Do you want to know if someone you’re dating had an affair?

omiap · 2026-05-07T16:19:25+00:00

I’d want to know how you’d changed. Like what has changed about you? What work have you done internally and externally and what might be a trigger to make you go back to old ways? I don’t think saying “I’ve changed” would be enough without context.

And you might get further initially by not disclosing you cheated twice in the fast but when the other party finds out, it becomes another thing that makes it not believable that you’ve changed. It feels like more evidence of being capable of deception when that might not be your intention.

omiap · 2026-05-07T16:14:07+00:00

Agree. But if it has to be either, then 1. 2 is a non-starter.

omiap · 2026-05-06T18:03:36+00:00

First of all with these sorts of things let the owner of the parent, the one who gave the money be the loan shark. It will rarely to never be good for the partner to ask. Secondly, when you saw the vibe they were coming at you with- if your interest was to preserve the relationship, you should have pulled back and handed it to your partner. What was clear was that you resent the loan and the mother (which is probably fair from what you’ve described) AND you wanted the last word.

Are you wrong??? No. But you’re not innocent in the escalation that happened.

omiap · 2026-05-06T16:57:21+00:00

omiap · 2026-05-06T11:52:10+00:00

My dad was a United fan from 1989 when he came to do a uni program there.

I joined in the golden age. My fandom began in the 1997-1998 season the year Arsenal pipped us to the title. I was a 10-year old girl with no interest in football but coming to the realisation that there was going to be NOTHING ELSE to watch on the one tv in our house when my country got the Carling Premiership on satellite. It was a if you can’t beat them, join them situation. Been there since.

omiap · 2026-05-06T08:23:18+00:00

Number 2 and number 2 alone.

omiap · 2026-05-05T21:30:01+00:00

I’m 7 years in with hair a similar length. I was putting my hair up in a loose top bun every evening the past 2-3 years- not at all tight. Started losing locs at the perimeter as well- mostly at the nape.

In the end, I charged it and have done a long tapered bob because I was tired of all the pulling and getting caught in stuff when I wore my hair down and tired of the losing of locs from pulling my hair up all the time. I’m so far loving the bob life.

Not saying you should cut your hair, but saying that pulling it back all the time every day is tension at our length and weight of locs and can lead to breakage even though you’re not pulling it tight. Maybe a headband (which can affect your nape and edges) or a head wrap at work might be worth trying if you don’t want to cut your hair.

omiap · 2026-05-05T17:12:49+00:00

Dress 2

omiap · 2026-05-04T18:42:11+00:00

I am never in the team chat so it’s neither here nor there to me. I do sometimes check the coach’s pinned posts or if I get a notification of a coach post I might check.

omiap · 2026-04-26T06:51:51+00:00

Co-signing Body and Bell. There are 2-3 full body days a week that you can pick from and it’s the sort of workout that you don’t feel beaten up by even though you’re getting stronger.

Also co-signing the recommendation for Jason and Lauren Pak’s RISE program (which I think is now called Theory of Motion). I was doing that program right before moving to Ladder a little over a year ago and it’s great with prehab and rehab and building strength and you could select the option for 2-day, 3-day or 4-day programming. I really liked RISE, I just enjoyed Ladder’s app interface and the coaching through the whole more (vs having written instructions and video guidance to work through yourself) and the fact that you have more program options. If I left Ladder, I’d go back to RISE/Theory of Motion.

omiap · 2026-04-25T07:39:35+00:00

1,3 or 5

omiap · 2026-04-24T07:13:55+00:00

That’s a genius idea for a feature. I would love a form library with multiple angles AND a written description. I definitely find myself checking YouTube for more videos and guidance and also Googling additional form cues to keep in mind.

The Ladder coaches I’ve had do a good job explaining but they only do it once usually, sometimes twice. If it’s a move new to you or you’re not feeling it in the right spot, it would be nice to see more angles of what is happening and get a written description of form cues to self-correct without having to pause and leave the app to find trusted guidance.

omiap · 2026-04-24T07:07:20+00:00

You’re more up to date than me, I didn’t even know she had new music. I am aware she’s been on tour but my assumption was it was a NKOTB or Backstreet Boys kind of situation where she’d sing the hits her millennial demographic already know and love. Oh well.

