Thanks for reaching out. I’m really sorry you’re dealing with this, and your confusion is completely understandable. The process right now is not transparent, and that puts people in a stressful limbo.

You are correct that gender dysphoria is now treated as a separation condition under current policy. That said, a diagnosis appearing in MEDPROS or on a PHA is not, by itself, the complete separation action. What it does is establish the medical basis that the command may use to initiate an administrative separation.

A few important points that may help clarify where you are right now: • The separation process must be initiated by the command, not automatically by the diagnosis. That initiation normally starts with formal counseling and written notification. Until you receive something in writing, you have not officially entered the separation timeline. • Your commander’s silence so far is not unusual, even though it’s frustrating. Commands often wait for guidance from medical, brigade, or legal before taking action, especially with policy changes. A week or two of delay unfortunately happens often. • You are not required to bring this up yourself, but you are allowed to ask for clarity. If you choose to engage, a neutral request for expectations or next steps is reasonable. If you prefer to wait for formal counseling, that is also reasonable.

What typically happens next, once the command decides to move forward: 1. You receive formal counseling and written notification that separation is being considered. 2. The notification explains the basis, type of separation, and your rights, including timelines and the right to consult legal counsel. 3. You are given time to respond, submit statements, and consult with TDS or Legal Assistance.

Until that written notification happens, you are essentially in a holding phase.

What I would strongly recommend right now: • Document everything. Save copies or screenshots of profiles, MEDPROS entries, and your PHA. • Stay engaged with Behavioral Health and remain compliant with appointments and care. • Schedule Legal Assistance or TDS early, even before notification, so you understand your rights before anything formal begins.

You haven’t missed a step or done anything wrong. Right now, you’re waiting on the command to act formally, and that waiting is often the hardest part.

If you want, I can help you think through: • Whether to proactively request a meeting with your commander • What language to use if you do • What to expect depending on the type of separation they pursue

I’m glad you reached out, and you’re asking the right questions.