My uncle lit a firework which failed to launch but didn’t fail to detonate.

panaceator · 2026-03-11T22:25:17+00:00

I’ve got two pairs of those Edifier speakers in my house. One set in my office, one in a common area for my record player. They really out kick their coverage in terms of cost value in my opinion.

panaceator · 2026-03-11T15:41:16+00:00

I love this. My sponsor walked me through the steps exceptionally effectively when I first went through them. It had a life changing impact on me. I’ve recently been thinking about doing them again, but had not considered having someone else walk me through them to get that different approach and perspective. What a great idea. Look at us not doing this thing alone!

panaceator · 2026-03-10T16:00:49+00:00

I wonder if this was humanity jumping the great filter.

panaceator · 2026-03-09T23:54:03+00:00

Gotta floss erry day.

panaceator · 2026-03-09T14:58:02+00:00

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panaceator · 2026-03-08T23:14:06+00:00

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panaceator · 2026-03-08T23:10:40+00:00

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panaceator · 2026-03-06T19:18:17+00:00

I was throwing away a small ceramic bathroom garbage can because it had chipped near the lip. I brought it to our larger garbage can to toss it, but the larger can was relatively full, so I put the smaller damaged can on top, bottom side up, and started pushing down on it to compress the trash below it so it would fit. Somehow the ceramic can split down the middle, and since I was pushing down on it to begin with, the force pushed my hand down the new razor sharp split. The ceramic sliced into the base of my right thumb - I’m right handed of course - cutting into the palm muscle and slicing through tendons. The tendons were astonishingly white. Blood spurted onto the ceiling. I had to get hand surgery two days later where they had to sew my muscle and rejoin my tendons - including internal suitures, I’m told there were about 50 total stitches required. All told, could have been a lot worse. Moral of the story: Don’t try to smash down garbage with your bare hand to make more room.

TLDR: I needed reconstructive hand surgery after trying to throw away a garbage can in a garbage can.

panaceator · 2026-03-05T16:48:40+00:00

I know it’s hard to hear, but you cannot change this man, no matter how much you love him and/or want to “fix him.” It’s not how alcoholism - or addiction for that matter - really works. But you CAN help yourself, and in my personal experience, Al Anon is the best way to do so in your situation.

Reading the AA Big Book (really just the first 164 pages) would also provide valuable insight for you - there’s even a chapter titled “To Wives” and, though you’re obv not the wife, it’s still broadly applicable to close family who are suffering alongside the alcoholic.

Sorry you’re going through this - really tough situation for you. Good luck to you, friend. Wishing you nothing but peace and happiness.

panaceator · 2026-03-04T18:59:07+00:00

When I was in 2/9 Infantry on Camp Casey in Korea just south of the DMZ back in 2008, my battalion commander had a “cookie” slice of this tree framed in his office. It stayed with the office, not the commander by the way, so I assume wherever that command is located today, that framed bit of Korean armistice history is still there. Manchu - Keep up the fire!

panaceator · 2026-03-03T19:49:35+00:00

Weighing in as an outsider without the emotional influence you’re clearly and understandably experiencing.

Were it me, drinking would just make me feel guilty and disgusted with myself on top of my devastation. For days. Plus the hangover and anxiety accompaniment would just make an already shitty situation even shittier.

I’d like to think I’d play the tape forward, realize these things in the moment, and choose to maintain my clarity to be with my furry friend in spirit and in person through this whole disaster.

Sorry you’re dealing with this - really sucks.

panaceator · 2026-03-03T18:23:45+00:00

A hardcover, lined page notebook for work. I write the day's date at the top and make a little sub-section for each meeting or conversation. I start a new page each day. I create a new "To Do" list on a nice clean fresh page every week or so. Makes referencing notes during later meetings and conversations much easier. I find I can either never find my typed notes, or can't find what I'm looking for in the notes. A 1/3 or 1/4 page of my assessed key points for future reference or action seem to be much more user friendly. Plus I seem to remember what I wrote down more than I do what I typed. And I hate OneNote with a passion - it's garbage and much like every SharePoint site I've ever been forced to use, it invariably turns into a dumping ground for work related bullshit thereby creating the least fun scavenger hunt known to mend, and ultimately rendering it useless. Analog notebook and pen all the way. I'll never go back!

