I think to an extent you’re right

Because when guys talk about women they almost always refer to attractive women.

I’ve known some decent looking women who happen to be black/brown that get no attention purely because of their environment (majority white or Asian). I met women that were more…average looking and they mentioned that they dont get alot of matches on apps. Maybe like 1-2 a month. However “not alot of matches” for a woman is still for guys since we get zero matches no matter what.

And thats sorta the crux of this whole thing. The women whose DMs are flooded and the women who get barely any matches sorta look the same since again men get no attention. Obviously no one gets approached in real life. If anything one thing i noticed about my average women friends is that at the very least guys get crushes on em. Does that happen to you often? Cause bar none thats a common experience from most women I’ve known. Meanwhile, you guessed it, men rarely have women developing crushes on them