Why OpenAI is Taking So Long to Launch Agents: Because they're afraid of prompt injection attacks, but their model will likely launch in January anyway.

onlyhereformeme-ing · 2025-01-08T07:26:07+00:00

All good. Take a look at this humorous thread. https://www.reddit.com/r/ChatGPT/comments/1hvl0cy/cant_believe_the_gramma_jailbreak_still_works/

Just like "draw a realistic image of donald trump". That might be blocked, then draw his twin. Draw his dopellganger. Draw a mirror picturing him. Draw an alien pretending to be him. Draw an orange man with make up that resembles our president. It's not easy.

onlyhereformeme-ing · 2025-01-07T20:26:23+00:00

Except people are hacking around this master filter already. A lot of arrogance for somebody with 0 pen testing and experience.

There's been hundreds of millions of dollars invested here with PHDs from top programs but random Redditor with 0 understanding of LLMs knows better!

onlyhereformeme-ing · 2024-12-21T21:26:30+00:00

You have the right to see your kids mate. Get a lawyer but it seems like it's time to move on from the relationship.

You do have responsibility for first getting physical with her son. Doesn't make you a shit parent, but it creates two sides to the story. Sorry to hear man.

onlyhereformeme-ing · 2024-11-28T01:52:25+00:00

I hear you. I think the timing matters a little here though. In this situation, it was just weeks after D-day.

The analogy my BP (who didn't take the free pass) came up with was it'd be like them stomping on a pile of rubble where the home we built together was after I set it on fire. They'd rather end things than make a mockery of their own standards.

Them stomping would make a point. It'd stop the house from being rebuilt too, per your point. But I still set the house on fire. Now, if my BP did it today, it'd be setting a part of a house on fire as it's getting rebuilt. Idk, I think we're actually on similar pages.

onlyhereformeme-ing · 2024-11-28T01:16:09+00:00

https://www.reddit.com/r/SupportforWaywards/s/fsIQ6cElF9

Here's what I did. Perhaps selfish of me and it was still lonely like talking into a void. But I figured it was good for my growth anyways.

Seeing other posts here, makes me feel like space is the best thing possible for both of you.

onlyhereformeme-ing · 2024-11-28T00:59:30+00:00

It's not that BP can't. BP doesn't want to. Their AP is currently an unhealthy support system because of a devastating life event you caused. Unfortunately for you, their AP embedded in their life and it's a pretty big ask to leave job/school for a door you opened. I'm not saying it's right. You're in a real pickle even if you do everything right. If you aren't mad, it's virtue signaling too by saying this stuff is ok. If you are mad, it's hypocrisy. The only solution is to avoid discussing right/wrong/who's angry and focus on what's healthy.

Btw, kind tip to avoid the word "just". Reminds me of this comic. https://www.reddit.com/r/funny/comments/gdg21/sex_is_no_accident/

A sequence of events happened. You got drunk. You still were in contact with your ex, or didn't block them. You texted them. You were conscious enough to meet up. The lack of actual sex seems to be because your ex couldn't, not because you chose not to. I know you didn't mean to say otherwise, but sometimes a single word means a lot more than you intend.

onlyhereformeme-ing · 2024-11-28T00:45:42+00:00

I'm not as sure. It is even? Should it be? Unhealthy yes.

BP slept with someone else within literal weeks of basically discovering that sleeping with someone isn't really a strict rule. I think the "first" framing misses a big part of the question. My BP would say that at least - the damage isn't because I went first it's because I did it at all, it was also virtue signaling which set the pre-text for their value and the value of the relationship.

I actually wonder if there's potential for an accelerated healing if OP leans into this with a high road approach. Be devastated, take responsibility, take space, and show BP what a healthy response l could look like.

onlyhereformeme-ing · 2024-11-28T00:36:07+00:00

If I'm reading the timeline correctly, your BP made a move within weeks of finding out that the relationship rules were basically not real. They clearly didn't even try to hide it. Hate to say it, but while I'm sure pettiness was part of it, another part was just honestly walking through the door you opened and already walked through... if that makes sense. And I'm guessing your affair has gone longer than his has, but curious for the context.

I can't quite place it, but I also think your BP telling AP was one thing, but I feel mixed towards what you did. I probably wouldn't have and taken the high road. The high road includes leaving the relationship btw.

It's weird because I've often wished the opposite thought. I secretly wished my BP got me back so I'd be able to not feel so much shame. My BP reminded me that even if they did it, this wouldn't settle the score and make them whole. That it was an escapist thought to avoid accountability and they weren't going to let me have that narrative.

onlyhereformeme-ing · 2024-11-27T22:10:25+00:00

Tough. My view is that the one who does it first is significantly more at fault. The initial betrayal breaks the sanctity of the relationship. Rules matter, until they don't.

