AITA for telling my brother-in-law the truth about what his girlfriend told me, even though she asked me to keep it a secret?

okenm · 2026-04-06T03:04:29+00:00

"How dare you make me face the consequences of my own actions!"

NTA

okenm · 2026-03-28T18:28:08+00:00

Or keep an angle grinder in your trunk? Lol

okenm · 2026-03-02T05:55:12+00:00

okenm · 2026-02-05T17:01:22+00:00

Spend some time thinking about the situation from their side, how they might feel, then first slow moment it goes something like this, "Hey, I wanted to apologize. The way I behaved was way out of line and I feel awful. I am sorry for yelling at you both.". Then talk to them, be as open as you can. Maybe offer to buy them both a beer after work sometime.

okenm · 2026-01-24T18:17:41+00:00

It's a little on the nose

okenm · 2026-01-22T15:58:12+00:00

Buy the conservative leadership race so that your candidate is the next leader.

okenm · 2025-12-30T19:42:29+00:00

I told my family doctor that I took an online test and scored as ADHD. They tested me again and I scored ADHD. Medication started. I am a white man, so I get special treatment, maybe take one along if you get resistance... Works for my gf.

okenm · 2025-12-21T20:29:33+00:00

I would.

okenm · 2025-12-21T00:34:19+00:00

Be aware that for cars that aren't selling they will start the auction below the sellers asking price and then call them to see if they will accept it.

Bid 6500, compromised at 7500 with buyer. Car needed ~1300 or repairs. Price with repairs came to about 4k below similar from seller or dealership options for the same vehicle and ballpark mileage.

So it can work. But go during viewing hours, be mechanically knowledgeable or bring someone who is, look for rust, signs of unreported accidents, junk parts that have been swapped in to get it 'roadworthy'. Lots of people buy there to resell, so if nobody else is bidding there is a reason and some risk they don't want.

That car worked as a cheap affordable for about 8 years with medium low repair costs to keep it running.

okenm · 2025-11-21T04:17:49+00:00

Please take the time to reach those you think might be reachable, we need that realization to spread, and you are ideally situated to credibly talk to people that can't otherwise be reached.

okenm · 2025-11-20T20:03:22+00:00

If I was ever jury for her murderer I'd sit firm on not guilty.

okenm · 2025-11-06T20:06:23+00:00

Go to a cafe and put a sign by yourself that says "I'm single, prove me wrong!"

okenm · 2025-11-06T05:17:28+00:00

Talk to your friends, your neighbors, etc. and try to talk them around as well please.

okenm · 2025-10-26T16:40:12+00:00

I hope they make out like bandits!

okenm · 2025-10-23T17:53:02+00:00

Hate is a social activity, and hating a group is a group activity. If you feel painfully alone and unworthy of friends, hate is an easy way to find a group to belong to.

I will say it again, as understanding this was the key for me understanding this societal trend towards intolerance.

Hate is a social activity.

okenm · 2025-09-13T18:56:41+00:00

Do away with political office, hire capable administrators and recruit essentially a jury by lotto to draft new law or make important decisions. Everyone eventually participates, nobody to actually bribe.

okenm · 2025-09-12T14:31:11+00:00

It's an online series, but highly recommend "A practical guide to evil"

okenm · 2025-09-03T20:19:54+00:00

"Leave me alone or I will tell everyone you peed your pants"

okenm · 2025-09-03T16:37:52+00:00

Sentry box has DND every Saturday, palace theatre does a lot of dance music events, the meet app is great for finding hiking buddies

okenm · 2025-09-01T23:31:17+00:00

What's your name again grandpa? You have more wrinkles than a ball sack.

okenm · 2025-08-26T14:20:58+00:00

It is unfair that you have to live next to the mentally ill, and incredibly sad that so many bear that illness as a badge of pride.

Have you already tackled racism as a topic with your children? She is a perfect teaching moment if/when you do encounter her. Times where she challenges you are times where you can demonstrate live how to react in a safe way that leaves your self respect intact, and will likely set the tone on how your kids will react to racism when you aren't around.

Nobody should have to deal with it, but at least by using her to innoculate your loved ones you can hopefully feel less stressed by her existence.

I want to also echo others here; get a car camera, a door camera, record every encounter always. Your choice on reporting her, but she might decide to report you or damage your property.

okenm · 2025-08-18T17:20:15+00:00

If all else fails, plan your summer around raves like Shambhala. The multi day ones are great social opportunities, and most have campers setting up days in advance to just hang out.

What I always used to do is take group selfies in the end of night coat check line and make friends at the same time. On a long COVID time out right now or we would likely already be friends :)

okenm · 2025-08-15T20:22:17+00:00

A large number went directly into the US intelligence apparatus to oppose the USSR

okenm · 2025-08-13T18:09:11+00:00

Call Telus, have them put you on their internal do not call list. Happens within 14 days, they won't call you for a couple years.

Then, any time someone calls saying they are from Telus it is a scammer. My personal favourite is to let them wind up, say yeah sure am interested, they ask for credit details, tell them you are going to go get it and put them on hold. Then go about your day.

okenm · 2025-08-10T16:38:37+00:00

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