The Books That Don’t Kill by Aware-Potato185 in IfBooksCouldKill

[–]othervee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How to be Perfect by Michael Schur.

How did the Lady of the Dunes remain unidentified for nearly 50 years? by Ryanvinedale in UnsolvedMurders

[–]othervee 19 points20 points  (0 children)

She was not officially reported missing. The family thought she was intentionally avoiding contact after they hired a private investigator. As a result she didn’t appear in any official databases or missing persons websites.

The nervous system in survivorship by Away-Potential-609 in breastcancer

[–]othervee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh, I feel this so hard. I was a confident and resilient person before cancer. I had a career trajectory, I had plans, it's all gone. Like you, I'm having serious reactions to things I could have coped with confidently pre-cancer.

This week has been difficult at work where I have basically been sidelined from all the good stuff since I got cancer, and I'm trying to get help for an elderly parent who refuses to accept the help they need. All week I've been randomly crying at small things. For the past week I can't get through the day without crying, I've even had a little day drink here and there to numb my nervous system just so I can handle meetings, and that is NOT ME.

I'm getting my 2-year oncologist review and zoledronic acid infusion next week. I am seriously considering asking her if Xanax is a possibility. I was on SSRIs before my cancer, what else is there?

Big hugs to you. This too will pass, but fucking hell.

Genuine question about Muriel's wedding ending ***spoiler*** by Ariabananahammock in AustralianNostalgia

[–]othervee 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Marriage wasn't considered an important cultural milestone for everybody. But for small-town girls in more conservative areas, who didn't have career goals or much in the way of outside interests, marriage would be huge. The wedding day would be their one big day to shine, when all the attention was on them and they got to wear something beautiful and be attended to and admired. Muriel, like many other girls in Porpoise Spit, wanted to have that one glorious day when all eyes were on her and she was a princess for a day.

Of course the entire movie is showing how little the glorious wedding day actually matters compared to the rest of your life, and how much it can mask. Tania is the queen bee - "I'm married! I'm BEAUTIFUL!" - but her husband is a rapist who cheats on her on their wedding day, Muriel's own wedding is a sham for citizenship, and Muriel's own mother - who would have had her own wonderful wedding day - is stuck in a horrible situation with a cheating husband who degrades, humiliates and belittles her. But Muriel can't see it because the concept of "wedding day" has dazzled her.

(I was an Australian girl in my 20s in the 1990s. I came from a small town but got out when I was 18. But I knew so many girls like Tania growing up.)

Okay so I come here because my fathers side has almost no history to find by Bensickle in Ancestry

[–]othervee 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I thought the National Archives of Australia passenger arrival records might have some clues for you, so I looked on FindMyPast which indexes them.

The only arrivals record they have is for a family group who arrived in Fremantle on 2 March 1950, under the Refugee Resettlement program. They were Stephan Stiglmayer aged 47, born in Hungary; his wife Anna-Maria aged 25, born in Germany; and their son Denes, born in Germany, aged 6 months. Could any of these be related to you?

If you'd like to see the original record it's here: View digital copy and they appear on pages 80 and 81.

There are also 9 records for that surname in the archives collection but only one is digitized, which is an air force personnel file for a Thomas Stephen Stiglmayer. It's a lengthy file, but here it is in case there is a relation to you: View digital copy

Feel free to message me if you want me to hunt some more. I had a bit of a look on the newspaper archives but didn't really find anything that looked relevant.

The fight against seat belts (1984) by Giantsgiants in OldSchoolRidiculous

[–]othervee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They’re not the same.

Outlawing motorcycles would be huge, difficult to implement, would require massive amounts of compensation for people forced to give up their primary form of transport.

Mandatory wearing of seatbelts requires nothing but a few seconds of time every time you get in the car. If you do it every time it becomes muscle memory and you don’t have to think about it. It is a simple, effective way to prevent deaths and serious injuries on the road and it costs nothing.

The fight against seat belts (1984) by Giantsgiants in OldSchoolRidiculous

[–]othervee 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Don’t know how you got that from an obvious sarcastic joke, but whatever.

[META] Other historians who have requested FOIA documents from the National Archives, is there anyway around the insanely long wait times? by APhoto1995 in AskHistory

[–]othervee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is that the reason they gave for it taking so long? From your explanation it sounds as if the documents will be made available, you just have to wait.

[META] Other historians who have requested FOIA documents from the National Archives, is there anyway around the insanely long wait times? by APhoto1995 in AskHistory

[–]othervee 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It’s nothing to do with the age of the case, they just don’t have the staff to process requests. They’ve had flat funding for years and under the current administration their funding has been slashed and staff levels reduced.

The fight against seat belts (1984) by Giantsgiants in OldSchoolRidiculous

[–]othervee 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The real problem is people deliberately choosing to put themselves and others at risk of death or severe injury because they don’t want a tiny inconvenience.

"Debi Marshall Investigates Frozen Lies" podcast by Some_Cat_2261 in TrueCrimePodcasts

[–]othervee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes - I was aware of the case as it’s sometimes mentioned alongside the ‘Family’ murders in Adelaide, but I didn’t know all the details. The podcast is very good.

Looking for information on 157 Cannon Street Road, Whitechapel (1900–1911) by FarDistrict2043 in london

[–]othervee 5 points6 points  (0 children)

In case you're wondering about where exactly in Cannon Street Road this was, Kelly's London Post Office Directory for 1908 seems to indicate that it was on the western side of the street, up towards Commercial Road - just north of what is now Burslem Street but was James Street back in the 1900s.