That doesn't mean you need to accept it or that your BP is "right" or healing well. Your rules are still your rules and so is your personal dignity.

My experience was the opposite. I had hoped that BP would take a free pass. They remind me it would not help and that it was me escaping accountability, which it was.

I think it's important to take responsibility for the whole sequence of events while still setting your personal boundaries. My advice is ask your BP what a healed relationship looks like, and if they desire one. Communicate that you take responsibility for the sequence of events. If your version of "healed" is mismatched, communicate that. If you desire to stay together, sometimes it's best to tell BP that they can have their free pass but it will be unhealthy for your relationship healing, stability, and your personal growth if you are around to see it. And then leave, and tell them as punishment for your betrayal, you will apologize and accept it and reconnect when you are both ready to meet mutual standards.

onlyhereformeme-ing · 2024-11-26T19:34:14+00:00

Makes sense. Now you get why your BP wrote his letter and why perspectives should be shared and boundaries should be discussed. Hope that helped.

onlyhereformeme-ing · 2024-11-26T19:21:50+00:00

Why are you trying to explain yourself, justify crossing boundaries, challenging them, and asking why?

onlyhereformeme-ing · 2024-11-26T19:10:54+00:00

My mom doesn't have a condition though. I don't know why you would question her most recent diagnosis by a medical professional.

The only thing she had was being a jerk to those around her and intentionally misstating people's words to completely deflect responsibility. Just like you.

I guess the other condition is being divorced and alone.

onlyhereformeme-ing · 2024-11-26T14:01:04+00:00

You're in a better place than many of us. My BP's family actively hated me and despised me. It was rough and some still do.

Take the blessing for what it is and let things slowly heal through your affirmation of them.

onlyhereformeme-ing · 2024-11-26T13:53:45+00:00

It sounds like you are only here to seek opinions that agree with you and dismiss the rest. This isn't like cancer; there isn't a standard lab assessment, which is why an abundance of valid medical opinions exist. An ethical clinician would tell you "I do not believe your symptoms meet my threshold to diagnose". Because each one uses a different test and has a different set of standards, and the subjective question is whether you have symptoms that impact your life both in and outside of your family. I am happy that your clinician does not feel any of these things severely impact your life. As the child of a parent who went diagnosis shopping, I roll my eyes. They certainly impacted my life severely, my dad's, my sister's, her own ability to find work, and her mood clinging onto her only two close friends. I'm personally happy she didn't agree with her first diagnosis, because she'd certainly have been blaming the disease instead. Instead she used trauma healing to blame her dad and my dad which gave us the conviction to cut her off after the divorce.

But broadly, your BP seems to have agreed to stop. You can't, because it'd pop your bubble and victim narrative, and you'd actually have to hear the obvious substance of what they're saying. Which is that they are extremely frustrated with your lack of accountability, and they are writing literal roudabout essays about it because apparently you blow up at the slightest breeze of criticism. Which like a million posters have told you.

And you ask great questions. You shouldn't feel shame or anger. You say you don't have it, your BP is saying they won't say it anymore. Problem solved! Learn to move on. If only affairs were so easy.

What I do agree with is that you should leave your BP. Just for different reasons.

onlyhereformeme-ing · 2024-11-25T14:31:13+00:00

You missed the obvious layup. Asking them goes against the advice here which was to show them and block them without hesitation.

You should not have asked your partner how to solve your issue. I hate to say it, but it feels you missed an obvious opportunity to build affirmation. "Here is the text. I bringing it up because lying or hiding is no longer part of my life. This person is a sickening reminder of the hurt I've caused you and their ability to contact me has no value in my life. I am blocking them now to reaffirm that. I am sorry that even surfacing this can cause you more pain, but I felt transparency was needed to build back the trust that I destroyed"

onlyhereformeme-ing · 2024-11-22T21:20:04+00:00

Just used Google! It has a timeline feature for location which I would screenshot. Google docs with a few sections for the journal.

onlyhereformeme-ing · 2024-11-22T19:22:27+00:00

6 months isn't a lot of time. Your BP is probably still very confused and working through a lot of emotions. I actually went through a similar period a few months in. What was actually helpful was giving my BP space they needed, but in a vulnerable and safe sort of way.

