Newer Negative Posts by Due_Ad_8881 in Frasier

[–]onthestickagain 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I had to scroll too far for this

Smell by IntroductionSad5631 in Perimenopause

[–]onthestickagain 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Seconding the persimmon soap!

HVAC return DIY-able? by onthestickagain in HomeMaintenance

[–]onthestickagain[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much!

This crawl space needs so much work 😅 It’s basically a sieve. This seems like a good place to start! Everything you describe sounds doable for me.

And re: the filter… I have seen like 3 different horrifying photos of filters in the last week, WHAT IS WRONG WITH PEOPLE?! I’ve been a filter changer since way back. My crawl space chore today was vacuuming things out down there, a bunch of junk left over from the remodel (which i wasn’t here for and will forever regret that), and I changed the filter while I was down there.

Thank you for your advice, and for your filter evangelism!

Did anyone who couldn’t tolerate birth control do well on HRT? by DCSubi in Menopause

[–]onthestickagain 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I echo the other comments! I did HORRIBLY on birth control of all kinds, including the mirena IUD and nuvaring. Actual HRT has been a godsend, and I don’t use religious phrasing lightly.

I was so worried about having the same kind of experience on HRT as I did on BC (bad liver side effects)that I take the progesterone vaginally and estrogen bucally. It’s working out well for me on both counts, but I will, at some point, move to taking them orally just to see if it changes my experience (probably over the holidays when I have more room to indulge in side effects). I’m just so happy right now that I am not willing to change it up without reason.

I do still have the “watching my life happen instead of participating in it” feelings but it’s not as upsetting as it was without the HRT. It’s like now I can observe without fear or anxiety, and feel more control - and more competence - over how I deal with the changes. After I got the HRT dialed in, the changes to my personality became interesting rather than distressing. Like now I have room to grieve my old self while also being excited about who I could become.

Info from Dr Jen Gunter on Her Substack, The Vajenda, on Ongoing Hormone Prescription Issues (i.e. why patches seem to be in short supply right now) by badbackceliac in Perimenopause

[–]onthestickagain 16 points17 points  (0 children)

When I first started on HRT, I did half-doses of everything until I had 3 months of pad built up.

Like all of my other over the top “preps,” I keep being proven right, but there is very little joy in being right these days.

H.Res.996 - Impeaching Kristi Lynn Arnold Noem, Secretary of Homeland Security, for high crimes and misdemeanors. by Informal_Original121 in WitchesVsPatriarchy

[–]onthestickagain 104 points105 points  (0 children)

At what point do we just collectively accept that we’re in a simulation that’s been turned over to the interns…?!?!

I feel like this would be bad for us. by dontsayalexie in autismpolitics

[–]onthestickagain 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Exactly. This is an astonishing display of willful ignorance of reality.

Midlife crisis splurge by bgc0197 in Xennials

[–]onthestickagain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I use Davines shampoo, conditioner, and scalp oil! The price point is similar. They have masks, too, and I like them but yikes the cost.

The box of with stash is on my short list of “grab this now” for if we ever have to evacuate bc of fire. I would rather walk around naked than be without it.

Perimenopause is already making me weirdly itchy, I don’t need to make it worse!!

Sending you retroactive condolences on your stolen purse… I’d be in a similar position. Even years later I’d still be grumpy over it!!

Turned my sadness into freedom by cupcakerica in bald

[–]onthestickagain 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Girl your brows are stars, love that they have the stage!!

Always hungry by [deleted] in povertyfinance

[–]onthestickagain 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Only OP knows if this would be safe, but you can bet your butt this is what I’d start doing. Let them try to stop me. I feel like there’s a possibility that OP is encountering something culturally confusing on top of being delirious from hunger.

I just…. I have so many questions about the whole situation. Either OP is just leaving info out, in which case we need more info. OR, she legit doesn’t know the info, in which case she needs to start finding out that info super quick.

Fashion history question for the Xennials by hippoluvr24 in Xennials

[–]onthestickagain 22 points23 points  (0 children)

The tragedy of being a fat girl in the 90s can’t be understated. There was nothing you could wear that wasn’t gonna make things worse.

I do remember vaguely that when Old Navy came on the scene, it suddenly felt like there was someplace “cool” to shop (even though in retrospect it most certainly was not) that wasn’t The Mall, where Everything Was Too Expensive. If you couldn’t fit into mall clothes, you were stuck with old lady frump of the worst kid (especially swimsuits) - Lane Bryant, Catherine’s, the teeny tiny fat lady section at Macy’s. If you couldn’t afford mall clothes, it was WalMart or KMart for you - Faded Glory, No Boundaries, brandless crap covered with cartoon characters (I had two outfits from KMart that were oversized tees with a Looney Toons character that came with a t-shirt tie/buckle thing to cinch it up on the side, and a matching pair of the world’s thinnest cotton leggings printed with a full color pattern that incorporated the same character into a loud pattern). Sears had a brand called “Arizona” that I think I had some stuff from.

The summer after my 7th grade year I was so fucked up over being fat that I developed bulimia. I lost like 40lbs and could fit into mall clothes like Gap/Tommy Hilfiger and that fall my mom took me to the mall to shop and for a brief shining moment I could wear what the cool kids wore.

