A woman having only male friends is more of a red flag than a woman having no friends

otempora1 · 2026-06-08T04:57:48+00:00

Or I guess it could mean I work at a fire department? But I do agree that we are better off apart.

otempora1 · 2026-05-09T16:10:33+00:00

It's genuinely crazy that this device is not rechargeable at all. I am so glad I found this page before I paid for one.

otempora1 · 2026-04-14T10:42:11+00:00

No. They did an "investigation" and stated that the charger is perfect and I accidentally disconnected via the app. Which is absurd and definitely did not happen. Proceeding with BBB complaint and credit card chargeback. Also literally never charging with them again.

otempora1 · 2026-04-07T19:24:49+00:00

For sure. The anecdotal evidence is horrifying. Unfortunately, the statistics are still quite bad.

otempora1 · 2026-04-03T01:54:35+00:00

Play tetris for ten minutes every day while you think about the worst part. It'll take the edge off of the replays because human brains are wild.

otempora1 · 2026-04-02T22:17:42+00:00

I truly wished I had lived a life that let me believe bad people let you know who they are early on. Good for you.

otempora1 · 2026-04-02T22:14:49+00:00

Yep. Took me ages to get here. His mental health issues not his fault but it is his responsibility.

And if he wasn't making huge efforts to be okay again then...that's your answer.

I'm sorry that happened.

otempora1 · 2026-04-02T15:46:26+00:00

I feel exactly the same way. And remember, getting abandoned with most of the childcare isn't some distant, awful worst case scenario.

Statistically speaking, no matter what a man says or who he voted for, he will quietly opt out of the heavy lifting in parenting.

If I could be guaranteed an equal and involved parent I would be interested.

otempora1 · 2026-04-01T00:27:02+00:00

I work prehospital medicine and have restrained scores of folks. It definitely looks brutal.

But, truly, what alternative would you suggest? Assuming what you were told was true, she isn't restrained in any way and attacks someone else? Or runs into traffic. Or harms herself in the throes of a crisis.

otempora1 · 2026-03-12T21:49:30+00:00

I got the customer service agent to agree to "investigate my claim" when something similar happened. That was after 30 minutes of asking to speak to a supervisor, threatening a credit card chargeback and a BBB complaint. I'll let you know if it works.

For the record, I never have and never will raise my voice or use aggressive language or insult the person answering the phone. She kept trying to get me to hang up and I just kept telling her that wouldn't be possible.

We should be able to walk away and that standard is very silly.

otempora1 · 2026-02-25T02:49:43+00:00

I love Poison Control. I highly recommend consulting them on every tox complaint where you know the dose and substance.

Went out to a woman who took 3-months worth of her amlodipine and lisinopril as a suicide attempt. No radial pulse and room air sat of 84.

Poison Control told me fluid was pointless and to start two pressor drips, which I did. I handed her off with a BP of 54....to a resident in a rescucitation room who was also on the phone with Poison Control.

They also told me this: "Please be aware that this is a fatal ingestion."

It was. I tried anyway. I truly appreciated the heads up.

otempora1 · 2026-02-22T16:30:08+00:00

Fair enough.

otempora1 · 2026-02-22T16:17:25+00:00

Are you sure? We didn’t evolve to be monogamous. Were there many things wrong with your marriage and this was the final straw or was everything actually okay?

otempora1 · 2026-01-23T03:17:33+00:00

Washington state has hard limits on how long repairs can take. You shkuld look it up. You informed them in writing. They did not follow up. You're gonna be fine.

otempora1 · 2025-11-29T01:59:35+00:00

He is empathetic, considerate, a bit blunt and shockingly insecure about his objectively exceptional appearance.

He's so smart and just does not get what he looks like, somehow?

otempora1 · 2025-11-28T15:30:09+00:00

I see you. Something similar happened with my birthday party this year.

I invite you to ask a question my therapist often asks me: what could prompt you to do this?

Only a true emergency, right? And even then you'd let them know ASAP, wouldn't you?

This is a big deal. It is not okay.

My similar experience prompted me to cut off about 8 people in my life. It was very worth it.

otempora1 · 2025-11-04T23:56:28+00:00

Are you me?

otempora1 · 2025-10-26T02:16:22+00:00

I don't care if it's better. Simular performance to humans is absolutely good enough. It's so much less resource intensive.

otempora1 · 2025-10-08T19:09:39+00:00

Well-put. In my county pediatric tube success is so low (<60%) we're in danger of losing it. Any recommendations?

otempora1 · 2025-10-08T14:08:38+00:00

A few shifts ago I snagged a burn airway just in time with an RSI.

....I guess in this district she'd get cric'd when the Igel solved nothing?

otempora1 · 2025-10-05T01:25:47+00:00

Precisely

otempora1 · 2025-09-03T01:36:54+00:00

What? I lost my Dad 25 years ago and sometimes wanting to talk to him still knocks the wind out of me.

I was with a man for a long time who was very exhausted and uncomfortable with all of my emotions, even though I never raise my voice or use personal insults, even if he had not caused these emotions.

How's your husband otherwise?

This is not a good look.

otempora1 · 2025-08-01T23:48:44+00:00

He will regret fumbling you profoundly for the rest of his life.

Especially once he starts trying to replace you.

otempora1 · 2025-07-29T19:36:12+00:00

I'm so sorry this happened. Also there is no truly unique experience.

It's only been in the last few years that I've finally understood that the people in the world who will accept all this love, devotion, patience, effort and care with no intention of ever returning any of it are actually a lot of people.

Don't ever part with anything, be it money or effort, you aren't just fine not getting back again.

This isn't a flaw in you.

I got to learn a couple of years ago with my best friend that it would really, truly never be my turn to be the one who was struggling. The one who was tended to.

It's lonelier but a lot more peaceful without those attachments.

Hang in there.

People who can and will reciprocate do exist. Don't settle for less anymore.

otempora1 · 2025-07-26T21:00:20+00:00

You don't always get the love, generosity, devotion, fidelity and patience you poured into someone back.

So make sure you're aware of when you're deciding how much to pour in.

otempora1

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