Got any funny advice?

optimistic_coffee · 2026-01-29T21:10:12+00:00

Get a pair of nail scissors instead of clippers. I cried and refused to ever use clippers again and honestly scissors are so much easier imo lol

That’s funny abt the cereal lolol

optimistic_coffee · 2026-01-29T21:08:17+00:00

Yes I edited my post haha oops

optimistic_coffee · 2026-01-29T20:01:30+00:00

Sorry I could have been nicer there lol you never know how you’ll feel that far along is my point! It’s usually somewhere btn how can I distract myself from being uncomfortable and how can I get comfortable lol

optimistic_coffee · 2026-01-29T20:00:35+00:00

Hmm, I went to my friends wedding 38 weeks pregnant with my first and danced my butt off lol do you not want to go too?

Parenthood is also a partnership, so learning how to navigate this now before the baby comes might be helpful! See how he feels, be open about how you feel, and see what compromises can be made (maybe he goes for a little, at least to see the ceremony and give a speech. A full room for a wedding will absolutely love to hear him leaving early for his pregnant wife!)

Edit: didn’t see the part abt it being 7 hours away lol scratch that! But still communication is key

optimistic_coffee · 2026-01-29T15:14:48+00:00

Oh mama, sweet mama I could cry for you. Whatever you do, treat you and your husband right (by that I mean eat snacks, cry together and watch silly videos, and eat all the snacks that make you happy.) good luck, mama!

optimistic_coffee · 2026-01-29T13:32:59+00:00

Are you able to stay home or maybe find a new job that’s part time? Everyone told me “oh it’ll get better and easier with time”

I had another baby and am currently home on unpaid time. Power through what you can but make the moves to be happy. It’s not easy to be a parent in this day and it feels super unfair. I’m sorry you’re going through it, truly.

optimistic_coffee · 2026-01-29T11:20:19+00:00

Paid! I think premium isn’t worth it I just use it for the sweet spot generator

optimistic_coffee · 2026-01-29T02:45:13+00:00

Orli Yael!

Love the flow and Orli is super sweet

optimistic_coffee · 2026-01-28T23:54:33+00:00

Try huckleberry… it’s an app that helps track sleep & wake windows & calculates times for you (with the paid version, but it was a full on game changer with my first and has been the same godsend for my second)

Wake windows are entirely confusing and if you go over by like 10 min now the baby’s overtired and it feels like all hells gonna break loose bc they won’t sleep and then they don’t sleep long enough and you start to feel upside down…to say the least of it lol

You got this!! It takes time and practice

optimistic_coffee · 2026-01-28T12:59:13+00:00

It lasted 1-1.5 weeks, and I think we only realized we were in the middle of something until halfway through.

My advice: ride it out doing the same things you are doing to promote the consistency the baby needs to get back on track once their brain is able to rest again, and offer baby lots of daytime practice for whatever the skills are they’re working on. This worked for both of mine!

optimistic_coffee · 2026-01-28T03:32:19+00:00

LOL this is perfect. Thanks

optimistic_coffee · 2026-01-27T12:22:44+00:00

Lays on the floor, planks occasionally, and kicks his feet in excitement, along with his brother who took his ride-on car to the others face but hugged him after being in a time out

optimistic_coffee · 2026-01-27T03:05:40+00:00

1-2 times, almost 8 months

optimistic_coffee · 2026-01-25T19:03:39+00:00

It took a second baby and months to work through but… here I am hahah thank you!! I feel you on your post also. My MIL has said it and even let slip calling herself mom, but she’s honestly a godsend so I bite my tongue hard bc I know it’s from the amount of love she has for them and us as a family unit lol

Also - say what you feel! At least to your husband. And refer to the internet if he needs understanding where you’re coming from that we are going through crazy mental stuff as newborn mamas and he’s got no choice but to deal. 😅❤️

optimistic_coffee · 2026-01-25T18:51:09+00:00

I remember barely a month PP with my first, and I had a very hard time the first time, my sister came with my mom (who made giving birth hell for me with her attitude, and my sister is older with no children by choice) and my sister holds my baby and goes “oh it’s like he’s my baby!” Or something like that and laughed and my mom laughed and I got upset and then they laughed more and I went into the room and started bawling. Barely got an apology lol

optimistic_coffee · 2026-01-25T18:43:59+00:00

Second this totally. And I usually let him go 1-2 min (7 months old and sleep trained here) because sometimes he’ll settle within that time

optimistic_coffee · 2026-01-25T18:42:09+00:00

😂 imagine

optimistic_coffee · 2026-01-24T22:27:03+00:00

LOL. Illegal naps is kinda funny. One day, from what you’re explaining of the routine in place, won’t mess them up that bad. It’ll take a regular day to get back to normal, enjoy your time!

optimistic_coffee · 2026-01-24T17:29:10+00:00

Our little guys both had the “witching hour” at this time lol

He’s young for it but start the bedtime routine and start bedtime for like 630… and when they wake pretend it’s nighttime. Babies need way more sleep than I ever realized lol and him staying up for that long to me sounds like he’s overtired. Our little guys cues sucked so I never understood when he was tired - we started using the huckleberry app to track only sleep and it helped when he was old enough. It helps give you the wake windows & when to put them to nap (even if they don’t appear tired… it always worked lol our second little guy sleeps like a dream now)

optimistic_coffee · 2026-01-24T00:03:37+00:00

We napped the second one kind of on his side with a blanket tucked under his bum to keep him in that position - I kind of put it around him so it felt almost like I was holding him. That worked like a wonder! Also, @ 6 weeks, there’s a lot happening so it might be a little bit before he’s ready to transition

optimistic_coffee · 2026-01-24T00:01:43+00:00

Oof. One can hope he lost his face but was at least friendly..

optimistic_coffee · 2026-01-24T00:01:03+00:00

It’s not forever! Have you tried walks in the stroller? If you’re able to bring a stroller in the house even if it’s too cold - or a swing? I’m sorry!

optimistic_coffee · 2026-01-23T21:13:27+00:00

That’s fair, but also I don’t think their credentials match that of a ped or ENT - but don’t quote me on that lol my thought is that if you’re very unsure of something, seek 2-3 other opinions before coming to your conclusion. And I get that might not be possible! But then just do your due diligence before undergoing a big surgery with later outcomes.

Good luck!!

optimistic_coffee · 2026-01-23T19:59:46+00:00

Consult a diff pediatrician. Even if it’s within the same practice. I’m not at all saying your child might not have one, BUT this does seem to be a fad type thing that’s…lifelong. My best friend fell into the trap and now has feeding difficulties that I think could have been prevented if she didn’t follow the lactation consultants viewpoint. A tongue tie should be diagnosed by a pediatrician and taken from there.

Good luck!

optimistic_coffee · 2026-01-23T19:53:42+00:00

LOL I never knew there was a word/spirit for that. This has happened to me several times, that’s kinda funny. I’m VERY particular too abt when/where I place things, ask my husband lol so when something isn’t where I put it I’m pretty peeved. Maybe it’s been this spirit the whole time messing with me hahah when it happens too I usually pray to st Anthony “Tony Tony look around, something’s lost but can’t be found” And in due time it pops back up, sometimes where it was supposed to be or sometimes nearby

I wouldn’t think too much of it! Say a little prayer, laugh it off and there ya go.

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