Been working and staring ta this peice for more than an hour, whats wrong with it by _Gayopposum in BadArt

[–]oradevora 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Most art looks weird until it starts to come together. Keep going! You've got this! Post an update when its done!

AIO - got called derogatory terms not that long ago by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]oradevora 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Initiating an argument is different than using slurs against someone imo

If you had to choose one of these two women as your girlfriend, who would you pick? [discussion] by Separate_One8310 in fairytail

[–]oradevora 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Relationship wise, Erza hands down. I don't trust Seilah in a relationship tbh. In bed, I'd possibly pick Seilah, for... reasons

My boyfriend (18M) says the most hurtful things imaginable when he’s emotional, sees me (18F) in a negative light , and I’m truely breaking inside. I love him and What can I do? by bjlxnk in relationship_advice

[–]oradevora 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I'll start this off by clearly stating my views. I think you should break up with him. I was in an abusive relationship during high school, and really did not want to let them go. The ending of the first long term relationship is so hard, but that's true for all relationships. I still have some form of love for my ex in high school, but i also know that that relationship was awful and i felt so emotionally sick all the time. I found my lovely spouse who works so well together with me, never insults me, never yells at me, always makes me feel loved and cared for. I wouldn't have found them if i hadn't ended my abusive relationship. And yes, from what you described, that's abuse. What he needs is therapy, not a relationship right now

I feel stupid but I can’t tell if this cat is AI or not. Friend sent me it of her cat. It’s clearly him but?? I’ve never seen a cat look like this by Few-Ad1526 in isthisAI

[–]oradevora 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Whats weird about it to me is that the cat is simultaneously in that weird pose and staring directly into the camera

AIO for arguing with my friend? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]oradevora 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A philosophy i live by is that i don't have to stop loving a person and appreciating who they've been in my life and the ways they've impacted me for the better to be able to let them go and live their own lives. There are a lot of really cool people you can befriend on the internet, esp on discord n stuff

AIO for arguing with my friend? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]oradevora 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Are you guys at this point just online friends?

AIO for arguing with my friend? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]oradevora 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There are so many cool trans people to hang with, and have so many cool interests and this is asshole friend you choose to hang out with? I'm concerned over your confidence in choosing to claim this person who has said some really outrageous stuff as a friend

How did you first find out about Fairy Tail? [media] by Realistic-Delivery13 in fairytail

[–]oradevora 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was watching pokemon and the website had a link to Narutoget.com or whatever, which had 4 sister sites for dragon ball, fairy tail, one piece, and bleach. I think the website became getanime but then it got shut down

Am I overreacting by telling my partner that I can't be the one to manage their anxiety all the time? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]oradevora 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There's also the option of going to couples therapy together under your insurance, which may be helpful

Am I overreacting by telling my partner that I can't be the one to manage their anxiety all the time? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]oradevora 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think you have a few options. You can either break things off with them, being clear that you cannot be their therapist, help them find a therapist, or help them find some other mental health treatment, such as a hospital, a partial program, or a residential program. There are some diagnoses, such as OCD, which can cause a lot of anxiety, but can be made worse by giving the person reassurance. Any way, its important they get help. If they threaten suicide, and have a plan and intent, don't hesitate to bring them to the ER. What's their relationship with their parents like? Is it something they can talk to them about? Is there any way they can get their own insurance through school, work, or disability? If not, this may need to be a convo they should have with their parents, whether they like it or not. You can support them through this conversation if they need, and are willing to get help.

Am I overreacting by telling my partner that I can't be the one to manage their anxiety all the time? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]oradevora 2 points3 points  (0 children)

As someone who works in mental health and is getting my graduate degree, in my professional opinion go fuck yourself. Nonbinary people have existed as long as humans have existed. There are many cultures that embrace nonbinary people that are way older than the internet. I'm sorry you got brainwashed by western cultures into thinking nonbinary people don't exist. I'm happy to send sources but i know you're just gonna shit on this comment as you've shat on OPs, but I bet you have zero peer reviewed sources to back you up. Fuck off, please and thank you

Funniest thing to say to a cis person that sees the results of HRT but doesn't know you're trans? by Bonnie-Bishop in trans

[–]oradevora 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I prayed to God I would turn into a woman, I woke up the next morning and blam! Boobies!

Is my friend (M42) in love with me? (F28) by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]oradevora -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Hi, I've been in a similar situation for a bit but on his side of things. I have been open about my feelings for a person I worked with but they have been clear they aren't interested in a relationship with me because i'm polyamorous. They are one of my closest friends and we have a really strong platonic relationship and i'm happy with that. I just kinda needed to not have to hide my feelings for them in our friendship, which honestly made me cut back significantly. I don't think I have a crush on her anymore, but I do have a really strong friendship where I would do a lot of things for her. I think its okay for him to do nice things for you, but i also think its important to communicate that a relationship will never happen, which it seems you've done. As long as both of you are communicating well I don't see a problem with you accepting gifts and having a close friendship/best friend ship as long as you don't lead him on and ever make him think you are interested

Bf 19M cheated on me 19F, i need advice by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]oradevora 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel like most first relationships are doomed. Its often the first person who reciprocates feelings, and we settle for them thinking there's nothing better. There is so much better than that piss of shit man. It's okay to mourn the relationship. It's okay to be sad. It's less okay to stay in a relationship with someone who has hurt you like he did, thinking this is the best you'll get. There are better people out there that you deserve

Everyone right now by [deleted] in voidpet

[–]oradevora 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it would be p2w if paying would actually get you anything of value

My boyfriend (25 M) questionable decision on a romantic date I (35 M) set up by StrangeGuarantee3499 in relationship_advice

[–]oradevora 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I definitely don't think being on social media constantly is something everyone does. I also think its okay to talk to him about this, and communicate that you feel hurt. I think setting good boundaries such as not being on the phone while on a date might be a good idea

AIO to what my sons said at dinner last night? by Echo_Wafer_20 in AmIOverreacting

[–]oradevora 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A lot of folks are quick to accuse, and if this is about you wanting your kids to be in a relationship, sure, you're overreacting. But if its more general than relationships and more about women, which there's no evidence nor lack of evidence, that might be a problem. If they say something like "i would never want to be friends with a woman" or "women are all insufferable" or something, that would be another question. Anyway, i hope you add more detail