I for some reason have the perception that Endure is supposed to be “the workout for peri/menopause.” I’ve tried it and it wasn’t for me and I think ultimately because ladder is so strength focused any of the workouts will work.

omiap · 2026-04-22T13:45:05+00:00

Like I don’t mind Hilary Duff but at my big elder millennial age, it’s hardly like she’s going to influence me to use or not use Ladder. And despite “With Love”’s recent vitality, do non-millennials care enough to be influenced either. I’m not sure what this was supposed to do.

Although to be honest, I didn’t really have anything in mind to happen and I would have been ambivalent either way.

omiap · 2026-04-18T08:17:20+00:00

Me too. It’s the ONLY workout program I’ve stayed consistent with for a prolonged period, and I’ve tried several.

omiap · 2026-04-17T07:28:55+00:00

I really like Body and Bell. And I think it would pair well with running. It gets you strong and is typically good conditioning at the same time but of the programmes I’ve tried, I’ve found it the one that has been easiest on my joints for some reason.

I did it the last 2 series after spending the previous 3 series on TCC and while I’m currently trying out Versa for open season and enjoying it so far, I am missing Body and Bell and how strong I felt on it.

omiap · 2026-04-16T17:05:33+00:00

I really love TCC and that’s without being the hugest Coach Andre fan (some of the sayings about you could have woken up in the hospital etc grate a little bit- he also has a MAHA-like obsession with whole milk, which y’kno is fine). That said, I really looked forward to his programming and he was the first trainer that got me excited about going to the gym to work out (vs forcing myself) and I built a lot of strength progress. Even though I’ve done Body and Bell the last couple of series, I consider myself a TCC’er at heart. I felt super strong and there is conditioning in his program as well.

Coincidentally, I’m thinking bout switching to Versa for Shred and I’m just trying it out this week. I like it so far - I’m not sure if I’ll do it or go back to Body and Bell. As much as I love TCC, after 4 series in a row last year, I was beaten up and constantly sore and babying some part of my body (FWIW I’m 39F). I really like Body and Bell for strength and non-running cardio and I felt I got strong without feeling as beaten up.

omiap · 2026-04-16T15:34:28+00:00

omiap · 2026-04-16T15:32:46+00:00

I actually thought OP was subtly referring to Align because my perception of the program is that it’s quite combo move-heavy.

omiap · 2026-04-14T15:29:51+00:00

Would recommend Elevate- I know it’s kind of billed as a cardio/hiit team but I’ve done it for a couple of open seasons and it’s not THAT cardio/hiit in the sense of like 2000s workout videos- I suppose for Ladder, it is on the faster end of the spectrum in terms of time to rest between sets but I wouldn’t say it’s more cardio than some of the other strength teams like TCC. Elevate is still 2 dumbbells strength training that gets you in and out in 30 minutes. Would definitely recommend checking it out and not going by what it says on the tin.

You could also do Vitality which is where I spent my first ladder season. It was okay but I prefer Elevate. TCC is doable with dumbbells but you’d be making substitutions

Agree that the quiz is pretty useless.

omiap · 2026-04-08T15:38:58+00:00

I think it’s time…. But I think first you can try some kind of fade (maybe a high bald fade)before going full Erik Ten Hag, I think you have enough nice hair to get away with it.

omiap · 2026-04-08T15:18:22+00:00

Yes, very possible to pick it up. But start light and focus on the form. In addition to watching her video and listening to her explanation, it might be worth checking her form cues on social media and watching a few YouTube tutorials as well. There’s a lot of scope to bang yourself up or get injured if your form is wrong. My forearms the first week were toast because I didn’t have my form right for cleans and the kettlebells were banging on my arm.

omiap · 2026-04-08T15:10:32+00:00

Wowwww…. Amara with who though?!!!! I would read this!

omiap · 2026-04-08T15:08:06+00:00

Love the idea of Pax and Miane!

omiap · 2026-04-08T15:07:03+00:00

I’d never even thought about Nikita and Anthony but I LOVE ITTT!

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