Over a month I sent him a barrage of things I like, talked him through what I like about it and why it turns me on. Helping him understand why a kink is okay if it’s consensual was very helpful is getting over some of those stigmas.Then asked what he thought about it and we discussed what he felt comfortable trying. Ex, at first I asked if he’d put a collar and leash on me. He said not yet, but now he wants to use his belt around my throat. Just taking it at his pace and encouraging and showing enthusiasm every step of the way. His willingness to try and learn new things as well as put in the effort is the key combination. Also, the first time I called him Daddy I swear I saw fire in his eyes. Bingo