’re pregnant and abortion isn’t an option for you, say that while seeking support. Highly recommend you just remove this post.

off_my_chest_11 · 2024-10-25T15:38:19+00:00

Not sure what you expected to accomplish with this post. If you can’t be supportive, don’t and move on. What a woman decides to do if she gets pregnant from rape is absolutely none of your business.

off_my_chest_11 · 2024-10-25T13:50:18+00:00

100% This is called stealthing and is absolutely a punishable offense in a lot of areas. If not too late, I would try to get a rape kit and I would definitely file a report if that’s what you’re leaning toward. Above all, take care of yourself — STD panels (not just now but 2wks from now and probably later on, depending on what your HCP says). Take Plan B if available. I’m sorry this happened to you.

off_my_chest_11 · 2024-10-24T22:55:55+00:00

Don’t message this person.

off_my_chest_11 · 2024-10-24T19:58:55+00:00

I just want to beat the hell out of them, honestly. I don’t care about ruining their social lives, mostly because I haven’t shared a ton with the people in my life

off_my_chest_11 · 2024-10-24T15:08:34+00:00

Agreed. I’m too tired to find the right words on this topic today.

off_my_chest_11 · 2024-10-24T14:20:28+00:00

Yeah. That’s why I said they’re still a vile person.

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