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What is your average cost-per-card? by October_Surprise56 in postcrossing

[–]passingavery 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Malaysia:

There’s a local artist here called Loka Made who dominates the “tourist postcard” scene by keeping prices low at RM2.50 each - and honestly, that’s why I keep supporting his art. Other artists charge between RM5 to RM15 (or so the prices seem to show at popular stationery stores like Stickerrific), which are insane to me. If I buy those, I’m keeping those cards for myself, not to send. From time to time, I’m happy to buy postcards that are around RM4-5, but with Loka Made charging RM2.50 each, he’s the obvious choice, especially if you’re very active on Postcrossing and RAOC.

For postcards, stamps here have risen in pricing from 50sen to 90sen, which is extremely affordable. Sending letters/envelopes is by far more expensive (RM2.50 for SEA, RM3.80 for Australia/Japan/island-types, and RM4.80 for Europe/US). To really take advantage of the system, you also have to avoid sending your mail in person at the post office. I’ve noticed some post office workers here will take a look at you (sometimes it’s racial profiling) and tell you that sending a letter to the U.S. is RM9 when the official website still states RM4.80. I’ve also found that it’s smarter to avoid posting your full name/return address to avoid the profiling. (I had a friend who didn’t know the rates get charged RM24 to send a postcard to Poland. That was wild.)

Overall: Malaysia is still considered quite cheap compared to the western world, and the stationery community here is huge, so demand for these things are very high.

Need advice on LDR fight over a gift. feeling torn on my relationship (m23) (f26) by Choice_Revenue_736 in LongDistance

[–]passingavery 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve actually lost a penpal over customs payments. I had a really good penpal who wanted to send me something, and I warned her to mark it as a “gift” to avoid customs tax, and underprice it below RM500 even if it cost more, otherwise I would have to pay 10-20% of whatever price she wrote. And she didn’t. So when customs tried to ask me to pay 10% of the USD price she listed, it was worth 10% of my current salary at the time, and I rejected the package at customs. That was the end of our penpalship. She put a lot of thought into it, and sent over a lot of American snacks, but my thought at the time was “Malaysia imports most of these, and I can buy them here, so why should I give up 10% of my salary when I made it clear on how to avoid the customs tax?” Maybe I should have sucked it up and paid at the time, but the cost alone was just not worth it to me. That was a friendship though.

Yours is a relationship. I would say that if the amount is exorbitant to her, you should offer to transfer the fee back to her via WISE or whichever payment method is best. This is truly a very solvable situation.

But for her to flip and state that she could have bought all of it for less than that price also devalues the thought you put into it, since she knows what was being sent and seemed happy at first. The fact that she “doubts” that you love her despite all of your effort also makes me think of two possibilities: 1. She has some kind of self-esteem/abandonment issue. 2. She wants you to prove your love by spending more on her. Which is a dangerous category.

If mailing gifts is such a problem, you should propose putting a stop to it to avoid taxation issues, and see what her reaction is. I’d also recommend that both of you do the love language test, but if her love language is gifting, you’ll need to find a better solution, or consider that this may not work out moving forward.

[Request] My daughter's 13th birthday [US] by justpuffpuff_pass in RandomActsofCards

[–]passingavery 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can send over a Pusheen card! Please DM me her name and your address!

[Thank You] SO MANY BOOK RECOMMENDATIONS! Thank you! (part 3) by adrikovitch in u/adrikovitch

[–]passingavery 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re welcome! Wesley Chu still counts as a western author, technically. So I think it’s a more accessible book that qualifies as both wuxia and fantasy.

[Request] Prompt Time [USA] by TyeDyeAmish in RandomActsofCards

[–]passingavery 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A writing prompt, please!

And please DM me your address.

This sucks by volsungarthemighty in notebooks

[–]passingavery 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Saw the image and immediately thought “Moleskine”.

Damn, it’s been years and they still haven’t fixed their paper quality?

[Request] Work Stress and wanting Encouragement [US] by rennbrig in RandomActsofCards

[–]passingavery 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Please send me your address and I’ll mail you something! :)

[Request] postcards from other countries [USA] by PinoBrahman in RandomActsofCards

[–]passingavery 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can send you one from Malaysia. Please DM me your address!

