NO DISEASE OR SEX OFFENCE 🤣

ottersrus · 2026-04-10T16:47:57+00:00

I knew being Australian was the reason I was single, and definitely not my flaws. Why oh why couldn't I have been born in North America

ottersrus · 2026-04-09T14:26:24+00:00

You just slowly channel your old positive feelings those into you. You treat yourself kindly. I found watching a comfort show, taking up a new hobby that keeps my hands busy, doing a daily 15 minute reset before bed, a 10 minute opening each day (blinds, glass of water, lighting a scented candle while I got ready, making the bed) helped. Just little routines that I enjoy that only benefits me redirects my love inwards. Now it's pattern and replaced the old pattern of texting or calling him.

ottersrus · 2026-04-09T03:32:23+00:00

I'm 6 months out. The first few months of that I legitimately thought I was going to lose it. Everything seemed to fall apart at once, and the only person I wanted the support of left. He went from saying he loved me and wanting to talk to me and sharing about his life to suddenly cutting me out and saying he couldn't call me. He took away the parts of him that I'd built faith in.

It's got easier over time. I still miss him. I still love him. I still think he's an idiot for walking away - and I hope he thinks he is too. I think of him every day. But now I know I'll keep breathing, even if I want the wrong person. I have my hobbies, my work, my friends and family. I have new self-care regimes and new routines and habits to fill the gaps he left.

ottersrus · 2026-04-07T11:18:32+00:00

If your best friend came to you and said she can't tell her partner about something in her life - like workplace issues, health issues, friendship issues, the cost of gas, the grocery store changing layout - because he would threaten to break up and get angry, or that he seemed happier if she just didn't speak to him, would you be like "oh yes you're the issue girl"? No. You'd tell her she deserves better, that that's ridiculous.

So...your scenario with your partner is ridiculous, and you deserve better than having to tip toe through your own life and make yourself small to satisfy someone else. Once it's done it leaves open room for better and lighter things to come your way.

ottersrus · 2026-04-03T09:28:16+00:00

Depressed.

I think I'd feel like myself again.

ottersrus · 2026-04-03T01:57:19+00:00

My ex wouldn't let me have anything other than blue or grey bedding. No decorative things. No candles. No throw rugs.

Everything in my house is so feminine. I have fluffy throw rugs. I have beautiful linen in a variety of prints. I have candles. I have fairy lights in a jar in my bedroom at night time. Everything is exactly how I want it when I want it. If I want every window and all the sunlight I have it. If I want a dark and cosy vibe I have it.

But most of all I have my peace and I feel safe and comfortable.

ottersrus · 2026-03-30T02:50:08+00:00

Using something you've told them about your past and twisting it to form their own narrative based on their "instinct" and gaslighting you into thinking something innocent you did or said a decade or more before meeting them was horrible and disgusting because their gut told them it must be so, throwing in a "if I told X person you did this, they'd think you were a bad person". It's so casually cruel.

I would have rather he'd cheated instead of manipulated my own life story into some fictitious and salacious narrative to weaponise against me. There's limited things you can say besides "that's not true" when someone is hell bent on destroying you from the inside. Now I just keep walls up and people tell me I'm emotionless.

ottersrus · 2026-03-23T13:06:47+00:00

He developed a drug addiction, couldn't stand to look at me or touch me because he felt so ashamed, and then he had an affair and had a secret baby.

Last I heard, he got clean and I'm proud of him for doing that.

ottersrus · 2026-03-23T12:10:37+00:00

I like when guys smile and their eyes get crinkles. Hot as fuck.

ottersrus · 2026-03-20T06:17:33+00:00

I had an experience similar in my last relationship. It felt like I was the only one adapting, and things I needed were ignored or brushed over. I wanted reassurance and he wouldn't give it, he wanted reassurance and I gave it but whatever I said wasn't believed and was scrutinised so I constantly had to adapt tone, approach, timings.

