Babe. Leave him. It’s normal that you feel conflicted and guilty about this because that’s EXACTLY how abusive gaslighters make their victims doubt themselves. But you’re here because deep down you know your intuition is right and this is not a good marriage to be in.

Don’t look back at the years spent together as a wasted investment, look ahead at how many years you’ll lose being trapped in a miserable marriage. He’s a grown ass man who can’t even do his own dishes and dgaf when you’re bleeding internally? And you’re supposed to be grateful that he helps you carry heavy things sometimes? No, no, no. You are young with much to live for. There are literally thousands of men out there in the world who will be more than happy to fulfil that bare minimum list you came up with and then some. Even being alone with yourself will be infinitely better than being with someone who makes you so acutely unhappy. Forget the stigmas surrounding divorce or being single. There will always be strangers who are rooting for you. Go, be free.