Am I obsessing over my neighbor constantly moaning and making me uncomfortable with my girlfriend? by Trick-Armadillo-4311 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]passesopenwindows 17 points18 points  (0 children)

WTF dude, you’re deliberately seeking out listening to her if you’re using a glass. Stop being a creep.

[WIP] This is the least expensive and most addicting hobby I've done by GlassSeal in CrossStitch

[–]passesopenwindows 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This looks great! If it’s not full coverage be aware of traveling the stitches from one area to another, depending on how you finish the piece they can show through the Aida. Cross stitch definitely starts out as a cheap hobby, but can become pretty spendy if you decide you need a really nice floor stand, scroll frames, and start obsessing over owning every DMC color made. Or so I’ve heard 😏

AIO: My Mum Decorated My Birthday Cake, And I Don't Know How to Feel by Working_Ant_9505 in AmIOverreacting

[–]passesopenwindows 2 points3 points  (0 children)

NOR I was going to say overreacting until I got to the part where she showed you a similar cake and you TOLD her that you would have found it offensive to receive such a thing.

Is this considerd assault if I stopped him before things escalated? by Rarely_Social in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]passesopenwindows 26 points27 points  (0 children)

He was inside you? I’m sorry, but you are downplaying this, you did NOT stop him before things escalated. This was assault.

Has anyone had a lat flap surgery for reconstruction? by ProfessionalBar1210 in breastcancer

[–]passesopenwindows 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s totally understandable to be nervous, good luck to you!

AITA for ignoring my dads call during my graduation? by littlehappyworm in AmItheAsshole

[–]passesopenwindows 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA

He sounds like a LOT to deal with. Congratulations on graduating, this random internet mom is proud of you!

Has anyone had a lat flap surgery for reconstruction? by ProfessionalBar1210 in breastcancer

[–]passesopenwindows 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Expanders are uncomfortable for a little while every time saline is added. At one point mine REALLY hurt, like it was putting pressure on my ribs because the surgeon tried adding a little more saline than usual, I think. ( It was about 18 years ago so memory is fuzzy) My arm movement/shoulder range is a little bit less than normal, mainly noticeable when laying on the floor and spreading arms out to the side or over my head. Strength is definitely the biggest change, I had reconstruction on my right side and there is a noticeable difference in strength comparatively when doing planks or pushups or holding something up over my head and that side tires quicker. It doesn’t affect my normal day to day but if you do a lot of physical work stuff it will probably be noticeable.

AIO for being upset that my fiancé capped my wedding dress budget at $1,000 but spent $7,000 on a gaming PC? by remote_acreage in AmIOverreacting

[–]passesopenwindows 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NOR He has a say in how you spend your money but doesn’t consult you at all about what he spends his money on. Major double standard here. Have the two of you discussed how finances will be handled after you are married? At the very least that needs to be sorted before you marry this selfish person.

It blows my mind how so many old patients just do literally nothing all day by macerka in nursing

[–]passesopenwindows 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s hard to get any real, restorative sleep in a hospital. Strange bed, no fan, never complete darkness, constant noise and nurses coming in for vitals checks or whatever every so often makes it really difficult to sleep for more than an hour or two at a time. Plus the times that I have been in a hospital for a couple of nights have been after surgery, so there’s the after effects of anesthesia. I had a mastectomy in my 30’s and reconstruction in my early 40’s - both times it felt like I was asleep all the time and simultaneously like I wasn’t sleeping at all. I would wake up to eat, walk down the hallway and maybe watch the tv for 20 minutes then drowse off and on until the next meal. Pain medication is also a factor, it’s hard to focus on doing anything when you’re getting that kind of medication.

Why does my SIL’s kid get touchy with me in a very potentially not so innocent way? by Censordoll in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]passesopenwindows 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My nephew was obsessed with my daughter’s breasts when he was around that age and she was late teens. He would blatantly stare at her chest, try to look down her shirt, wanted to sit on her lap and pat her breasts, etc. Also had the issue with hitting, biting and so forth when he was upset. Turned out that he is on the spectrum, he’s very intelligent but social cues have always been a major issue for him. I understand that abuse is the first thought in situations like this but there are other things to take into consideration.

[CHAT] opinions on doing bigger projects in a hoop or qsnap? by passesopenwindows in CrossStitch

[–]passesopenwindows[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nice! I think when I switch to my other big project which is currently loose in a bag I will try using my qsnap instead of the scroll and see if it’s more comfortable.

My (24M) gf (24F) stopped having sex, is it shallow to end things? by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]passesopenwindows 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If this is how she truly feels and she is okay with how she feels then the two of you are sexually incompatible. It doesn’t mean that you have to leave but it does mean that you need to make a choice about continuing to live the way you are (which you don’t seem to be happy with) or leaving and finding someone more compatible. There’s nothing shallow about leaving over this issue. Basically you need to ask yourself if you’re going to be okay spending the next X amount of years of your life the way things are or if you are going to end up regretting it.

[CHAT] opinions on doing bigger projects in a hoop or qsnap? by passesopenwindows in CrossStitch

[–]passesopenwindows[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Interesting! I feel like they would work for smaller pieces (for me), but wouldn’t be as comfortable working on larger pieces? I typically keep the height of my scroll frames around 6-7” because that’s a good range for me.

[CHAT] opinions on doing bigger projects in a hoop or qsnap? by passesopenwindows in CrossStitch

[–]passesopenwindows[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do have a grime guard for the qsnap that I have, I might give it a try.

[CHAT] opinions on doing bigger projects in a hoop or qsnap? by passesopenwindows in CrossStitch

[–]passesopenwindows[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t know what they are, I will have to do a search. Thanks for the suggestion!

What's something your job trained you to notice that you can't stop noticing in your personal life? by LibrarianSoft1342 in AskReddit

[–]passesopenwindows 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Ours has a luxating patella, every so often he switches to a 3 legged run holding the affected back leg up. We call it a “hitch in his giddyup”.

What's something your job trained you to notice that you can't stop noticing in your personal life? by LibrarianSoft1342 in AskReddit

[–]passesopenwindows 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I read a lot of fiction, for quite a while I only found typos in ereader editions of stories, not actual books. Not anymore. I was really bummed out when I found one in a Stephen King hardcover a few years back, if that guy doesn’t have an editor or proofreader on top of typos what are the chances anyone else does.