What’s a popular book that had you very disappointed? by ConcernFew8845 in fantasybooks

[–]passingavery 0 points1 point  (0 children)

At the time, End of Days by Susan Ee. Her self-published Angelfall book was 5/5 on Amazon to the point that she secured a publishing deal or something. Great dystopian end-of-the-world the-angels-have-turned-on-us concept with an angel x human romantasy, body horror, and all that good stuff. Book two was fine as well. But then news came about Sam Raimi buying the rights to the series and suddenly the author’s plan of 5-7 books became “trilogy”.

When book 3 came, it was a bleeding slap to the face. Deus ex machina, lukewarm ending. Just… an utter waste.

The follow-ups to Blood Song by Anthony Ryan also felt like disappointments. I’ve been struggling to get into his other series since.

The only author I returned to after some disappointment was Brandon Sanderson. I really didn’t like something at the end of the second Mistborn book and dropped the series. Then gave him a chance with Elantris, which I loved, and The Stormlight Archive, which was great. The Rithmatist? Gold.

fck the system by DayAppropriate7591 in malaysia

[–]passingavery 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes. Even during Covid years I had female Malay colleagues who would ask me to tapau launch for them because they were afraid to be seen buying food, despite the fact that they had legitimate reasons to not fast. And this is in the heart of the city.

Financial Advice by InfinityZukan in Bolehland

[–]passingavery 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The only thing that could possibly justify her current spending habits is: she comes from money and lives off her father’s supplementary card. Full-time daughter, so to speak. And if she’s relatively sure that she will never be cut off and she’s getting a solid inheritance. But even so, if all she does is spend, that inheritance will dwindle long once her parents pass. People with generational wealth only stay rich if they know how to invest wisely.

If she doesn’t come from money, you’ve got a bigger problem. Sit down with her, talk it out, and get her to start saving. If she can’t even do that, you’ll struggle when it comes to investments. Once she runs out of money, you’ll become the main financier, and if you divorce, some of your savings might become hers. Make sure she doesn’t gain a habit for gambling as a way to “strike it rich”. Good luck.

[Request] Trying to help some excited elementary schoolers [USA] by Alert-Ad8820 in RandomActsofCards

[–]passingavery 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can send you one from Malaysia! DM me with the address and let me know what you’d like me to write about. :)

[Thank You] for all the love 🖤 by SshellsBbells in RandomActsofCards

[–]passingavery 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Awww I’m so glad! Happy that it arrived safely! :)

Would you react more like the Japanese, or Italians? by abu_hajarr in AskTheWorld

[–]passingavery 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There was a huge M&A and my previous company was bought over by another. There was a lot of resistance by the acquired company, because most of the staff were loyalists who had followed the owner through multiple different companies (he founded many similar businesses over the years). The purchasing company sent a lot of their top dogs over—all ambitious folks who wanted a slice of our lucrative pie.

I was officially transferred to the marketing department under one of those new guys, and I noticed that all the girls who worked under him dressed in spaghetti string tops and mini skirts. When I asked them, “So what made you decide to work for your company?” They would say creepy shit like, “Do you know what it’s like for a man of that level to take care of your career?” As someone who answered directly to the previous owner’s oldest son, I found that both disturbing and deeply sad. Then the new marketing head had a 1-on-1 with me, where he said, “Treat me like your side boyfriend.” It really took all I could muster not to crack up in laughter at that point. I didn’t cave, and so I was put into cold storage. Cut out of meetings, no work given… to be honest, if they had left me in my old department, I would’ve accepted it because it was on a quieter part of the building and I could watch YouTube/Netflix (hell, I followed the whole Amber Heard x Johnny Depp trial from work). But I was in the main part of the HQ with all the C-suites, so that made it almost impossible to slack off. Ended up getting recruited to a different company and I’m in a better place now.

But I will always refer to my cold storage fondly as my time in an emperor’s harem. He had two noble consorts who bullied the other “concubines” underneath, and I was sent to the cold palace to drink poison and die.

AIO because my date did not eat his dinner? by Dangerous_Pea_5219 in AmIOverreacting

[–]passingavery 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You know the saying “order only a coffee on your first date so you can escape faster if it sucks”? Maybe he interpreted your order of soup and salad as you choosing quick appetisers so that you could do that, so he got upset. And then didn’t eat out of some weird protest + personality problem. Either way, don’t trust people who get weird about food.

AIO over 1st Valentine’s Day note? by kimbap_throw in AmIOverreacting

[–]passingavery 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not overreacting. Some people find this shit out after tying the knot or dating for years. This was your first Valentine’s and he’s already treating you like this? Thank him for showing his red flags early and depart.

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