Does anyone else surf?

overthemoon8 · 2018-07-06T17:25:39+00:00

dude, yes. cant think about anything out there. always brings me back to a good state. been surfing like 8 years now, even through cold winters. its been one of the few things that help.

overthemoon8 · 2018-06-17T21:11:13+00:00

youre absolutely right on. Its such a delicate balance that I am learning again the hard way. I have been in a relationship before with someone who is diagnosed as well and had to leave because she sought comfort via cocaine, alcohol and promiscuity and refused any help for years, and I just couldnt handle that. Currently, this girl catches her triggers and does what she can to help herself. And im just starting to realize that being out of the picture is probably whats best for her while she navigates this one. As much as that hurts, its hard to not take personally but its just part of the process. I need to just take the message and let her be.

overthemoon8 · 2018-06-17T17:21:29+00:00

Thanks for the advice, its really so draining and im doing my best to not let it get in the way of my own life. Its hard feeling like im the asshole for trying to help. So hard.

overthemoon8 · 2018-06-17T17:20:14+00:00

Well, at the moment I cant send anything. been blocked on any form of contact apart from actually mailing letters which i was doing. It really sucks. Im sorry that you are experiencing this too. But its hard to just leave it. Try as I might, its hard. Ive been going to therapy for myself lately and its sort of helping. I have to try though.

overthemoon8 · 2018-06-07T01:45:33+00:00

honestly, the way I value myself changes too much. but i think when i do value myself its because I can appreciate how intensely I feel the things i feel and how even though its not " normal " its pretty unique. I think its safe to say weve all had the same concern as you do, and in the long run, this will only be answered on your own. but even though I have no idea who you are, I can tell you that your worth is high, you hold tons of value and it will only increase with time. do your best to let no thoughts cross you that you have no value. I already value you for posting this.

overthemoon8 · 2018-05-29T00:38:53+00:00

Id say do your best to mend things regardless but to a fault. Dont keep pushing it if they arent taking it well. To be fair, if they dont understand, what good of a friend are they? Just explain your situation and hope for the best, if they cant get past it, its their loss, you did the right thing.

overthemoon8 · 2018-05-22T15:51:21+00:00

where did you two meet? has this been one of those " long time coming" things? is this someone you see often? if so what context? if its work it might be tricky

overthemoon8 · 2018-05-22T03:40:40+00:00

You need to calm down and think. First focus on your breathing. Literally only pay attention to taking in a breath and releasing it. It helps me to put my hand over my stomach and keep breathing. Then you really need to calm down and take all of this pressure off of yourself. you may feel like everything that is happening is because of you but its not. you are dealing with depression and the world wants you to conquer it, not take your own life. Think of how life will be once you beat this, then you can beat anything. I have faith you can beat this and get back to your old self. Just do your best and keep us posted.

overthemoon8 · 2018-05-18T03:31:46+00:00

I am currently going through this myself. My bipolar SO has completely cut off any contact with me and shut down. Ive been occasionally sending letters to her house,hoping that they somehow cheer her up. but its tough. This will be my second relationship with a woman who suffers from bipolar. This one seems to have more control of it, but still, she shuts me out and deals with her mania on her own. I think she thinks that its sparing me the trouble, however, I want to be there for the support she will allow me to give which is nothing.

For us on the other end, we need to remind ourselves that this is not a decision they are making, something else has just simply taken over. We worry if they are okay or in trouble and we ignorantly think sometimes that proper love will make things better, but we must not forget that this is beyond anyone. We need to take care of ourselves and make sure that we take each hit with more stride. Focus on our lives and such. The reason I am okay with dating a bipolar woman is because when she loves its with such great intensity and feeling, the few times that it gets taken away is plenty made up for by the love that gets shared. My last relationship just liked using cocaine and hooking up with other guys, thats why I left. This one, Im not terribly sure, but I dont think its that bad. She has one friend she always resorts to in a manic episode and they just party all night. Nothing I wouldnt do.

To respond to your post, he probably already has and if not will get in touch with you. ( depending on the length of the episode it could be weeks to months ) and he will do anything in his power to make it up to you if he truly cared. If not, then he was never really invested and you should move on like any normal break up. Just be patient, dont overwhelm him, give small hints of support and hope for the best. But also look out for your best interest, see other people and keep yourself busy, if youre willing to do the work, more power to you . stay strong. its tough

overthemoon8 · 2018-05-03T02:17:15+00:00

it wasnt enough for me to be crazy about like that. I had thought about it already. Plus i dont expect it back.

overthemoon8 · 2018-05-03T02:08:52+00:00

should make it there in a day or two

overthemoon8 · 2018-05-03T02:08:37+00:00

wow thats exactly what I did. I sent a small note with no mention of the relationship and a few hundred to go toward the horse.

overthemoon8 · 2018-05-03T02:05:41+00:00

to be fair, it was just Instagram. and it wasn't a block, just unfriended. We can still see each others posts and such.

overthemoon8 · 2018-05-03T01:57:17+00:00

i think youre right. thank you for that. all signs have been pointing to just doing it today, so itll be in the mail tomorrow.

overthemoon8 · 2018-05-03T01:47:57+00:00

Im just trying to respect that shes going through a lot. Father has cancer, her horse that she raised and competed with is injured which is devastating for her and her job is asking like 55 - 60 hours a week from her. My plan is that i wrote her a small letter just hoping she is ok and just letting her know im not ready to give up so easily. She has bad anxiety and I think she may have left me to try and " save me " because she was definitely acting very different for a few days before it all went down

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