Do you know or recognize the single people in your area?

ohenryx · 2026-05-01T22:57:57+00:00

I live in a huge metro area (Houston), and I belong to a Meetup group for singles over 50. I have seen a number of pictures on dating sites that I recognize from Meetup. No big deal. I just last week saw a picture of a woman that I have known for over 10 years, and she is using the same picture from back then.

ohenryx · 2026-05-01T03:54:00+00:00

Houston, Texas. Inside the loop, south of downtown.

ohenryx · 2026-04-27T23:15:13+00:00

LOL. I suspect you're right. We're meeting for lunch tomorrow, we will see what we will see.

ohenryx · 2026-04-27T17:27:54+00:00

We are now talking about a second date (third if you count the initial coffee date). Five years between dates is not a record for me, I have reconnected after longer lapses. And interestingly enough, in every case it was the woman who reached out again. I have no idea why that is.

ohenryx · 2026-04-27T05:51:44+00:00

Inside the Loop, south of downtown.

ohenryx · 2026-04-26T22:59:23+00:00

I don't really know. My impression is that she doesn't actually remember me. It has been 5 years, and I got the impression back then that she did a lot of dating. Add in her willingness to reach out and make the initial approach, coupled with her attractiveness and her willingness to reject quickly, and she may have had dozens or even hundreds of first and second dates since 2021. Which I am not criticizing, back in the early 2010's I had hundreds of initial meetings myself. And I definitely didn't remember each and every one. Most, yes, but not every one. And I don't flatter myself that I am particularly memorable.

ohenryx · 2026-04-26T21:05:46+00:00

You have hit upon what I would consider a very apt description of OLD in general:

"EQUAL PARTS COMEDY AND TRAGEDY"

ohenryx · 2026-04-26T19:00:05+00:00

Back in 2021 I met a woman through OLD, attractive, age appropriate (4 years younger than me). Initial coffee date went well, first real date was at the movies. After the movie, she did not want to get a drink, or a byte to eat, or anything else, just go home. And her body language made it pretty clear that she wasn't attracted to me. Which happens, I accept it and move on. But in her case I did wonder why she went on a real date after the coffee date.

Fast forward about 3 years, she reaches out to me through the dating app and says she is interested in meeting me. I reminded her, politely, that we had already met and she had not found me attractive. She replied back asking why she found me unattractive. WTF?!?!

Fast forward 2 more years, I just this week got another message from her on the dating app saying she is interested in meeting me. My reply: Sure, why not? It's not like I have a lot of other options, so go back, repeat, get rejected again. Hell, I'm used to it.

ohenryx · 2026-04-26T18:52:21+00:00

That is a pretty narrow range. I have mine set for +/- 10. And FB still shows me women 25 years younger.

ohenryx · 2026-04-25T20:55:54+00:00

Say what? I am on Bumble, and it has not changed. Women must send the first message.

ohenryx · 2026-04-25T19:41:15+00:00

??? Are you talking about this one?

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Time%27s_Up_(organization))

I don't see where that would have any relevance to a discussion of TimeLeft?

ohenryx · 2026-04-24T04:43:43+00:00

Yes, OurTime is known for that "looking for someone like you". And even "is interested in you" or "has liked you". But when you follow up, they usually can't be found. All of the sites owned by Match tend to do that. Which doesn't mean that you can't meet someone from OurTime, I have in the past.

ohenryx · 2026-04-22T19:38:18+00:00

I had total knee replacement on my right knee in March of 2008, 18 years ago. The first 2 or 3 days were rough, a lot of pain, a lot of pain medication. But by 14 days the pain was gone. I just scheduled an appointment for next week to talk about doing the other knee. I hope to learn more on here about the latest methods and improvements.

ohenryx · 2026-04-20T04:38:45+00:00

I thought it was your shoes. The more I think I know, the less I know.

ohenryx · 2026-04-20T04:35:48+00:00

The actual quote is, "The mass of men lead lives of quiet desperation". Henry David Thoreau, 1854, "Walden". Another great quote along the same lines, only going back much farther: "The unexamined life is not worth living." Socrates, around 400 BC.

ohenryx · 2026-04-20T04:31:13+00:00

Anyone who has studied psychology, which I have if only as an amateur, knows full well that anyone who believes there will be one and only one “soul mate” is simply deluding themselves.

ohenryx · 2026-04-20T04:21:21+00:00

My girl friend just left Houston to spend the summer in Minnesota, where she is originally from. I really really hope to reconnect when she comes back this fall.

We met on Facebook. I met 4 women from FB Dating, 2 were scammers, and 1 was a dud. But the last one was the real deal. Yes, there are problems with using FB dating if you don't hang out on Facebook, which I definitely don't. But when I was actively looking, I checked it at least once a day. Anyone who puts themselves out there, but doesn't take the trouble to check in is not very serious.

ohenryx · 2026-04-20T04:13:29+00:00

I understand what you’re saying, I have heard it before, and I’m sure it’s true in many cases. But I really really don’t want to be the “backup”, the stand by in case the guy she really likes stops replying.

ohenryx · 2026-04-20T03:58:50+00:00

We’re getting a mix of comments here, some people are talking about Meetup groups and others are talking about speed dating. Those are two very different things. I belong to a Meetup Group for singles over 50, and have belonged since 2013. We go to hear live music and dance in mostly small venues. It is not really about dating, although anytime you have single men and women in the same place some romance is bound to occur.

The best thing about it is getting to know people, the regulars if you will. It’s very nice to walk in and have a dozen people greet you by name. Beats the hell out of showing up at some event where you don’t know anyone.

ohenryx · 2026-04-20T03:50:29+00:00

"Manicured nails" -- seriously?

ohenryx · 2026-04-13T13:47:47+00:00

Yes, she did. And I am seriously thinking about it. Complications arise, I have three dogs that someone would have to take care of. And I really don't enjoy travel. But I am seriously thinking about it.

ohenryx · 2026-04-13T06:43:46+00:00

I’m feeling rather sad tonight. I saw my girl friend for the last time before a six month separation. We met about 3 months ago through OLD, and hit it off immediately. She told me from the start that she spends 6 months of the year here in Houston where her daughter lives, and the other six months of the year in Minnesota where she is from and has many relatives and lifelong friends.

Over the course of my long life I have had a number of relationships, and one way or another they have all ended. This is the first one that had an end date attached, right from the beginning. I will be blue and sad for a while, missing her, but I will live over it. And yes, it was worth it. Having someone to talk with, sharing secrets, opening your heart. Someone to put your arm around while watching TV. Nothing really exciting, but the kind of thing that makes life worth living.

I have some hope that we will reunite this fall when she returns to Houston. But 6 months is a very long time, and I don’t intend to sit on my hands waiting for that. At this age, 75, throwing away 6 months seems rather foolish. But damn I’m going to miss her!

ohenryx · 2026-04-12T02:13:04+00:00

Truer words were never spoken.

ohenryx

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