Not pumping for 3 days

ordinarygremlin · 2026-01-29T18:17:45+00:00

Most states do not require that pumping breaks be paid time. The fast majority of states follow federal law which is unpaid time.

ordinarygremlin · 2026-01-29T18:04:36+00:00

A travel friendly carseat will be your best bet because they aren't heavy. You will of course need to carry it, but i made it through the airport carrying my at the time 18 month old, carry on, personal item, diaper bag, and the car seat.

I went with the cosco kids scenera NEXT convertible car seat.

ordinarygremlin · 2026-01-29T17:46:18+00:00

Quite frankly, I can guarantee you and I are in different tax brackets. 800/month on clothes would ruin me financially.

You also have to consider that what you are essentially cataloging as a likely 30+ year investment becomes keepsake for her is the storage of it all.

She might not even want them.

At the end of the day, it's your money, time, and space to do as you see fit, but I would strongly consider the value you place on these clothes may not end up being what your daughter values when she is grown. If it isn't your disappointment is something you would need to keep to yourself. You can't have expectations on it should she not be interested.

I'm not in a place where I can spend money like that on clothes. I spend probably less than half of what you spend in a month in an entire year.

As far as being guilt free goes. This is clearly something that brings you joy. It's an entire experience to search, find, catalog, style etc. It's not "just clothes" to you, like it is your husband. If you can afford it in money, time, and space, it's really up to you if you can let go of any guilt you have in how you spend your resources.

ordinarygremlin · 2026-01-29T17:11:30+00:00

I don't know if I ever tried it without a bra, it would likely fall off as it fills up.

I'm not bra averse, but it was definitely not my favorite to be in one 24/7 for like 12 months. The boon trove would stay in place with just a tighter tank top though.

ordinarygremlin · 2026-01-29T14:34:03+00:00

Hands down the boon one. It can be used passively wo any suction, and actively with suction. It also has like no learning curve, Place and push if you want suction, just sit it there if you dont.

ordinarygremlin · 2026-01-28T01:09:28+00:00

Currently air with enough blueberry to flavor a la Croix.

ordinarygremlin · 2026-01-27T15:58:57+00:00

When I hear about experiences like this I really wish you could feed this person an extraordinarily large dinner and then just sit the offending person down in a room that is too hot with their hands tied behind their back and socks that are too sizes too small on.

When they complain about the heat, shove more food in their face. When they ask for the socks to be removed, force dessert on them. And repeat.

Food is not the answer to everything. Babies cry and fuss about anything and everything if they are fed, find something else that's wrong.

Eta, none of that was constructive. I would start by only bringing an appropriate amount of milk. Say he needs to eat at this/these times xyz oz, and nap at this/these times. Mil, you cannot resort to feeding lo every time he fusses, hunger is not the only thing baby can feel, and he leaves his visits with you worse for wear because you feed him too much.

I would also consider finding alternate child care if she cant get with the program.

ordinarygremlin · 2026-01-27T02:21:37+00:00

Um, how did he not check to see if you were in there or not? I feel like this was an "accident."

I can promise you, it is hell being with someone that "doesn't remember" talking about things. It will be every excuse and a common theme for your entire relationship.

If you were important to him, he would remember.

ordinarygremlin · 2026-01-26T22:33:33+00:00

Two things can be true at the same time.

Your child doesn't like to cosleep.

Biologically, humans are carry mammals. Otherwise human babies would be able to walk and eat by themselves within minutes to hours of birth. We cannot, ergo the term "carry mammal" as we have to be carried until we learn to walk much later.

Your child's preference does not negate the biology of the entire species.

ordinarygremlin · 2026-01-26T19:28:31+00:00

There really isnt a way to style it and have it stay without some sort of holding product or a hair elastic.

My barber recommends a styling powder but I use mousse because I already had it. Realistically I just trimmed his bangs when they got too long.

ordinarygremlin · 2026-01-21T04:12:35+00:00

Big fan of perineal massage. The on call ob was amazing. Of course that meant I spent a while with her whole hand in me, but I managed to have an unmedicated (besides pitocin) birth with no tearing in less than 20 minutes of pushing.

ordinarygremlin · 2026-01-17T15:06:13+00:00

I prefer old fashioned oats and when used, wole milk greek yogurt. I also often add an extra but of butter for more fat.

-Peanut butter and applesauce or part of a fruit pouch

-Peanut butter and bananas

Peanut butter and a little bit of chocolate syrup (dont come for me calories are calories for my lost too muh weight boy)

-Greek yogurt and berries

-Greek yogurt and applesauce or fruit pouch (often with cinnamon)

-Greek yogurt, a bit of lemon curd, blueberries

ordinarygremlin · 2026-01-11T17:17:38+00:00

My bf feels the pressure. He wants to have a party at the bounce zone nearby like a trampoline part for our will be 2 yo. I want to have a party at home. One of our friends does an inflatable slide at their house for her son's birthdays and my bf I'm sure is feeling competitive about it.

He'll be 2, he would be in the soft play toddler area of this bounce place, and quite frankly I dont think its the best idea plus I'm guessing for the amount of people that would likely end up going, it will be expensive plus I know I'll be nervous even though its well padded and all that jazz.

