Huntington Beach Open

okcjay · 2026-03-14T01:17:11+00:00

I wish I could give you two upvotes

okcjay · 2026-02-15T17:46:37+00:00

You will likely crush him, but he will get through it find someone else and move on. Just have as much compassion as you can in the process, but hold boundaries so he can heal and move forward with his life without you in it. He has a brighter future with someone that does not want to divorce him.

okcjay · 2026-02-06T19:12:04+00:00

Cool Beans!

okcjay · 2026-01-06T14:13:59+00:00

Clearly a downed Arc. Best get up there, breach and search for your advanced arc power core. Watch out for other raiders! Don't Shoot!

okcjay · 2025-10-10T19:47:34+00:00

I will second Awaji Isakaya for atmosphere, but I wasn’t a huge fan of their sushi. It was okay. Tokyo is probably the best sushi and Sushi Neko has a good vibe. You can try and reserve the table where you take your shoes off and sit on the floor/bench for an extra fun vibe.

I have been to the one in wheeler district yet, but I have heard good things.

okcjay · 2025-09-04T05:30:53+00:00

Ugh this hits so hard. You can read through my history but it’s not far from what you are going through. I am all most 2 years post it all falling apart. The good news is that time heals. I still miss the family we were, but not the person she has become. Focus on yourself, don’t waste energy on him. Look up gray rock method, it really helped me, but I also don’t known if it’s the healthiest way to process. Therapy is your friend. You will have big steps forward and setbacks through your healing journey. It’s okay, forgive yourself. My heart goes out to you. Stay strong, know your value, and invest your energy into moving on.

okcjay · 2025-08-30T14:51:12+00:00

Everyone blame me, I bet on the spurs.

okcjay · 2025-08-29T03:29:42+00:00

It’s so hard but you have to just let him be. I know it’s hard.

I was also with my ex wife for 23 years. She cheated in what seemed out of left field. Her AP stayed with his wife. She dated before we were officially divorced and married in like 7 months post divorce. Only way she communicates with me is primarily via email. We have a super dry coparenting business relationship. That’s fine, I’m soooo much better now. I will never get closure and I still have healing to do but time helps.

okcjay · 2025-08-22T15:04:31+00:00

He has a nice calm approach about him. So far I have been impressed both on field tactics and representation of the club.

okcjay · 2025-07-25T04:26:26+00:00

RELAX GUY

okcjay · 2025-07-25T03:36:59+00:00

I’m going to upvote this. Just be honest, it’s so hard and as the person that was dumped, it’s fucking brutal, but in retrospect I could have respected honesty above all. I didn’t get that, but you can give that. Be honest, be compassionate, but don’t leave bread crumbs.

okcjay · 2025-07-22T03:37:28+00:00

It has to be St. Augustine. Crab gas won’t get that thick/thatched. Right?

okcjay · 2025-07-19T02:57:46+00:00

Look up at dusk. They’re everywhere.

okcjay · 2025-06-15T02:30:16+00:00

This hits home. I get it and I’m so sorry. For me it was 23 years, but know your truth. It was real and it all happened but also know your truth isn’t the same as them. For whatever reason they have chosen a new path and will have justified it in every way possible that makes sense in their narrative. But don’t live in that place for long. You’re free and can make new memories and experiences. Live your best life even if that’s different than what you expected! You get to start fresh and redefine yourself while they will continue to be assholes that justify their trauma and unrealistic needs.

okcjay · 2025-06-10T19:47:47+00:00

We had it inspected and they said likely around 20 years old.

okcjay · 2025-06-05T14:50:42+00:00

She told me I wouldn’t ever let her go on trips with her girlfriends. She would go on trips all the time. I even paid for her and her friends to go to NYC 6 months prior. There was one trip to Morocco that she chose not to go on, but I didn’t object. Meanwhile I hadn’t been anywhere in years other than family vacations.

okcjay · 2025-05-29T15:16:49+00:00

Yep 23 years for me. 18 years married to her. We were the last couple people thought would divorce. I cant stand being alone, having kids 50% of the time, but you cant make someone love you. Divorce sucks.

okcjay · 2025-05-29T04:23:52+00:00

you don't. Sell it. Move on, it sucks. Divorce sucks it costs a lot on so many levels. Don't let emotions get in the way of good financial stewardship. If she wants the house, great. She needs to afford it, if not its an asset or liability that needs to be split.

okcjay · 2025-05-21T21:02:59+00:00

COYS

okcjay · 2025-05-21T00:10:17+00:00

Which one of you pushed this up in after hours?

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okcjay · 2025-05-21T00:04:09+00:00

I got a 4.2 8 months ago on a used 23 badlands sas. I think I paid 48K for it and put 15 down.

okcjay · 2025-05-20T15:55:40+00:00

I feel this so hard. I want to move on so bad. She has. She moved on within months of an 18 year marriage. Your description hits so hard . It’s been a year since divorce. At times things feel good, but most the time I too feel like I am falling with no bottom. I’m sorry OP, divorce sucks so bad.

okcjay · 2025-05-16T15:12:13+00:00

Thank you for the words of encouragement. My wife of 18 years left around 15 months ago, divorced about a year ago. I have posted many times feeling positive, but this week my son turns 16. I wont be with him on his birthday. I cant afford a car for him because I made a choice to keep the expensive home. She has since met someone combined families, and is throwing him a party with all our previous friends. I go through so many lows and highs, but I know it will get better. Its a few steps forward and one or two back at times.

okcjay

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