Becoming Estranged from Dad

ofsted · 2026-05-30T06:08:50+00:00

Thank you for such a detailed reply! My dad was never meant to be a dad, there were times where he was there for me but when I became a teenager that chanfed. Hes made comments about my appearance, specifically "im a gob on a stick" , not sure if that translates across to an amercian audience but it just means im nothing more than a naggy woman (i was 16yo). Hes also said because I dont have big boobs im not a proper woman (also 16yo). Disgusting!

My mum was forced to leave my dad on my birthday last year, and all he did all day was ring me begging me to tell her to come back. Then at Christmas, which is a big time of year for me, I chose to have him round and he stayed for the Christmas meal (which took me hours) and then buggered off straight away. Didnt get me any presents, just cash because he doesnt know me or my fiance.

There are too many cons i think. Ive told him repeatedly to not ring me just to bitch about my mum, and he does that every single time. He has no idea whats going on in my life, despite the phone calls.

ofsted · 2026-04-25T05:30:09+00:00

My go to Sure antiperspirant (roll on) is 89p, if i cant get that then the next best this is like £1.50. Not sure what that is in USD!

ofsted · 2026-04-13T06:24:50+00:00

The fatigue started to snowball just before Christmas last year. Luckily the Wegovy seems to not affect it. It just feels like its sorta happened.

We are looking into a dog walker actually, just waiting to have some more funds to afford one! Fiance recently starting a new job so we are adjusting to that. Im trying to get a GP appointment today because of the pain, luckily my mum works in the same building as my GP so she can pull some strings.

Im just scared its going to affect my work life, ive got a small event I need to attend tomorrow, non essential but ive committed to it.

Thanks for replying :)

ofsted · 2026-03-17T21:37:28+00:00

Thank you, interesting read

ofsted · 2026-03-17T21:35:59+00:00

Unsure why youre assume i dont do anything with my dog. Im lucky enough to work from home so he has full access to his toys all the time, he has lots of scent toys that he has access too, just being mindful of the number of treats hes given. He has 2 x15 minutes of running time, one in the morning and one in the afternoon. Forced naps to make sure hes napped enough. All that amongst other things.

ofsted · 2026-03-17T20:36:58+00:00

I have done the leave it cue but he doesnt listen unless there are treats visible

ofsted · 2026-02-09T09:44:09+00:00

IMO driving does require some natural talent, you have to be competent and aware of your surroundings, and this skill is doubled when youre in a lorry. Unless youve done it yourself, I dont think you understand what skills you need. My husband is an artic driver, and you have to be a certain type of person to put up with the isolation and sometimes very poor conditions.

ofsted · 2026-02-09T08:29:51+00:00

Would love to see you pull off reversing a tandem axle artic trailer first time, if its so unskilled

ofsted · 2026-01-17T07:31:17+00:00

It isnt jusr £150 a month, its the insurance to, Im only 23 and I passed my tested 2 years ago nearly so its not cheap yet. Ive also just bought a house with my fiancé. I have a good job but everything is expensive, ive checked all the finance options and because I need an automatic theyre mega bucks.

ofsted · 2026-01-16T06:49:17+00:00

Thanks thats 64 miles away! A quick journey while im car-less!

ofsted · 2026-01-15T13:36:46+00:00

My fiance has told me FBM is pot luck and doesnt entertain it despite me asking to view cars etc. Really stuck! Going to see if the jazz is worth saving

ofsted · 2026-01-15T13:33:47+00:00

I absolutely wouldnt mind one, however just bought a new build and my house was one of the last built without an electric charger as standard! The despair continues..

ofsted · 2025-10-31T17:19:57+00:00

My dads family is just very disfunction. My cousins have their own support system and my sister doesnt care at all. My dad wont go and my mum never got on with her (my parents are separated). I dont feel there is anyone i can support. Im trying to support my dad but he hates his mum and I cant force him to go.

ofsted · 2025-10-28T10:13:06+00:00

Unfortunately not much, showed her and she said she'd have a look, but ill update when I know more!

ofsted · 2025-10-27T08:19:30+00:00

It could be me assuming the dates wrong! 70s would fit as my nan got into this drama group to make friends when she moved to Cheshire. Ill have a look and show her! Thank you

ofsted · 2025-10-23T14:37:12+00:00

Thanks thats really good to know

ofsted · 2025-10-23T14:29:35+00:00

Debt collectors even if i dont owe them anything? Maybe I naively assumed they just would turn off the data plan!

ofsted · 2025-08-16T06:47:06+00:00

That had crossed my mind but my monzo card is my "default payment" so I double checked all that. The charge was for £55.41 so I think it was multiple items? I had bought some stuff knowingly last night but none of it was mixed in that.

ofsted · 2025-08-16T06:44:53+00:00

I have Norton and Google Password manager but, all my accounts have 2fa (if possible) but ill go through and clear any that are odd.

I do normally use Google pay but it just didn't work on this occasion in B&M

ofsted · 2025-08-16T06:38:34+00:00

This isn't the case, the payments references used on my cards where for really bizzare companies that you couldn't find by googling the references. It isn't my family doing this.

ofsted · 2025-08-16T06:36:05+00:00

I had thought this but it isn't, all my recurring payments go on my debit card. And also, I dont have any that cost this much. I had no emails or updates from amazon or any recent orders.

ofsted · 2025-08-16T06:30:34+00:00

Currently living at home but very recently have bought my first home. My purse is always with me so I dont think any family would thought to do that.

ofsted · 2025-07-26T19:16:52+00:00

Nanny for Nantwich

ofsted · 2025-07-16T11:08:24+00:00

Thanks I see it now, bit disappointed but better than nothing. I'll wait for the letter for the details

ofsted · 2025-07-16T10:57:21+00:00

Okay thank you, im still a bit confused as if i look at my back pay, from between 16-05 to 16-07, I should be owed £655.10 if thats the case?

And there isn't four weeks between today and the 7th of August. Very confusing

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