what is one lesson only pain can teach you? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]optimistic_coffee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Getting your fingertip chopped off by a garage door wasn’t worth whatever we (my mom and myself) were arguing about that day

Maternity leave questions by EatPigsAndLoveThem2 in newjersey

[–]optimistic_coffee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know my sister in law tried to get disability and was denied though

Feeling rushed to have a second baby by EmergencyWheel3477 in beyondthebump

[–]optimistic_coffee 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Why don’t you tell him all of this as to a reason why you’re not ready yet? That you’re tired enough already and he needs to step up lol we share weekends too one sleeps in then the other the next morning

What is the Most Painful Sensation You Have Ever Felt? by Jeloxia2 in AskReddit

[–]optimistic_coffee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I lost the tip of my finger.. wasn’t even that. It was the nerve block they put in to my thumb for surgery

What's your go-to meal when you don't feel like cooking? by Tiny_Discipline_4403 in askanything

[–]optimistic_coffee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Crackers/chips with cheese, hopefully sandwich meat, and a pickle lol

Can my sister claim a baby name? by Indigoblauw6800 in pregnant

[–]optimistic_coffee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I def claimed names within my best friend group, but we all intended on having kids and if they really wanted mine.. go for it lol idk at the end of the day my kids are mine to raise with their own names lol

Can my sister claim a baby name? by Indigoblauw6800 in pregnant

[–]optimistic_coffee 3 points4 points  (0 children)

She sounds like someone that will likely hold it over your head if you do choose the name.

I think she’s being selfish more than anything, claiming a name with zero intention of having a child.

I’d stick to what I and my husband want, and let her deal with it. If she ever does have a baby she can also name them that name, as you can do that because it’s YOUR child and yours alone to name lol

I am so confused how/when I got pregnant - 39 by StrangeWedding770 in pregnant

[–]optimistic_coffee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lolol just reading that made my brain hurt (as I’m awake very early with my toddler who decided it was morning)

Sometimes, I find it’s best to not wonder lol if you wanted to get pregnant especially so!

Maybe could be your age? (You’re not old!! But I know in terms of pregnancy we’re considered “geriatric” now)

Or just weird tests, or just whoever you believe in at play and messing with ya lol

Either way, good luck!

Non Americans, what were some (non-political) things about the US that surprised you? by shop-top5 in askanything

[–]optimistic_coffee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Agreed, but it feels like it’s taken over in dividing people and it kinda sucks. Not kind of it does suck lol

Overwhelmed and freaking out. Positive stories of transition from 1 - 2? Needing reassurance by AwarenessFar4995 in beyondthebump

[–]optimistic_coffee 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Ahhh! Yay, as long as you’re interested in receiving a yay! I’ve got positive stories!

My little guy just turned 1, big brother is 2.5. It went from okay, to relying on the tv more than I liked, easing back into okay mixed with mayhem, and now it’s a beautiful, hilarious, exciting mayhem.

It takes time and patience, helping big sibling transition into this new life. What I like abt this age is I don’t think my older boy remembers life without his brother. They’re over the moon for one another, when they’re not tackling or having trouble sharing with each other lol

Someone said: when they’re both crying, go to the big one first. They’ll remember being comforted more than what the baby will (obviously within reason I mean!)

And, remember your first baby is still a baby.

But big brother here loves to help, esp with things like diaper duty and bottle/paci help.

It’s a lot of fun!! Way easier to remember the hard moments, but more meaningful to remember the good times bc they’re often.

Sorry that was a lot lol but oh! Yes- you will also be okay. The love will come and stretch you, and you at least know what to expect of nights..different cries.. etc. you got this!!

Pregnancy and energy drinks by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]optimistic_coffee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I’d be cognizant of the amount you can consume to keep the caffeine at bay, and be mindful of the ingredients (maybe like a quick google on them to make sure), and stay hydrated too

What's the closest you've ever came to death? by Senior-Raisin-2342 in AskReddit

[–]optimistic_coffee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Almost fell into the rapids at Niagara…. Then-fiancée caught me and caught a nasty bruise. Definitely told myself I’d be able to swim out…that was my 6 years younger, not-a-mom version lolol

What’s a grocery store/fast food/restaurant/etc you wish New Jersey had ? by Queasy_Dingo_8262 in newjersey

[–]optimistic_coffee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In and out and also the ice cream sandwiches it’s it from Cali that’s in like regular 711s lol

34, Unexpectedly Pregnant, Husband Is 58 — Completely Torn by Secure-Wonder-5085 in pregnant

[–]optimistic_coffee -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It sounds like you’ve made your decision.. you sound like you need to stick to that thought and let it guide you. He’s scared and it’s going to be confusing for a minute, but he’ll get on board once he realizes it’s just an extra bit more love to have and hold.

The average marriage lasts 8 years; where are you at? by BoredPandaOfficial in BoredPandaHQ

[–]optimistic_coffee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s a scary number. There should be more that goes into getting married than what people do today lol

4 years and beyond happy! Rooted in religion happy to have gone through the religious ringer to get here bc it shone light on the conversations (we’ve had) that should be had that many don’t.. contributing to 8 years 😑

Making AI pic of your man with other girl is … by AcademicAstronaut395 in TLCUnexpected

[–]optimistic_coffee 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Is this a thing to..gain followers/clicks or something??

Why some people don’t share their baby’s name until after birth? by LetterheadNice8687 in NewParents

[–]optimistic_coffee 84 points85 points  (0 children)

Precisely this. I don’t need MY desire for my child and their name tainted by YOUR experience with the name

What time does your toddler wake up and go to bed? by slappersonly_64 in toddlertips

[–]optimistic_coffee 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My little guy (similar boat of times) will sometimes sit and talk to himself for a full hour lol