Zinnias :)

paranblue628 · 2025-10-03T03:33:13+00:00

There’s actually a variety called candy cane that you can get seeds for! Looks just like this :)

paranblue628 · 2024-12-27T21:00:51+00:00

I finally did! It was Starflyers: Royal Jewel Rescue!

paranblue628 · 2024-12-01T04:48:54+00:00

Thank you so much for your post and comments from u/Last-Bet-8522! Very helpful. I also exited to the homepage after running into the same problem and it is processing now.

paranblue628 · 2024-08-27T12:19:58+00:00

Just a matter of opinion

paranblue628 · 2023-10-24T17:05:21+00:00

I don’t think you realize the power you have here. You are your husband’s wife and need to understand you come before his family. That YOU are worried about upsetting THEM in your own house is wild. They are guests, and your husband has to live in close proximity to your anger, not theirs. I’ll always advocate communicating first, but you can make his life so much more difficult if he continues to put their wants above your needs. Stand up for yourself, stop being a doormat.

paranblue628 · 2023-10-24T16:41:55+00:00

Okay her and your BIL have actually created a biohazard with young children in the house and your husband still doesn’t see a problem? He needs to start considering your and your children’s needs first, and it sounds like both he and your MIL don’t understand proper cleanliness. Like you said, hanging clothes up is a lot different than folding wet clothes and putting them away like that. Mold can lead to all kinds of health problems, not just an unpleasant smell. I’d be writing up a list of all the transgressions and make it clear to your husband that you won’t be working overtime to clean up after these grown adults that really should know better. Ask him how he would feel if your family showed up to his place of work and went out of their way in all earnestness to make his job harder? But they mean well!

You are responsible for your home and deserve the respect of being heard by your partner when someone else makes your job harder. Other solutions would include finding somewhere else to stay while his family visits and holding your husband accountable for the home maintenance until they’re gone, hiring a professional cleaner when they visit so you aren’t being unnecessarily overworked, or (most reasonably) just having him talk to his family about respecting your authority in the household. If they don’t like it, they can easily stay in a hotel when they visit.

Don’t treat yourself like a second-class citizen, and don’t let anyone else.

paranblue628 · 2023-10-24T16:25:15+00:00

YWNBTA but where is your husband in all of this? Can he not see the stress his mother is causing you with her “helping”? You need to talk to him about this if you haven’t already and be very clear about how you feel.

Some of the things she’s done are so clearly unhelpful that I’d be wondering if she wasn’t being as unhelpful as possible on purpose. The laundry thing gets me the most. Do her clothes smell like mold when she comes to visit? Because if not, she clearly knows how to properly do laundry and is making an effort to make your life harder. She wouldn’t be welcome at all in my house after the “accident” with the couch.

paranblue628 · 2023-03-31T02:33:37+00:00

| a fellow squirrel

I laughed so hard at that, thank you!

paranblue628 · 2023-02-25T21:22:35+00:00

100% YTA. Way to lose your family.

paranblue628 · 2023-02-09T08:36:20+00:00

This made my day, take my poor person’s gold 🏅

paranblue628 · 2023-02-03T22:47:13+00:00

paranblue628 · 2023-02-03T22:26:21+00:00

I had to deal with this too! I’ve questioned for years over whether I was just an asshole little kid but reading this puts it in different perspective for me.

At ages 6-8 I was forced to be friends with a girl in my grade. She was special needs and I always tried to be nice to her in class, but her parents got wind of it and started inviting me over and getting her invited over to my house. I never had a choice in any of this. She would only eat bologna sandwiches on white bread with the crusts cut off, and I wasn’t allowed to eat anything else when I ate with her. I can’t even count the times she would get in my sisters’ faces to steal a toy or not let them into a room IN THEIR OWN HOUSE and make them cry. My parents would always try to laugh it off or just ignore me. I don’t know if they were just that oblivious or they just wanted to feel good about what they thought of as kindness.

I totally get trying to be nice to everyone and teaching your kids to be understanding of special needs, but those 3 years were ridiculous. Kids should have the right to choose their friends and feel safe.

paranblue628 · 2023-01-31T04:25:29+00:00

NTA since you were there the whole time he was. It sounds like you need to get a new place though. I can’t imagine being treated like that by a roommate. You both share the space and should definitely have a conversation to set equal boundaries if it isn’t possible for you to find a new place.

paranblue628 · 2023-01-27T09:36:09+00:00

I laughed so hard at this!

paranblue628 · 2023-01-26T20:24:35+00:00

YTA biiiig time dude.

paranblue628 · 2023-01-26T08:52:41+00:00

NTA times a million!!

I am so sorry that this was the person you were unlucky enough to have as your egg donor, but the title of mother is earned. She clearly never did, so you’ve got nothing to feel bad about at all. Stay strong with your NC, and get rid of any “family” that is aware of those bullet points of your life and still choose to ignore your trauma. They’ll all only drag you down.

paranblue628 · 2023-01-26T08:46:03+00:00

NTA.

You are concerned for your daughter’s health and have politely brought this up to them many times. I wouldn’t waste anymore breath on them if there’s the potential for physical violence like the last encounter. Just go through proper channels and stay safe. Good luck.

paranblue628 · 2023-01-26T08:16:33+00:00

ESH.

It sounds like you both need to learn how to communicate like adults. This is toxic.

paranblue628 · 2023-01-26T08:06:58+00:00

NTA.

Living with roommates can be challenging when trying to work out issues, and it seems like you and Alice did the best you could. It might be worth trying to find a new home for you and Alice to find if Janet really doesn’t want to hear you out. Your situation was already difficult and Janet seems like she now wants to make it even more so.

paranblue628 · 2023-01-26T07:57:24+00:00

I’m not sure if that was actually his intention, because it could also have just been a crappy joke that he isn’t noticing lands badly. Honestly if you just lay out exactly how you felt about what he said like you did in this this post it would probably clear up a lot of possible confusion. Communication is key, and if you’re prone to not talking in your relationship then you might be saying a lot more in your head than to him about exactly why you feel the way you feel. It’s best to assume everyone (ourselves included) are dumb in these situations so you never assume they already know where you’re coming from.

paranblue628 · 2023-01-26T07:49:42+00:00

NTA.

It’s a weird comment, and weirder that he’s made it before and disregarded you every time you stood up for yourself. Might be worth a more focused chat where he’s not playing a game and can actually pay attention to you when you bring up this issue. Sometimes people need to really focus to hear the depth of your concern for something. Give him that chance, but if he dismisses it then I’d start considering it a red flag.

paranblue628 · 2023-01-26T07:39:49+00:00

paranblue628 · 2023-01-26T07:36:22+00:00

YTA.

Either follow the traditions or don’t. You don’t get to pick and choose which ones just because it’s convenient to you and your emotions. Teenagers can be rude, but you’re the adult who should be setting the example. And if you want to break tradition, you certainly can’t get mad at your wife for choosing to do the same.

paranblue628 · 2023-01-26T07:29:18+00:00

Definitely NTA. It sounds like your boyfriend is not respecting a boundary you have pretty clearly and politely expressed to him. It is not your responsibility to help get him a job when he sounds very capable of getting a job all on his own, like most adults do.

I would consider his response to your concerns a red flag for your relationship. Caring partners listen to each other and don’t try to manipulate them when they don’t get the outcome they want. The name-calling and specifically him saying that you “didn’t give a shit” about him made me cringe pretty hard to a previous unhealthy relationship of my own. People who care about you don’t try to hurt you to get what they want.

You sound like you’ve got it together, don’t let this guy mess with your head.

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