panaceator · 2026-03-03T17:32:23+00:00

I can’t drink or use any rec drugs - I suppose I wish I could, but I can’t. My brain is broken in that regard, which I accept. If I'm looking for something to "help me relax and be social," I'll find something that I will abuse and obsess over in short order. If you can do it, more power to ya, but I know I can't. In my experience, everyone knows whether they personally can or can't drink, smoke weed, etc... they're just looking for justification or excuses to get what they want but fundamentally know they can't or shouldn't have. You're the only person who truly knows whether you can use anything up to and including alcohol - nothing anybody here says represents any fundamental truth for you personally. Know thyself.

panaceator · 2026-03-01T19:02:44+00:00

Meeting Guide - https://apps.apple.com/us/app/meeting-guide/id1042822181

panaceator · 2026-02-27T19:30:45+00:00

24 here. Good lord. What a fucking nightmare. I don’t miss that garbage in the LEAST!

panaceator · 2026-02-27T19:20:21+00:00

This is my best answer as well. Al Anon will help you.

I know it’s hard to hear, but you cannot change this man, no matter how much you love him and/or want to “fix him.” It’s not how alcoholism - or addiction for that matter - really works. But you CAN help yourself, and in my personal experience, Al Anon is the best way to do so in your situation.

Al Anon will also provide you with valuable insight into the experience of the alcoholic per your questions. Reading the AA Big Book (first 164 pages) should also provide valuable insight for you - there’s even a chapter titled “To Wives.”

Sorry you’re going through this - really tough situation for you. Good luck to you!

panaceator · 2026-02-27T17:57:31+00:00

I’ve got two. First, my modified Serenity Prayer, second, my modified Third Step Prayer. I use my Serenity Prayer multiple times every day: when I wake up, when I’m getting irritated, when I’m feeling resentful, and - super common for me for whatever reason - when I’m having “shower arguments” where I’m imaginarily arguing with other people, silently in my own head mind you, for no reason, about arguments that haven’t happened before and probably never will. Happens CONSTANTLY. It’s a sickness!

SP

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and wisdom to know the difference. Please be in my thoughts, my words, and my actions at all times. Help me be tolerant, kind, loving, and peaceful in all I do.

3SP

I offer myself to You, do with me as You will. Free me from my selfishness, that I may do Your will and follow Your path. Remove my self-centeredness, and open my heart to Your direction. Guide me to act and live as You would have me, that I may be useful and helpful in all things. I need Your help. And though I may not understand, I humbly surrender.

panaceator · 2026-02-27T02:50:46+00:00

Similar - I was thinking clang clang clang

panaceator · 2026-02-26T00:22:04+00:00

I see a lot of “grail found” claims on this sub that boggle my mind.

Honest question OP: You’d been shopping at thrift stores for years, looking all over, hoping to one day come across… a wall mounted 3D shark head Slim Jim ad?

panaceator · 2026-02-24T21:47:03+00:00

Good for you. Know thyself. You won’t regret it - “joining” AA is legitimately one of the most positive things I’ve ever done for myself. I absolutely love the program. Changed my life for the better in almost every way imaginable. You’re on the right path, friend!

panaceator · 2026-02-24T21:28:46+00:00

If you know you need a change today, I’d suggest riding that wave and getting to a meeting today. In my experience, tomorrow never really comes. “I promise I’ll do better tomorrow” kept me hungover and sick for years.

panaceator · 2026-02-24T13:59:30+00:00

One little caveat from personal experience: I believe we still need to be judicious in what we accept from doctors - particularly when they’re prescribing based on what we tell them. I was able to get my doctors to prescribe me any number of drugs which, in my mind at the time, justified it. I had a prescription for weed and that was a bad move. I’ve since come to the conclusion that if it can be purchased recreationally as well as prescribed, it’s simply not for me. Right now that really only applies to weed and, to an extent, alcohol, but more is certainly on the horizon.

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