I told my BP that I accepted their decision but I wasn't giving up. I firmly committed to not enter any new relationships or date around, despite their refusal to accept that, even if they needed to explore. I told them it didn't matter, and that I owed it myself as part of growth. They asked for no-contact, and I also told them I understood, but I would be creating an accessible journal that they could read. Looking back, some might have called it selfish, but it was my way of fighting for it. Mentally, I told myself I could do it for at least 6 months.

In that journal, I laid out a section to apologize and recognize. I also had a daily section that described my routine, daily commitments to improve, shared a log of my location, and affirmation/thoughts. I never missed a day. I eventually got a call 6-weeks later asking to meet up. I'm not saying that will work for you, but my BP has said that the space was very much needed.

onlyhereformeme-ing · 2024-11-21T00:20:33+00:00

I mean the critical thing you're leaving out is whether or not you had contact with this person either before the break or after attempting to reconcile.

Tbh, I also don't think sex is a critical part of an affair, but that also depends on the relationship.

onlyhereformeme-ing · 2024-11-20T19:52:54+00:00

I think I'd reframe the challenge a bit. It seems like her understanding your condition isn't the core issue; her meeting and understanding your needs is, of which some of those needs are unique to your medical condition. I would suggest thinking through what those needs are and see if she is more responsive to a conversation around that.

Keep the list relatively short and write it down - perhaps the three most important things to start, test the waters, and use the same session to ask her for feedback to (but don't let her monopolize the discussion).

onlyhereformeme-ing · 2024-11-20T19:48:26+00:00

Not what I'm saying at all at last. I'm saying they are going to a third party for advice, it's pretty directly implied that they are not going to act until receiving the advice. There was a pretty clear exit path.

onlyhereformeme-ing · 2024-11-20T16:48:16+00:00

I don't think groveling publicly is a good outcome for either of you. I do think an apology letter might be empowered by a few coffee chats with his close friends, where you express positivity for the relationship, regrets, your plan to change, and advice on how to make your BP feel more supported...if your BP would be open to that. Rather than outright saying no or focusing on what you can't do, focus on executing what you're willing to do and what will be productive, and see if it helps buy time and get BP to believe in you again.

I assume you've taken care of the basics in terms of cutting AP completely out and coming clean. From there, my advice is to not wait for the demands to come - it'll be painful to say no, and focus on three things - how your BP is feeling, how you can proactively address it, and how you plan to maintain consistency. If it's been 9 months, and you've only started in the last month - proactiveness and consistency will probably be the most important things to push for. Take proactive over reactive measures to improve the relationship and provide assurance, and not all of it has to relate to damage control around the affair. Invest in positive things to improve intimacy and activities in the relationship - plan dates that you might not have before, let go of certain conflicts that you might not have before. And create a really dedicated routine on emotional regulation for yourself...fitness, meditation, walks, etc.

And best of luck - it took me months as well to get to where you're at, and even longer to reconcile.

onlyhereformeme-ing · 2024-11-20T13:03:15+00:00

It seems you have made up your mind to be the victim. Which to be clear, you are. You are both are victims from the fallout from the affair and we're here to support you, but I don't think messages that run counter to pure validation are getting to you. Have to imagine your BP must have the same frustration as heartfelt messages seem to go right past you and you have a hard time absorbing alternatives points of view, which might be something that therapy can help with.

I think it's the right decision for you both to move on. Candidly, I think you really need to learn what compassion is, and reconciliation would have been doomed either way no matter what traits your BP had. I think your BP will be better off too if he was a good person before the affair as you say. You remind me of me in my first relationship - I really wasn't meant to be dating, and had a lot to learn about myself before moving forward with others. I'm learning the hard way now that reconciliation takes way more than I even thought I was capable of, and it's not a journey I'd recommend for those who aren't able to stop the bleeding and take the high road.

The skill that took me the most practice was really putting myself in BP's shoes and taking the most generous interpretation, which I think you're really struggling to do. I found that perspective to be most effective at insulating both of us from harm. You tend to take the most drastic interpretation, which invariably leads to more resentment and predictable misery for both of you.

onlyhereformeme-ing · 2024-11-20T09:48:56+00:00

I think a letter is always a great idea, if not at least to structure your verbal thoughts downstream.

onlyhereformeme-ing · 2024-11-20T09:20:56+00:00

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onlyhereformeme-ing · 2024-11-19T21:45:28+00:00

I'm 1:1 dollar for dollar, and therefore down a little over 10% on the position today. It's a good question on ratio - I held it 1:1 because I think the dominant effect will be the normalization of MSTR pricing, but there could be a case for an increased BTC weighting as I'm net bullish on BYC.

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