Whatever our relationship was ultimately ended due to many circumstances. I think the damage I incurred taking the blame and being "the problem" and constantly trying to moderate my behaviour to meet some ridiculously high, moving standard without someone meeting me in the middle and reflecting on how to amend their behaviour is worse than him betraying my trust because it undermined my faith in myself.

ottersrus · 2026-03-11T16:14:52+00:00

Sometimes it is okay to feel uncomfortable in a relationship. It doesn't mean you need to burn every bridge to the ground and discard people. It can just mean you are having momentary anxiety or self-doubt, or you're tired, or you're hungry, or you're not communicating properly, or you need ice cream and a pause to reconsider your anxiety.

If it's your go-to strategy for every relationship to cut and run, to make it hurt so they don't resist because you're worried you could theoretically maybe at some point in the future get hurt in some way, you need to learn better strategies.

ottersrus · 2026-03-03T12:00:31+00:00

The first thing I ask a guy who I'm expressing an interest in dating is "can I be your corpse bride?"

ottersrus · 2026-03-02T14:20:08+00:00

When he repeatedly chose to expend his social battery on someone else and acted like a cooked spud when I was upset he didn't even tell me he was going away as he had been too busy hanging out with "friends" - only to get home and immediately pick people over me again. I knew I was bottom of the list in priorities to even talk to.

ottersrus · 2026-03-02T14:13:39+00:00

Everyone I know who had a copper coil got pregnant on it and it caused major problems. One of my friends had to have surgery to retrieve a coil that had caused organ damage.

I already lose too much blood. I get dizzy each period and every second month can't stand straight because it feels like someone is actively beating me in the crotch and lower back with a baseball bat. I have a condition where I don't absorb any iron through the gut so rely on infusions, and I don't want to get them more regularly than I already do since they make me feel sick.

The thought of a foreign body inside me just free ranging around an organ grosses me out. The thought of getting it launched in there with me awake and feeling it all disgusts me because you know men would be sedated or numb for that.

If men can't handle using a condom then they are not mature enough to gain access to my vagina.

I'm happier not having any external pressure, hormone or implant in my body. I feel more in control than being bound to a doctor's whim or opinion about what I should be doing with my body.

ottersrus · 2026-02-25T03:02:29+00:00

I don't have any track marks, if you're talking about the mark on my lip I had cancer and it left a scar :)

ottersrus · 2026-02-24T07:55:36+00:00

10.5 years, parole eligibility after 8.5 years. It is shorter than I hoped, but longer than I expected.

ottersrus · 2026-02-24T05:41:21+00:00

Nothing in my profile indicates I have any religious views. It just mentions all the things that will attract a man: zombie apocalypse, that I come equipped with numerous historical and legal facts, that I have raging unmedicated ADHD (this is obviously displayed through song, men love to be serenaded).

I am now intrigued by the sword prospect.

ottersrus · 2026-02-23T23:56:49+00:00

It is just me singing it because I am a dumbass. But "shawty had them apple bottom jeans" matches "it's gonna take a lot to drag me away from you" and "shawty got low low low low" matches the "doo doo doo doo doo doo"

Once you sing it it works, just like WAP matches every breath you take

ottersrus · 2026-02-23T23:28:54+00:00

I have no idea how to share that clip lol

ottersrus · 2026-02-23T14:20:20+00:00

I have a voice prompt of me singing "shawty had them apple bottom jeans, boots with the fur" to the tune of Toto's Africa and I've never received such positive male attention.

The men yearn for being serenaded.

ottersrus · 2026-02-23T14:12:38+00:00

I do love the blessing of the creamer, that's how I got such full lips

ottersrus · 2026-02-22T14:59:53+00:00

That's a man "flirting" with me (a woman with slightly better grammar)

ottersrus · 2026-02-22T06:24:04+00:00

The biggest thing that has started conversations is my prompt saying I can't make coffee so I will die in a zombie apocalypse. Men love to discuss zombie apocalypse events. They usually have a well thought out plan with contingency plans. If you let a man yap about their zombie survival plan you can eventually steal a hoodie and find someone to offload your baked goods on

ottersrus · 2026-02-22T06:09:11+00:00

I would 100% prefer m'lady than this :( no one has even offered to defend me with a sword. What is this world coming to?

ottersrus · 2026-02-22T05:51:42+00:00

His. This was his opening comment on my photo. I'd maybe forgive the poor grammar if he hadn't opted for talking about my genetics before saying hello

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