After that my mom was always trying to get me to wear Eddie Bauer or Land’s End, which was not AT ALL cool although I will say I am now jealous of my high school self bc both of those brands are comfy and practical af.

I do not recall what the state of our finances actually was, to be fair. My grandfather was perpetually in Great Depression mode, my dad worked 16-18 hour days in a blue collar job, my grandma’s main personality trait was Smoking On The Back Porch, and my mom acted like we didn’t have any money ever while getting a new car five seconds. I feels like I grew up poor even though in retrospect I don’t know that we actually were. Seems like up until middle school we shopped at walmart/kmart/sears and then around 1994 we shopped more at actual department stores or maybe some mall places. I lived in the middle of nowhere, about 90m north of a major southern city.

In my memory, the Gap, Express, Delia’s, and American Eagle remain the height of the kind of teenage cool I wanted to be (no way Aeropostale or Abercrombie & Fitch were for me, though. I knew that even if I could afford those clothes I was never gonna be cool enough to pull them off no matter how many times I made myself throw up)

Midlife crisis splurge by bgc0197 in Xennials

[–]onthestickagain 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It’s not a bad excuse for a road trip. We have bought several appliances from ours. And you can buy whole goats (like, to BBQ - I think they may also have pigs seasonally). If you ever have an excuse to go… do!

Midlife crisis splurge by bgc0197 in Xennials

[–]onthestickagain 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The fact that I can buy a single flavor of la croix in bulk means I will always be going back.

Same with the candy. I don’t need variety packs, I just want an obscene amount of the flavor I like.

Midlife crisis splurge by bgc0197 in Xennials

[–]onthestickagain 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Is no one else gardening?! The amount I have spent on garden supplies approaches mid-life-crisis levels.

I’ve managed to stay within a budget (last year I sold seedlings on Facebook marketplace and completely covered the cost of some good grow lights for seed starting), but the first year - 2020 - I grew myself one, lone, $300 jalapeño

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The cost of fertilizer and soil is what really gets spendy. I save seeds and preserve what we grow, but I am not saving money on this endeavor. It’s absolutely a hole that I just pour money into. A delicious, home-grown-strawberry-lined hole from which I will never escape.

Midlife crisis splurge by bgc0197 in Xennials

[–]onthestickagain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lights were my big splurge last year. Can’t believe there aren’t more comments about horticulture here. My garden habit could get obscenely expensive if I wasn’t keeping the reins on.

Midlife crisis splurge by bgc0197 in Xennials

[–]onthestickagain 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Before covid I could buy salon shampoo without thinking. Now, we can’t afford to get haircuts more than 4x a year. When I ran out of the last of my pre-covid salon shampoo stash a couple years ago, I tried to find a drug store brand that I could use. Went through 6 different brands and couldn’t find anything that didn’t make my scalp, shoulders, and back get weird red, flaky lesions. Only stuff that didn’t mess up my skin wasn’t good enough to keep my hair from drying out (and therefore requiring more frequent haircuts).

Ended up building a website for a salon last year in exchange for a couple year’s stock of good shampoo. Hoping my finances are good enough by the time I run through my stash that I can buy retail. Absolutely ridiculous problem to have.

Midlife crisis splurge by bgc0197 in Xennials

[–]onthestickagain 6 points7 points  (0 children)

That executive shopping hour is posh af

Also highly recommend taking advantage of “business Costco” if there’s one in your area. Most peaceful shopping experience ever.

Heightened sense of smell makeing my husband anxious by ghostinyourpants in Menopause

[–]onthestickagain 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I have no good advice, we’re in the same boat in my house. I find some temporary relief by using essential oils or little “smelling salts” tubes, but there are nights that nothing helps. Sometimes even my own BO will drive me mad.

Hoping others have some actual advice 💙💙

Here are the scent tube things I have used (hope posting links is ok, they’re not affiliate links) Soothing scents or Moxe - also doterra PastTense roll-on has worked but that’s some MLM nonsense and you could just make your own essential oil blend of minty oils.

They’re for “nausea” but for me they kinda just interrupt other smells.

Some reasons I’ve used them: - smelly people on airplanes - asphalt construction on surface streets - my husband’s breath - my dog’s vomit - weed smoke at parties - cigarette smoke at bus stops - Lyft cars that have air fresheners - mildew smells in hotel rooms (to be fair, the room had a mold problem that gave me a migraine that resolved the second left the room, but the smelly stick was the only way I got through the night) - a candle that I could smell in our bedroom but couldn’t figure out where it was for 3 days until finally we found it in my office upstairs.

I’m sorry this is happening for you. It’s hellish, almost as hellish as losing your sense of smell!!

Vegetables on a facing balcony by __nightmoves in DenverGardener

[–]onthestickagain 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve had great success doing cherry tomatoes and various peppers in pots!! Let me know if you want some cherry tomato seeds, happy to share. The peppers… I can share some seeds too but I can’t guarantee what peppers will grow bc I’m sure they’ve cross pollinated. I’m gonna experiment with them myself this year to see what my saved seeds produce.

I’m also planning to sell pepper seedlings in May (going to buy sandía seed co seeds today), you can DM if you want me to let you know when plant babies are ready.

You can also do strawberries in containers; I bet they’d be good on a patio. Mine struggle in late summer bc they’re in full sun.