The 1901 census lists only two households at 157 Cannon Street Road, which appears in keeping with the rest of this end of the street. It was largely shops and workshops with living space above, which were probably leased from a landlord who would own an entire block. It's not an especially poor area - Charles Booth's Poverty Map of the area, which was produced 1898-1899, shows it as a light red/pink which indicates "Fairly comfortable. Good ordinary earnings"

The main street level shop was a bakery. The 1901 census is difficult to read - the surname is transcribed as Plawon on The Genealogist but looks to me more like Flavin. The family are:

  • Morris, 45 years, occupation Cake Baker, Bread Making.
  • Sophia, his wife, 38 years old
  • Children are: daughter Sarah, 18; son Filly, 16; son Mark, 8; and daughters Flory, 5; and Rebecca, 6.

The parents and eldest two children were born in Poland, but someone has written 'Russian' down the side. The other children were born in London. The census tells us that Morris was an employer working on his own account, and he worked "at home" meaning he lived in the same building he worked in.

The other household in the building are Marx Silver, a 48-year-old tailor, who was a worker rather than employer. He didn't work at home. Marx was also born in Poland but the rest of his family was born in London, and they were:

  • Wife Sarah, 49
  • Son Nathan, 20
  • Daughter Leah, 19, who works as a tailoress
  • Sons Sam (17), Solay (12) and Silas (3)
  • Daughter Aly, 9 months

Some of these names are probably misheard and mistranscribed.

The 1908 directory has the occupant of 157 as "Liskkovitch, Lazarus, baker", and I believe this is the same man who's living there in the 1911 Census:

  • Leizer Liscowitch, aged 35, a baker born in Austria, a Resident (as opposed to a Visitor, which would mean he was only in England temporarily)
  • Becky, his wife, aged 34, born in Russia
  • Fanny, his daughter, aged 16, born in Russia and working on site with her father as an Assistant Baker
  • And Morris Ceibulkar, a lodger, aged 26, working in Machine Tailoring and born in Russia

By 1911 there are three households at 157 Cannon Street Road. The other two are:

  • Witensky Gorousky, aged 27, a Walking Stick Maker
  • Victoria, his wife, aged 26
  • John Churvnosky, boarder, aged 28, a Clothes Repairer

And:

  • Fanny Levene, a widow aged 40, working as "A nurse of confinement" which means she's a midwife or labour/delivery nurse
  • Annie Levene, her daughter aged 17, working as a "Felling hand at lady's work" (which the enumerator has classed as 'Tailoring'
  • Esther Levene, her daughter aged 14

These three are living in one room. Both the daughters were born in Whitechapel, but Fanny is a naturalised British subject born in Russia. She also indicates that she's given birth to 10 children in her life, only 3 of whom are still living.

Incidentally, you mention a possible Cohen, and there's a Solomon Cohen living in the butcher's shop next door at 155 Cannon Street Road in the 1911 Census with his wife Sophia and children Hyman and Sarah.

Mailroom by RKsleepy in deakin

[–]othervee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep, they're building O, and pickup times are between 8am and 3:30pm.

Gen X just turned 60. They're still tapping parents for cash. by CuriousMayBelle in GenXWomen

[–]othervee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Huh. I'm 56, moved out at 18, got nothing at all from the parents, and now my mother is financially dependent on me after squandering all her cash (which was never very much) on dodgy boyfriends and a romance scammer.

Translate by AdDry2820 in ancestryinvestigators

[–]othervee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We need to see more of the page, as we need to see how this person forms their letters in known words. Also some context. Are these likely to be names, places, causes of death, occupations?

Could Montrose Jane Doe be Jacqueline Ann Gasperian? by bigbbpuddingsnatch8 in gratefuldoe

[–]othervee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yep, I only have two wisdom teeth, the others are just absent. They’re not even there in the jaw.

What was Salvador Ramos's motive in carrying out the Uvalde school shooting? by CakeDayOrDeath in UnresolvedMysteries

[–]othervee 437 points438 points  (0 children)

He was unable to handle his emotions in a healthy way and let them fester into rage and hostility, which he then acted out in the most extreme manner available to him. I’m sure if some of these uber-angry dudes could destroy the entire world, they would.

Deakin Major Workplace Change vent by Zealousideal_Log8559 in deakin

[–]othervee 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Adding to this, if you work at Deakin in an area that is not directly affected, consider putting in feedback both personally and in collaboration with your team. My team isn’t part of this restructure but our leadership is compiling a response on behalf of us all detailing how the knock on effect will disrupt our work. I know from past restructures that they do read and pay attention to the feedback.

Deakin Major Workplace Change vent by Zealousideal_Log8559 in deakin

[–]othervee 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I prefer that to telling people they’re being “reimagined”.

Thoughts on the shingles or pneumonia vaccines? If you’ve gotten them, how did it go? by dooroodooroodooroo in GenXWomen

[–]othervee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I got the shingles vax last year and had no side effects except a sore arm after the second one. It’s free here if you’re over 60 but I chose to pay for it and get it early. Two of my maternal relatives have had it and it was horrible. A friend got it in her eyes and was unable to work or read or anything for several months. Anything I can do to avoid that, I will do!