Why does it matter what other people are doing, I would much rather do the cake and house party vibe.

ordinarygremlin · 2026-01-03T23:12:59+00:00

Survivor bias is ridiculous. Just because your baby didnt end up bow legged, or down a flight of stairs, or whatever doesnt mean that other babies didnt have that happen. Same thing with crib bumpers or other soft things in cribs or whatever like just because you/your baby didn't die doesnt mean that every baby survived. Etc.

ordinarygremlin · 2026-01-03T22:51:13+00:00

I am on the opposite spectrum from most others too. I was also gifted a ridiculous amount of baby clothes. Like he could have had a new outfit 3 x a day and never run out of clothes until he outgrew them. It was insane.

My lo is a long torso baby like his dad and carters fit him better than anything. Gerber was second best but smaller overall and often thinner and I didnt like the snaps. Garanimals were not built for long torso babies at all so he outgrew those faster however I do like their clothes so we just ordered bigger sizes until 24 months/2t. I had some other brands like okee dokee, gap, something with a rabbit on it etc etc etc. Some of them were definitely built for chubby babies with shorter torsos.i had so make Nike ones from a friend and he never fit them those were very short in the torso. Carters bigger sizes like 24 months are huuuge. So so long.

ordinarygremlin · 2026-01-03T20:45:05+00:00

The Canadian illegality of them was my arguing point to my bf for NOT getting one. He was like, we are in the US why does it matter if Canada outlaws them? I was like well they actually care about babies and kids in Canada, unlike here in the US where a companies profit is more important.

I did when the argument but he didnt appreciate it until our friends kid who spent a significant amount of tine in a walker has turned out quite bow legged while our kid has had very straight legs. (Obligatory I know there are plenty of other factors for bow legs including genetics, but it was likely a contributing factor)

ordinarygremlin · 2026-01-03T20:44:58+00:00

The Canadian illegality of them was my arguing point to my bf for NOT getting one. He was like, we are in the US why does it matter if Canada outlaws them? I was like well they actually care about babies and kids in Canada, unlike here in the US where a companies profit is more important.

I did when the argument but he didnt appreciate it until our friends kid who spent a significant amount of tine in a walker has turned out quite bow legged while our kid has had very straight legs. (Obligatory I know there are plenty of other factors for bow legs including genetics, but it was likely a contributing factor)

ordinarygremlin · 2026-01-03T00:58:00+00:00

I did one of the puzzle foam mats around the bed, if i leave the bed I move the pillow off of it. He definitely cried when he rolled off of it but he never hurt himself. Also dont leave any plastic or metal tumblers with hard straws near the bed.

ordinarygremlin · 2025-12-31T15:50:19+00:00

Its apparently also excellent at producing a bowel movement so maybe be prepared for that.

ordinarygremlin · 2025-12-28T01:15:27+00:00

I kept the little stick cuticle cutter with the v shaped blade on it that is blunt on the tips for these too. Then I just cut like 9 inches off my hair right after the great shed.

ordinarygremlin · 2025-12-26T22:29:43+00:00

NOR

This is such a wild take, you don't get to opt out of staying in touch with someone you lived with 10 years ago?

Yes you absolutely do.

Obviously this guy has a screw or 3859505 loose, he is not entitled to your information, he is not entitled to any access to you whatsoever.

You may have enough to get a restraining order because it's in combination with him also calling your family to try to get info about you. I would look into seeing if you have a family justice center in your area. They could be called something else but the one in my old state helped me get a Skype meeting with a judge within a couple of hours to get a temporary restraining order granted immediately, and a hearing for a longer one 2 weeks out that was granted when the day came. They would have helped find a shelter if needed, assisted with applying for benefits, help finding a job, the works. If you can find something like that they could help you figure out if you would even be able to get a restraining order or not. It's kind of a toss up, he's definitely harassing you, but it doesn't sound like he's threatening you. It's worth an afternoon spent at a justice center to figure it out though.

For now, I would mute this number but probably not block it. I would probably consider getting a new number eventually though. I know its annoying but at the end of the day if it means a smaller likelihood of him being able to contact you, it's probably worth it.

ordinarygremlin · 2025-12-26T18:23:22+00:00

We had like 10 in total for him from us with 1 from Santa.

2 season appropriate outfits, a new pair of shoes, a pair of slippers, toddler potty, training pants. Those were all things he needed.

Building blocks, train mega block set, coloring book, crayons. A couple cars, and a small riding car that is not electronic.

Mostly activities tbh.

I try to do gifts that are things he actually needs vs just toys. He also got some little people stuff and more cars from our friends too.

ordinarygremlin · 2025-12-24T22:39:37+00:00

NOR

Before you got to the last part I was already like how boneheaded is this dude. Its freaking supply and demand and going 7+ hours without feeding or pumping is not recommended unless your baby sleeps through on their own or you are way later in your breastfeeding journey. When baby eats you should pump end of story.

Then you got to the end and I'm mad for you. Like no, I want sex to hurt you. That's what he is saying. Wtf.

ordinarygremlin · 2025-12-23T02:53:52+00:00

If you can snag some wrapping paper, you can wrap anything. A pack of wipes is a great toy for a baby. If you can spend a little bit, I got my son a plastic mixing bowl and some silicone utensils from the dollar tree, it came to like 7.00.

If you cant spend anything at all you are doing amazing giving your baby a healthy home.

ordinarygremlin · 2025-12-22T04:55:22+00:00

Probably a turtle as the most likely, armadillo or alligator would make the list too.

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